Why I Walked Out on Tony Robbins
Last updated on May 13, 2019
After paying $2,000 for a ticket to Unleash the Power Within…
After the 3-hour flight out to California…
After fully committing, with a completely open heart…
I walked out of Tony Robbins' seminar.
In this post, I will share why I went to Tony's event, what it was like, and why I walked out. I will also show you what I did after I left, and what I learned from the whole experience.
If you're skeptical of friends who say, "You have to go see Tony Robbins..."
If you're on the fence about Unleash the Power Within ($2,000) or Date with Destiny ($5,000)...
This article is for you.
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"But doesn't everyone LOVE Tony Robbins' events? Are you just a hater?"
I know the diehard fans -- the self-proclaimed Cult of Robbins who "drink the Kool Aid" -- are already having doubts about this article.
"This guy wasn't truly committed. He didn't do the work, because he was afraid. Now he just wants to act like he's more enlightened than everyone else."
None of that is true.
Here's what you should know about me…
I have a ton of respect for Tony Robbins. I've read (or listened to) several of his books. I'm amazed by what he does (I recently shared how he gets 1 million visitors per month), and wanted to experience his coaching in person. A lot of my friends are big TR fans, and they all gave strong endorsements for UPW.
I'm not "better than you" for walking out. I'm not writing this because I'm a sophisticated aristocrat who turns his nose up at self-help groups. At many points in my life, I've been a total mess. I've written about depression and addiction. I wrote about the most embarrassing and painful period of my life (then I published a book about it).
I put in the work. I've had a ton of failures, and a few huge successes, because I'm constantly trying new things. Like how I built an 8-figure business. Or how I intentionally gained 40 pounds in 2015, then got into the best shape of my life in 2016. It wasn't easy to eat so much food, or to go to the gym every week, but I put in the effort to reach my goals. (You can read more about my goals in 2015).
I've read hundreds of books and taken action, because I am 100% in on improving myself. (Here are 18 books that changed my life). I've also publicly documented my self-improvement journey for the last 15 YEARS. If that's not "doing the homework," I don't know what is.
I've attended a lot of paid seminars before, and loved them. A few events that changed my life were Gayle Hendricks' Big Leap event and David Deida's workshop. Both were three days long, 5–8 hours per day. I didn't even consider walking out of either. I've even hosted my own seminars! Last September, my company AppSumo hosted our second annual conference, with over 200 attendees. I'm astonished Tony hosts events for 10,000 people at a time.
SumoCon 2016
This article isn't "fear driven." I committed to the event for seven hours. The only thing I was afraid of was wasting more time. Besides, I believe in helping people overcome their biggest fears -- like talking to strangers, or starting a company. Here's a speech I gave about overcoming fear:
Finally, Tony Robbins is one of my customers. In addition to Appsumo, I run a sister company called Sumo. Tony's team uses our products. Do you really think I'm dumb enough to bash one of my highest profile customers? Hell no. This article is written with love.
In other words…
I'm not hating on Tony Robbins, or people who love his events.
I'm just defending a viewpoint few people ever bring up in public: the negative experience.
Most people are hesitant to talk about experiences that make us sound foolish. We diminish our losses, we downplay the bad stuff -- especially if it goes against the crowd.
Think of Vegas.
Hardly anyone says, "I lost $2,000. It was a waste of time and money."
We always say, "It was fun! Almost broke-even. Hashtag WORTH IT."
For me, UPW wasn't worth it.
My Experience at "Unleash The Power Within"
In the days that lead up to the event, I felt nervous. The discomfort was reassuring.
I'm going in the right direction.
The two areas of my life I most wanted to tackle during the event were:
- How to better position myself to be in great relationships.
- How to create a work environment that continually motivates and excites me.
Before the seminar began, I had a chance to talk with my neighbors. One was a recovering Jehovah's witness. The other was transitioning jobs in Los Angeles. We had a nice discussion about why we were there, what our struggles were, and what we hoped to get out of the seminar.
Then, Tony came out on stage.
Tony's presentation skills were incredible. The guy has been doing this for 30 years, so I expected him to be good. He was great.
Some of the things Tony did really well:
- He encouraged us to meet our neighbors and keep each other excited.
- He kept participation super high. He continually asked everyone to raise their hand and say "I" if they agreed. He also let the audience finish a lot of his sentences ("The truth will set you ____").
- He challenged us: "I'll deliver but you have to promise to commit. If you sit down during the dancing, then you aren't committed, and you aren't going to get what you came for. Play full out with me."
- He repeated things over and over to drive points home and increase retention. He also backed up his claims with statistics.
- He told great stories and incorporated a lot of humor.
Of course, there were some things he did NOT do so well…
- At times, he was all over the place. "Let's work on what you're afraid of… Now let's talk about how to get anything you want… Focus, mean it, do it!"
- There was conflict of interest. There's a day where we talk about health and nutrition... and then he sells supplements. Tony also mentions his other events, and encourages you to sign up for more seminars during the middle of UPW.
- He name-dropped and bragged constantly. Credibility markers are essential for a presenter to be taken seriously -- especially with an audience of 10,000 people. And we all know Tony has done some amazing things. But the number of times he mentioned his relationships with presidents, celebrities, and business people was overkill. We get it — you have a private jet.
- Finally, Tony has the weirdest clap I've ever seen.
In the first few hours of the seminar, we danced (a lot), massaged our neighbors, fanned our neighbors, did aerobic exercises, pumped our fists, watched Tony run through the audience like some idol, and other ra-ra tactics.
Still, these were minor annoyances. Those come with any event. None were deal-breakers.
But as the day unfolded, I began to question whether this seminar was a good use of my time.
Tony called on people in the front row and recited their names. Which made it seem like he knew everyone in the audience, though I'm sure they were his VIP ($75K per year) customers.
He called on John.
"What's your issue, John?"
John wasn't loved.
Here was Tony's response:
- Everyone in the crowd faces that issue.
- John should come up with a new name. "Edward."
- "Edward" walk towards Tony like a bad-ass.
- Tell Tony you are unleashed (basically).
- Everyone in the audience say "I love you, John."
Problem solved.
Of course, no one expected Tony to solve John's emotional issues with some light role-play and applause. The whole sequence was superficial (and entertaining).
Still, John clearly has deeper issues around his family. He wasn't loved enough.
What then?
I wanted John and Tony to go deep.
I wanted to go deep.
I wanted to do the hard work we needed to do.
Then we had to massage our neighbors. Again.
Okay, I understand we need to break through social discomfort and energize ourselves, but I don't enjoy random dudes touching me.
Hour 7…
I looked at the agenda for the next three days.
Nutrition. Interesting.
Then booklet work.
For two days.
I looked back over my notes.
Sure, there were some great takeaways, like...
Dedicate time every week to work on yourself. Reflect upon whether you are growing, and making progress.
What are you scared of right now? How can you move towards that? Discomfort is your growth!
Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.
Look at things from appreciation and gratitude. Instead of complaining about traffic, appreciate that we have cars to get us to places faster.
Modeling is valuable. Study and replicate the people that have already figured out what you want to do.
What's a goal that excites you? What goal would genuinely energize you immediately?
What distractions are holding you back from your goals? Remove them.
These are his quotes I turned into instagram memes.
"No growth in comfort."
"Success is how much uncertainty you can deal with."
"Your worst day can be your best day"
"Complexity is the enemy of execution."
"Have hunger that's insatiable, always expanding."
It finally hit me. Dread.
I was officially dreading the rest of the seminar.
To stay for three full days felt like a self-imposed prison, rather than an opportunity to genuinely grow.
I thought about what I most wanted to get out of my time, and whether this event was the best use of it. I decided it would be better for me to work on my specific issues, one-on-one with a friend.
So, I walked out.
Did I feel embarrassed? Yes.
Did I feel disappointed? Yes.
But what I really felt, more than anything else…
Empowered.
Empowered to make choices about what I want, and empowered to turn down the things I don't.
What I Did After I Left
Rather than fly home, I planned a "Personal Development Day." Here's what I did the following day:
- Drank coffee
- Went on a 3-hour hike to discuss personal and professional growth with a friend
- 90-minute personal development discussion (recorded on video)
- Ate a healthy lunch
- Reviewed some of Tony's other materials
- Read a book
- 60-minute discussion with my mastermind group, where I shared some of my biggest issues
- Got a massage
- Sushi dinner
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This may have been the best part about Tony's personal development seminar -- it forced me to create my own.
Final Thoughts
Tony has great intentions, a strong presence, and it's clear most of his attendees feel the event is worth the investment. I am in the minority, who asked for a refund.
For many of his attendees, it seems there are deep-seated issues with a lack of love, and the belief that they are not enough.
If you struggle with those issues, then Tony's seminars might change your life.
For a few days, you will feel loved.
For a few days, you will feel like you are enough.
That's intoxicating, and many attendees (understandably) go back for more.
For my friends, the seminar was overwhelmingly positive and deeply moving. For me, it felt superficial and cheesy.
I don't plan on attending another Tony Robbins' event. But I would, if his team made a few big changes:
- More time to talk with the people around us. The most valuable time, for me, was when we shared our lives with each other. We all attended for personal development, and we all faced similar challenges. Bonding over common ground was great, and I wish there was more time dedicated to it.
- Shorten the seminar to just ONE day. Less dancing, less hoopla, less fluff... Just get to the meat. We wouldn't need to be "awakened" every 20 minutes if the event didn't take so long. (Then again, maybe it's dragged out to create the sense that we got our money's worth.)
- Focus. The seminar felt too general. I know it's impossible to custom-tailor an event for 10,000 people, but more specific topics would have helped.
My good friend Tynan said it best:
"If you never quit, you probably aren't trying enough new things."
I don't regret attending Tony's seminar.
Nor do I regret walking out.
1,266 responses to “Why I Walked Out on Tony Robbins”
Undoubtedly, the most prominent con man of our generation. If he's the guru of self-help, why couldn't he fix his own marriage? He cheated on his 1st wife almost immediately after the wedding having a child with his mistress. Incredibly, his wife forgave him but he later dumped her for a younger blond. Now he's embroiled in sexual harassment accusations involving 4 female employees....and counting. Great role model.
Did you end up getting your money back?
Tony's seminars are custom created for peope who want to be a part of a bigger group. They LOVE the evangelist unity with other people. You're a sapiophile tho. An introvert, I guess? WE hate the group mentality. We may love Tony Robbins himself, but we HATE being a part of a loud group with one mind. Tony is a sapiophile, too, which means he enjoys it because he IS the one mind in the room. The physiophiles in the audience love the fact they don't HAVE TO BE THE MIND in the room. They give their power to someone else, and in turn, receive a sense of empowerment, a sense of unity.
I love Tony as much as you do. I understand FULLY how you can both love the guy and still decide his seminars are not your thing.
I personally coach sapiophiles and avoid getting anywhere near physiophiles. They make great followers, but not very good thinkers. I prefer coaching the intellectual type, who finds it super hard to find ANYTHING worth reading in this world - and wants to figure things out for themselves. I want to offer a light help, but something they can't find at a 10 000 person seminar - all due credit to Robbins - who was the reason why I started in the first place... Because he is phenomenally good at what he does, and I wished I was half as good. Now, I feel I'd gladly coach him for a while... :p
It’s time his teaching psy 101 finally catches up with him...he’s made a half of billion dollars and I could never figure out why he hasn’t ever taught a free seminar to the poor and needy on how to make money and have a better life.
Tony Robbins facilitated a deeply discounted seminar in Atlanta, GA. I attended one for $50.00 at Life University many years ago. It was awesome! My initial goal was to be the "female" version of Tony Robbins. As my skills grew beyond professional speaking, I realized many people consider "motivational speaking" a joke. Too much fluff and very little substance. I don't want to be a joke, so I choose a different path - corporate training. Something with a bigger message than "be a better you". I'm not money driven so for me, it isn't about money. I am knowledge driven and thrive on learning new things and sharing those things with others in a way they can apply it to their careers, such as managing people, projects & meetings.
Personally I think Tony Robins is a macho bully, he doesn’t like people who disagree with him especially the woman who challenged him on me too. Instead of saying men need to change he said men won’t hire attractive women even if they Re more qualified!,, Say what? I would waste a cent on going to read one of his books or see him live and what you said just reinforced my belief he’s full of his own importance and nothing else and it seems it’s the emperors new clothes so glad you found better use for you day.
This is probably one of the worst articles I’ve taken the time to read/skim read.
You walked out due to being out of your comfort zone basically.. and not wanting to tell yourself that you’ve pin pointed it on minor flaws to the person talking to you.
Also, that ‘strange clap’ is a powerful anchor tony has used his entire life to keep him in ‘state’
What did you have to loose by completing the entire four days? Then perhaps, only then, would any of your words In the article have substance.
It’s like flying to Barbados, touching down and saying ‘ah this just doesn’t feel like it’s for me’ flying home and then writing an Article on Barbados.
Feel the fear, do it anyway my friend. Spend time with things you don’t like or make you feel comfortable - then you’ll grow, then you’ll have the credibility to write up an article about that the .
Regards
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I get it and I deeply respect you! Yet you missed out on transformation day and in the fire walk.
I’m glad you are focused on you rather on pleasing. Your authenticity will attract a great relationship ? my prediction.
This article is so well written with no childish anger or rantings. All of your examples were informative and described with a completeness for understanding the situation. Your reason for leaving was intelligent and logical. You wrote information without emotional garbage woven into it. I so appreciate accuracy when people write about experiences. I especially appreciate facts without a person’s emotional negativity. hank you.
i think that u are simply an unaware person. that is why u got fleeced for 2k dollars ...unbelievable. dont blame the salesman. have u ever come across the term SNAKE OIL?
I didn't find anything in this that push me to believe he's unaware by any stretch of the imagination. I went into this with high levels of doubt. I leave with a huge respect for this person's ability to self evaluate.
Me too, enormous respect for a well written article. The only thing I didn’t like was quoting that another person meaning your person next to you was a recovering Jehovah’s Witness. I’m not recovering I am excited about being one of Jehovah’s people. Recovering? We have some of the best reputations in the world. In fact I got a job purely because I was a Jehovah’s Witness known for our integrity and honesty. JW.ORG best organisation in the world! It’s a privilege to be known as one.
Wow! I thought I was the only one. I walked our after the first day, too. I had been listening to and reading Tony Robbins for 20 years. After a bout in the hospital due to overwork, my wife gifted me with a ticket to UPW. I was so excited. But, after waiting in the hallway for 4 hours before being let in, I felt totally mistreated and the seminar took on the smell of BS. I committed, however, to staying around for the Firewalk, because I wanted to challenge myself and I didn't want anyone to say that I chickened out. That was a great experience. I called my wife from the firepit and told her that I had just walked on hot coals. By 4 AM, I was back home in my own bed with my wife. You are totally correct that Tony is very superficial. After the seminar, I embarked upon a campaign of going into depth on the subject where Tony barely scratches the surface. The effect was amazing. As it turned out, one of my office mates was an NLP trainer. I learned NLP from him and now teach it to my MBA students and several young people that I mentor. I got nominated for an Emmy for my work with a local TV station. I was awarded the black belt in Shaolin Kempo Karate with ever setting foot in a Kempo school. I have a start-up, PunditNetwork.com, that was voted best new business idea in a competition at Stanford. I learned to meditate and practice at one of the best meditation centers in the Western world, which, as it turns out is just around the corner from my house. One of the kids that I mentor used the techniques that I showed her to get internship offers from CBS News and the Washington Post. I designed my own stock portfolio. A couple of financial planners showed me how they would have invested my money over the last few years. My portfolio beat them every year and had an expense ratio that 1/4 of theirs. As you say, Tony is superficial and, sometimes, dangerous. His financial book is a mass of contradictions. Tony's gift is pointing people in the right direction. But we have to remember that Tony seminars are just the beginning of a long journey.
When I went to see Tony at UPW in the UK, it ended up being the beginning of the rest of my life. He showed me possibility and inspired me to step up and create change. It’s been a long journey of constant improvement and self challenge but it’s more than worth it.
I too wanted to walk out. It was challenging, embarrassing and to and Englishman, way too ‘American’ ;). I wanted to leave after the first 5 minutes and then after the first hour. I wanted to leave all the way through the first day. Then I remembered my sister who paid for me to go saying, “just go with everything, play along and you’ll love it”.
So I let go of my own judgements and expectations. I stopped being so self-conscious. I through myself in and yes, I massaged everyone and danced like an idiot with strangers and all the other excruciating things an uptight self-conscious person like me hated.
Things started to really change. Day 2, 3 and I could feel the shift. I was genuinely changing. I couldn’t afford to do any other courses with Tony so whilst he was selling and selling and yes selling again his premium seminars, I made a note of everything I’d learnt and what I was going to do with it.
Every day for the next year I worked on myself and reminded myself what I needed to remember about myself and life. It was the year I broke free.
Maybe if you’d also been told to let go and just go with it and see what happens, you too might have stayed and gone the distance and had similar breakthroughs.
How you spent you day was truly valuable and we all need more of those. But you could have done that at any time.
There’s so much knocking of Tony Robbins and obviously he isn’t everyone’s idea of a good time, but there is no doubting the positive impact this man has had on millions of people. When you consider all the people he has inspired, who go on to become coaches, therapists, etc, and all the people they go on to impact, his positive reach is a phenomena.
This is an excellent comment. The superficiality might have belonged more to Noah's approach than to the Seminar. It's very subjective. But sticking it out one the day in the case of George, and that might be the best lesson from all of this.
People are always searching for answers where sometimes there are none. Robbins makes money off of that fact, with pablum and half baked motivational statements that do nothing. I recommend to spend the two grand on business class seats to Maui, sit on a beach drinking a thirteen dollar Heineken, while repeating, “this is my best self.”
The “Cheesy” theatrics and “pump” was an immediate turn off. In day one he pulled some random guy from the audience who balled his eyes out about having done horrible things and everyone cheered this guy in the end because Tony saved him. On the last day I saw this same guy but in a video clip Tony showed and this guy was in the background as a volunteer- it was all staged. I know from an insider this is how it works. I saw a lot of this, and waaaay too much dancing and messaging and listening to puffery. Let’s face it, it’s a money machine praying on the weak.
And now...Mr. R faces several allegations of sexual misconduct, and bullying. Another one bites the dust. Please save us from the Type-A, "over-the-top," caffeinated gurus who take our money and...do what you said T did in your article.
I hear you. Similar experience with other "motivational speakers". The sheep feel better for a few days, then crash back into reality, then decide that they need another seminar. These speakers have perfected the recipe for creating seminar junkies.
Walking out on anything - from a movie to a book leaves you with uncertainty. It also denotes that you rely heavily on others to do your thinking for you. Being around positive people creates positivity. You have failed entirely by observing this key factor in his factor in any lesson - regardless if it's Tony Robbins or a complex movie.
Thanks, they talk to much. Too much about self empowerment which is not possible. Trust God and ask Jesus Christ to come into your heart. You will find the real truth of spiritual empowerment. Tony and many like him have great concepts but too much of it and you sink deep into the abyss of wishing. Read romans 10:9 and find the Christ for your self. Then you will be properly empowered and don’t have to pay for it.
Truly finding contentment in Christ is empowering. The Bible calls us to allow our convictions, not our circumstances,to govern our sense of contentment. True biblical contentment is a conviction that Christ s power, purpose and provision is sufficient for every circumstance.
wow good readd. thank you.
Thanks for your content, I just with drew from his lattest course, before I come across your info. You hit it on the nail for me he is high energy and I like that however i am one of those Americans how love a little humility in the age of trump, alpha men don’t in press me. I find him to be an ego maniac.
I purchased his cassettes over 30 years ago and his "FLY and the WINDOW" analogy was a classic. That one comment alone made me buy his tapes.
That was a multi-million dollar analogy!!
Interesting take on that event - I would not be able to sit through that either. Flashing strobe lights – jumping up and down – loud music, other peoples hands on me and Tony dropping F- Bombs just sounds awful.
How is that any good?
How is that helping people on a deeper level?
What bothers me is this new breed of “online experts” in every field that floods my Facebook feed. I have a local bodybuilder trying to sell me on how to be successful and happy yet I’m happily married with two children, and run a multi-million dollar business. He on the other hand is single has no home, no real money and recently overcame a big drug addiction. Yes, he just took a Tony Robbins VIP course.
What is Tony teaching/selling people?
A Google search cannot replace a medical degree and using recipes from Epicurious.com does not get you a seat on the Iron Chef.
It is all starting to seem like a massive Ponzi scheme.
In his own words... you dont go to a concert with certain expectations.. you go for the experience
I watched his special on Netflix and enjoyed it. I think it would be useful for many people to attend one of his events. At times it has a cult like feel to it, he swears too much, and he's too full of himself. Still, he has great skills as a communicator, and I think he has a good heart. I feel the good outweighs the bad.
I think whatever you wanted, you had expectations that weren't met, you could have just enjoyed the experience and got the most from it possible.
To "walk out" ...... it takes courage.
To "walk in" .... it takes curiosity.
To "make" those decisions ..... it takes you, not some money hungry motivational speaker that manipulates vocally. He should be "giving" to the masses !! ...... not magnatizing ones wallet !
I would respect Tony Robbins so much more if ,for starters ,he would make The Giving Pledge like so many billionaires and give at least %90 of his wealth to charity. He has cleverly found a way to take billions of dollars from fragile, vulnerable people with his modern day tent preacher messiianic performances. Inevitably all men like this end of falling too much in love with their own shit and eventually come crashing down. For as public and nauseantingly name dropping as King Tony projects himself onto the common people ,we know so little about his private, intensely guarded personal like. My guess would be that his current life is checkered with heartache, embarrassment ,disappointed and frustration just like everyone else. I predict that when the man boy king comes crashing down back to earth it is going to be very ugly. Let us all just sit back, wait and see.
hi marcus. I dont think youve done your research really. Tony has 18 companies which are doing 5 billion in sales and he is using most of that money for charity. This year hes gonna feed a 100 million people and next year double that. he also just recently wrote a book from which he donated all the money he made to a charity and he said he would match anyones offer upto many million dollars, im not sure howmany. Also to me it sounds like youre quite bitter and jealous of how happy of a life he seems to be living, i can tell from the "just like every one else" and the second half of your answer. it seems like you are quite unhappy with your life at the moment and youre telling yourself a lie that its not possible to be happy so that you dont have to change. I think all of us need to sit back and self reflect on what we say and do and think sometimes. cheers!
Well played Noah. #Clout
Really? Written with love?
You were overwhelmed. I get it. But you actually made fun of his clap. The guy had a brain tumor. And maybe it impacts his physical mobility. But you LOST ALL CREDIBILITY WHEN YOU MADE FUN OF THAT.
agreed!
I think it was a joke guys. Sheesh.
This a great! Well written thanks for your truth.
Very honest and interesting. I have seen Tony over the years raving about his supernatural ability to inspire everyone into action based on his perceptions of life here on earth. We are all as unique as every grain of sand. Tony as well. Unfortunately his cult following haven't realized that yet and think he has all the answers because he is so convicted. Don't be sheeple people. Think for yourself, the answers are within.
My friend, I understand the urge to leave UPW, but you might have done yourself a disservice by leaving early. On a side note, you might have been a bit disingenuous when you criticized the nutrition part of UPW which you obviously did not attend. Over the past thirty years, Tony Robbins & his coaches have guided me to become a better ‘you-name-it’. I attended many of his events over the years and started with a high level of trust. His early books were so congruent that I made a decision to trust that he and his team knew what they were doing. I decided to play full-out regardless of what my inner judge/jury/hangman was saying, and was rewarded beyond my expectations. His ‘strange clap’ is the result of him playing full-out over the course of his career which damaged joints & nerves. Yes, his style includes name-dropping, cross-selling of his products and seemingly-silly group exercises to change the audience’s state in a moment. If you attended many events like I, you would have also noticed that he repeats many of the same anecdotes. That bothers me as much as it bothers me to re-read great works of literature. Unleashing the Power Within is a lifetime commitment. For me, UPW was an effective way of breaking patterns that were ingrained and no longer served me. The real journey started after UPW including coaching, attending various AJR events, volunteering at many AJR events and a kajillion of non-AJR undertakings. Through it all I have observed how Tony Robbins does not pretend to have all of the answers, he just knows how to convey the latest breakthroughs in business, relationships, personal development, nutrition and personal finance in a caring and powerfully efficient manner. My respect for him is immense, particularly because he never ever said or suggested, “Follow-me, I am the way.” He just showed me how to efficiently get out of my own way and serve others. If you have the chance, I encourage you to play full-out for 3 1/2 days before rendering your opinion. If you do, I think you might find that your life will never be the same again.
Thanks for this! I just sat through an AGONIZING infomercial of his and some other big deal motivational type - though it was ever so cleverly disguised as something that would teach strategies about how to create such and such kind of business, blah blah. No, the 2000$ course you buy at the end would teach these genius strategies.
Most saliently, I, too, found the braggadocio EXHAUSTING. I hung on, waiting, waiting to be given at least one practical tip, but no - repetition ad nauseum, and, well, you get the drift. And I, too, have a lot of respect for TR, in my way. But I also know for sure that when someone truly feels confident deep within, they don't go on and on and on about the money, the celebrities, the money, the money, etc. I literally have a headache.
Funnily, I was toying with the idea of writing him a letter on his site when I saw this. I mean, I knew already what I thought and felt was accurate, but just at the moment, it was nice to be validated. Best of everything to you! I think I'll just go have a nice dinner. 🙂
That's so amazing that you had the idea of writing to him. I recently almost attended his london upw seminar but for a myriad of reasons I didn't go. I watched a short interview he did with Russel brand and he said something about his many houses! In that moment I knew he needed help. He also needs to grow to help others as he is having such a large impact on many people. He is an instrument of God but he is letting him down in many ways. Maybe you are an earth angel like me. I think you and I should reach out to him the better he is the better we all can be! Much love to you all xx
Tony got me started in self improvement 25 years ago. Today I much prefer Brian Tracy and Jim Rohn. Tony takes what they teach and makes business around it.
Just saw a documentary "I am not your guru" . His vulgar language there can only prove that his own methods don't work on him. F words in almost every sentence when he speaks to person in the crowd.
Truly sad to see such a degradation of values and quality/class . The great Tony doesn't seem to be so great anymore. Has he ever been?
Attended UPW in los Angeles 2019
All was ok till...fire walk felt stranged but drank the coolaid and did it and day 3 transformation where I realized this guy is a Wizard and had to stop following i
His hypnotic instructions. I had to snap out of it. Very dangerous. That's my opinion. But later i did some research and found a blog by Scott Addams called DILBERT where he clears my suspicious and confirms it. He is powerful for a reason.
I also walked away....too late but i did after all.
Wonderfully said - I appreciate your respect & tact in sharing your opinions on what you felt worked and didn't work for you. I would dare to say that you were empowered to leave, which for many would be a breakthrough in itself!
I can't tell you how many times I've felt exactly the same way about one seminar or another. Whenever I've expressed doubt or disappointment/disillusionment/dissension, I've usually been criticized for not "getting it." I get it, but "it" just isn't doing it for me. "It" isn't feeding my soul or sensibilities. And then, all of "it" feels like just so much bullsh*t.
I'm willing to wager you got the most benefit from that UPW event of all the attendees because you could look at it with a clear eye and take what value there was from it. Most of all, you got the gift of time that time and every other time you choose not to go to another of these events.
I went to a Tony Robbins event in Portland Oregon and I still regret to this day. Cheesy is an understatement and the fact that others found it to be motivating is absolutely mind blowing. The guy is successful so I can’t knock him too hard, but it was an absolute waste of time.
PT Barnum was successful as well.
I followed Tony for years and implimented so much into my life . Then I began to struggle physically, mentally and emotionally. After years of struggle I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Today I’m living with secondary progressive ms. I struggle cognitively and physically . I’ve my life has changed drastically. Because of my cognitive issues ( caused by lesions on my brain ) I have to constantly monitor my activities and energy I’m using . This contradicts what I learned from Tony for years . I wish he’d put some time , money and energy into helping people like myself who were devoted followers.
Hi Mike, I too have ms(rrms) and was diagnosed in 2009. Probably started when I was about 16...20 years ago. Would you like to share with me what you would like Tony to do. I just recently discovered this guy through Netflix. I too have to monitor my energy. I have a 6 year old son and am a single mom. If you'd like to talk privately about it you can find me on facebook. grts, Inge
Hi Noah, Just found this in April 2019. Thank you - I needed this story. I too was a huge Tony Robbins fan since the 1999 QVC days while feeding my son overnight bottles. He changed my life in many ways. Then about 15 years ago, I flew to DFW from PHL to participate in a UPW event after a friend I orig introduced to Tony’s work totally took the cool aid over a year or two, and the. recommended the seminar. I went with high hopes. I left after the first evening session after refusing to participate in the firewalk. The experience just wasn’t right for me to the point where it became impossible to stay. It has pained me ever since. With your post I have repositioned the experience as empowering. Yes. Thank you.
There’s no denying that you HAVE done your homework and I applaud you for that as well as for writing this opinion piece as it’s not a popular opinion. It’s not my opinion either to be fair as I had a blast at the UPW event and I can truly say it switched something on in me. I feel like a lot of the things you say hold a certain resistance. Like how you don’t wanna be massaged by some random dude. Not to say that that should be something you absolutely love, but I think it’s worth being inquisitive about why it creates resistance. I wouldn’t say that if I wouldn’t have had a similar experience and learned massively from it. Also, yes he does massive name dropping, that’s true, but whether or not it triggers aggravation in you...is definitely on you. The point in so many things I think is not to find out if you like or dislike, but what thought patterns lie at the base of your opinion and if you can set yourself free of it if you choose to. And in that sense everything is interesting and adds value to your experience.
The jumping up and down I feel is a vital part of the experience. As Tony’s philosophy is that the base of everything is your physiology, it makes total sense to get you in a hyped state as much as possible. You absolutely don’t need to justify having your opinion so you didn’t even need to tell us how much effort you’ve already put in. Even if you did zero, you were entitled to feel the way you felt. I won’t justify what my two cents are either, I just feel like exchanging ideas is immensely valuable. If not, the reason why people have been able to continuously grow. Cheers mate!
I like the way you confidently state your position while respecting that of the author's. You also shared valuable advice:; instead of complaining about what we don't enjoy or find as "a good use of our time", get curious about it, explore and learn from the experience. What is it about ME that is not making the connection? And if you did get something out of the experience, what is it about you that allowed that? I enjoyed reading your comment. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
I'm sorry you felt UPW did not meet your expectations. I went in 2016 and I can honestly say, not only did I learn a lot, but I draw upon that information almost daily, and almost a reflex. Raise your standards. Change your state, change your story, change your strategy are words i live by. Even that direction, don't sip your water, chug it while its at your lips, to get your intake up...daily! I did not hire a TR coach. My bf is a life coach, walks the walk, so I have that...
I attended the UPW 2019 in London and didn't really feel I got the value for money for all the reasons you explained. First of all, Tony only showed up 2 of the 4 days he was meant to deliver, there was also a lot of hard selling, trying to get people to sign on for the upcoming events. I didn't attend the last day as I thought I wasn't going to miss anything. I did feel empowered and I will continue to do my best and apply myself.
Your summary resonates with me and thanks for sharing your experience.
Super powerful move on ur part, even if it was a largely uncommon 1!
Very interesting read ! I agree with what your saying one to one with an individual helps over come fear...I am interested in attending one of your seminars
High five it’s called informed Choice you did what was right for you.
You did what it was right for you and applaude you for your courage. In my opinion , I don't need a 3 day seminar to love mysel. I read books on self growth. Learned to Love myself unconditionally. Bravo for your point of view. We have freedom and choices.
I think it’s a well put article. I think at the beginning of a self help journey and I mean a real self help journey following an epiphany then I think this event would be useful but if you already have the skills and the strength to make changes then don’t waste your time. Or maybe go if you feel the need for a boost and don’t commit to all days.
Very fair review which is hard to find these days. I attended UPW at excel in 2019 and whilst I have overcome a lot of personal issues I had with self love over the last few years I really did find it inspirational. What I did like was he practiced what he preached and it was a great spectacle as you would expect from the US. I feel the reason feel the constant music and clapping was to invoke emotion in people, as explained this is how words make an impact. I trust that everything that we had to do there was for a reason.
It certainly helped me get some focus and provided me with techniques to deal with bad emotions. I do commend his level of energy but I don’t think I will be attending another course, 4 days is quite intense!
Thanks for writing this article! I attended UPW in LA this year, from Australia. I was interested to see what the event was like as I know people who attend every year.
I have never felt so isolated in my life, yet I was surrounded by 15,000 people.
Don’t get me wrong, I took a lot of fantastic information from the event, but from the get go people were in my space constantly wanting hi-fives then massaging each other. I just didn’t connect with his way of inspiration. I dont judge anyone else for going and I’m so happy that they get a lot from Tony.
The reason I felt so isolated was because I did not want to tell anyone I wasn’t enjoying it, I felt embarrassed, I did not want to pass on my energy to anyone else who had paid thousands to be there.
It got to the point of the fire walk and I broke down, I wasn’t afraid of actually walking on fire, I was upset that I was not at the level that everyone else was on. I had no one to connect to, and again that was because I didn’t want to bring anyone down from their high!
All in all I don’t regret going, the content work and self reflection was great but I’m now on the look out for something that I will connect with and be inspired by.
It also made me realise I am so happy with my life, I’m content with my growth, yet I’m still challenging myself everyday.
Ha! Lived next to two former personal assistants to the TR empire in San Diego who loved to talk shop. Save your money friends!!!
Care to elaborate?
For two to five thousand dollars I'll go on a great vacation and read dome books on the Dharma because his whole act is based on the things Buddha said thousands of years ago. If you want to learn the causes and cessation of suffering go to a Buddhist event, not a 2000 to 5000 dollar screaming, yelling, massaging, self aggrandizing big guy who is a billionaire on your money. 10,000 attendees. Two thousand a head for three days. You do the math. Week after week, year after year, decade after decade.
I agreed with you. I preferred attending a vipassana retreat more than attending any of these kind of seminar. It cannot help us eradicate the foot of suffering, this maybe one of the reasons that people keeps attending more and more seminars.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion! However, UPW has changed/transformed the lives of thousands of people, making the world a far better and happier place. It changed my life and my future and I would encourage everyone to experience it for themselves! This article makes it sound like some lame event led by an ego centric, money grubbing, narcissist. Did you not start this article by talking about all your accomplishments in order to get people to take you seriously? I can’t tell you how many people have been touched by the work they did at UPW. I’d encourage you to go back and actually stay for the whole event, walk on some fire, do the deep neurolingustic work, and be in the company of thousands of people doing the same thing. It’s a sacred experience witnessing thousands coming together in that way.
Thanks for that honesty.. I could see your point..
Empowering
I believe same as you. I didn’t go to see Tony but this movement t of someone be the mesias of people have to stop. U can’t trasfor people life in 5 days or with 10 books. America spiritual and cosching world have niceee cheesy and superficial and just another business.
Now those Tony need that much money to have a good life or Oprah? Don’t think so.
As u said is time to go deeper more more deeper
Agreed
I agree. All that is around oneself is already within. Some need the push. Others do the pushing. It's a life long learning. Like the old saying "people are like sheep". They tend to follow the followers. There's no magic bullet. Near death experiences whether personal or shared will help create this profound awareness most seminars try to unleash. Every type of experience is personal. What now drives someone like Mr Robbins is money. Money to pay for the machine. It's a catch twenty two. His wonderful shared beliefs are now sold instead of being given. Once the giving becomes a commodity the original intent is lost on most.
I am 57 years old. Life will change and we all have to make decisions. Sometime not knowing the out come. Like the old saying goes " We Live We Learn". But if you pray and trust God after you research, etc. Then you can rest assured all things work together for good for those who belief. How this work. Well we learn from our mistakes and from our success. The most important thing is that God walk with us always because he never leave us or forsake us. Enjoy the journey of live and trust God always. Learn to share and give to others. Read the Bible that is the best self help book, and spiritual guide and fulfillment ever written. The leader, God in three person: Father, son (Jesus ) and Holy Spirit will guide us. All we have to do is obey and follow direction and of course it all will be different for each one of us. Since the changes and the life we all live, choose and call to live is unit for each one of us. I say choose because we have free will, and call because events will happen in our life cause and influence by others that we will not choose. Sometimes unexplained. But in those we could learn or tell God I leave them in your hand and do not understand the meeting but it does not matter. Say God thank you for walking with me, thank you for life, and thank you for your protection and keep walking and living life in faith with him. Also learn to love other human like yourself since we are all crated in the image of God. Now we do not have to agree with every behavior that is negative, including our own. God Bless you all!
Thank you for this article. I was researching Tony Robins and really have never watched or heard any of his talks. I was thinking of going to a UPW event in Dallas because it seems like everyone is talking about how amazing it is and even though I feel like he's a total phony, maybe there's something to it. But, you are affirming my gut feeling. I take personal development days where I watch loads of videos on Youtube from Impact Theory, to Ted Talks, to whatever fills my brain with answers, more questions, and intelligence---healthy food, yoga, nature, social activity, and challenge. For me that's FREE! And one of my biggest pet peaves in life is being "had", wasting my money on something that I thought might be a good chance to take---and at Tony's price point, that would be a huge resentment for me. So I'm going with my gut and NOT going to the event in Dallas. I can put that money towards an event much more meaningful.
This person is the consummate con man. He makes a living ripping people off with his phony, feel-good garbage.What empowerment should he teach? “Run away quickly. Protect your wallet from clowns like me!”
Tony Robbins reminds me Beta O'Rourke, I would totally vote for him! #Beta2020 I have taken Tony's courses many times over the years and he inspired me to start my own internet business. Now, I finally moved out of my mom's basement and into my own 628 sq ft apartment in a gender equal neighborhood that is pro-Israel. I feel like I have conquered the Mountain! I respect your opinion of Tony but again, I, like took his courses to heart and I totally succeeded! #2020Succeed! #DontBeAHater #Beta2020 #Jealous
I admire your attitude. That was an honest position. Thanks for sharing.
I’ve been to Tony’s seminars.
I agree with you. It’s too much fluff and not enough subject about us’ who are attending.
You feel good for two or three days, then it wears off.
Nothing against Tony, but it’s not for me.
I walked out and adopted conservative views and morals. Stopped being so damned self absorbed and began be in service to others. Went Fishing and thanked God for my Wife and Life. Never looked back! 🙂
Couldn't be said better!
That's exactly how I felt. ?
Thank you for writing your truths.
Nice to hear.
My father quit drinking after upw, it s been 2 years he didnt touch a glass of alcohol, i was depressed, even suicidal, despite décades of therapy, two months after date with destiny (Really more intensive 6 days seminars) i begun work again and dont think about taking my life anymore....so for some people it works i d say 😉
Good read.. I too attended last weekend and many of your points were valid;
Way too much time with the dancing and hype before he finally showed up on stage.
Spent way too much time talking about his ego driven personal financial accomplishmen's and name dropping. I mean you never hear Magic Johnson, LeBron, Oprah, and other mega successful people in a public forum stroke their egos as TR did. I came away thinking... Tony seriously needs to improve that aspect of his life.
Too much time promoting his products. People paid lots of money to be helped... not sold. Perhaps mentions then let people go to the booths to sign up or purchase products.
Should be a 2 day event and half the price.
WHAT I LIKED ABOUT IT;
His energy level resonated with the masses and that got people involved. How often in our lives can we "let go" and get into mutual mental psych. .?? Typically only at a great sporting event. Energy = attention and for the most part Tony had ours.
His message to get past your fears and go for it... no excuses.
His message of self love, love others, respect others, help yourself and others around you and your world will improve.
WHAT I LEFT WITH;
I did not attend both Friday or Sunday. I only wanted to see what Tony had to say, how the crowd perceived that messay and what we all got out of it. I left physically and emotionally drained in a good way just connecting with the around me and being caught up in the energy of it all.
Within the first day, I realised with full confidense that I have been living and leading the life he promotes ALL MY LIFE. My love of people, of the world around me, of my life choice of extensive international travel has given me insight into how people should be treated, how I love my choices I have made, how my successes are from believing in myself and that I have always faces life decision's with a GO FOR IT attitude and listening to myself with the confidence of a CAN DO approach.
CONCLUSON;
I can assure you thousands of people who attended had their lives changed. Some found love to look forward to, others found confidence o conquer theor fears, some will make life changes to better their lives in terms of alcohol and / or drug abuse, and hopefully all will have a deeper respect for others as was clearly a consistent message.
Frankly I never liked Tony. He Always blathered and never told anything that an average Joe wouldn't know. He's a kind of high profile escort who just make a living out of making people good about themselves. More fart less shit
you know what that clap is? why it's so weird? He's high fiving himself. Take another look. yep. THATS EMPOWERING. great article and great respect for tony robbins.
Wow! Exactly how I felt ?
I literally couldn’t have said this better myself. My boss swears by him and sends a few employees every year all
Expenses paid which I know is very generous. I knew before going that this wasn’t for me but I went in with an open mind and so grateful for this gift. But Jesus fuckking Christ. I just couldn’t with the jumping and hugging and over the top BS. And I feel lame admitting that I Fet a bit broken like why isn’t this working for me when stuff like this literally changes people’s lives. Idk man.
The absolute worse is his minion/crew who corners you at every moment. One lady literally wanted to have a whole ass conversation in the bathroom. Mind you my coworker was waiting outside for me and I had no way to get rid of her. Even when she saw him she kept taking to me!!!
And then the guilt knowing my boss spent all this money on me for nothing. I’m still so tense from the anxiety of being there.
OMG this is exactly how I felt. Funny how one of the stories he told is about he cured a woman of a snake phobia in 15 minutes.... why do we need 4 days and then a hard sell for his other programs followed by a mini pitbull concert? I didnt stay for the hard sell and I'm not going back to day 3 either.
So in short going to the seminar helper you after all even if it wasn't from The source you thought it would be from...?
I’m glad to see your article. I was given a ticket as a gift but also walked out. It’s not for I am beyond this. I love Sadhguru Check him out.
For those looking for insight from more sources. I am in the exact same boat. Way too much jumping around. I am at the seminar this weekend. I’m researching how to get a refund and check out of my hotel early. Left early day 1 after I got fed up hugging my neighbors and found myself not wanting to scream or dance or jump anymore. Day 1. He brought a dance team out and got us psyched and had these minions dance for 45 mins and had a guy keep saying “get ready for tony! Let him hear you!” Only tony never came. For literally 10 songs these workers danced and danced trying to hype us up and halfway through I was saying “what the hell is going on??” It was all way over the top and 1 day would have been PLENTY without all the fluff as mentioned in the article.
Exactly my thoughts. I’m at day 2 of the event. just waked out. I flew all the way from Colombia for this, and was expecting something different. Today I felt like I was at a scientology event (yes, I’ve been on their ship). Didn’t get anything from the event that I could not have gotten from youtube.
I lasted the entire day 1 as it would have required me to sit in traffic and fight my way back to Orange County so I stayed and kept thinking it was just me and I needed to open up more. After having to give a random massage to a person in my row and after several sessions of jumping around half assed I realized that this was really not that engaging for me. I am interested in self improvement and growth and also in a good place in life but expect that I can do more and deliver higher results. The seminar was not going to provide what I thought and there was just way too many songs, disco lights, clapping, jumping around that was wasting time and not providing any value. The introduction at the start was terrible with 8 songs and a group of dancers on stage that did not belong. Overall I have decided not to return for the remainder of the seminar and will continue to improve on my own with reading great books, podcasts with interesting people and holding myself accountable .
I didn't know Tony has a weird clap,but trust you me,i laughed my ribs out.That was really funny.
I 100% agree. I like some of what Tony says, but jumping up and down doesn’t motivate me. I don’t want to touch or be touched by strangers. Loud, blaring music is just abnoxious. When Zig Ziglar was asked about Tony’s seminar style, his reply was, “You can motivate an idiot, but all that gets you is a motivated idiot.”
My sister from out of state signed me up for the LA event next week. I told her it wasn't my thing, but I wouldn't mind sharing time with her. I had no idea how immersive the event is. And how cultishly hyperactive it is.
I've been dreading the experience for the last several weeks. I want to share time with my sister, but the though of spending a 50 hour marathon with screaming wannabes sounds like Hell Incarnate.
(Besides, I have a business to run and I can't really afford the four days off. Showing up for the event is ironically hindering my ability to be successful.)
I think I need to suck it in and endure a few days to share the event with my sister. I'll cut my participation down to two days and actually get some work done on the other two. I'll let my sister know I'm not going to be all gung ho but be supportive of her and her experience. And just chalk it up as another life experience, however unsolicited.
Do not let this bait and switch article convince you that your experience will be bad. You will get out of this and any event equal to what you put into it both emotionally an physically. Play full out and your experience will pay out in dividends...
Hey Roger
Not sure what's bait and switch. I think Tony is great for some people.
Just sharing my overall experience with it 🙂
Love your taco bullet points, lol. I wondered why the last ones weren't colored though.
The truth is, you actually are better than the people who are still excited and affected by a Tony Robbins' seminar. I mean, not "better" in your soul necessarily, but better off, for sure. You're more advanced in your personal growth. I guess you know that though.
same here my wife and i walked out too ! fly from Quebec Canada, left after 2 days same feeling but glad we went anyway !...
Perhaps you have a bit of ADD. No worries, listen to Personal Power in the car and save the $2000 next time. You remind me if my brother who kept getting up during a Jim Rohn seminar years ago, all because his anxiety got the best if him. You are in the minority, although I can't say I would attend either. At least I haven't been compelled to do so yet, though I love Tony Ribbons. Best Wishes.
Appreciate this insight. Every time I consider a TR event, I think about what my friends went through and how I’ve handle 2 day conferences in the past. I keep asking myself, “how much Ritalin would I have to take for this?” Adult ADHD sucks, especially when you didn’t finally get diagnosed until age 41. Not shame in that. I’ll stick with the CDs, at my own pace to soak in. Doing the deep work is really important to me.
Perhaps you walked out because of some issue that you were choosing to run away from.
You were afraid Tony Robbins was going to waste your time. So you decided an even better waste of your time would be to go and make memes of Tony's quotes. It appears you do what Tony does on a much tinier scale. You even made a point of trying to knock him for his promotion techniques and a feeling that he was try to sell you (which im sure he was, he's quite good at it. YOU TRIED SELF PROMOTING YOURSELF 5 TIMES in this short supposedly "informative" little piece of driving to drive Tony's name viewers to your site. NIce try.
I would suggest being more open to new experiences. Dont value your time so highly that you'll miss out on a unique experience so that you can go home and make memes (with your name on them...).
**You even want my email when I post a comment. I'm sure you want to inform me about one of your own seminars or your healthy sushi dinner........................ shake my head
For someone who didnt favor Tony's extensive self promoting skills.
You do self promote yourself in almost 5 different ways in this article.
I honestly see your points on some valid terms.. but from your response, you did sound just like the Tony’S cultic-fan he just mentioned.
And if you paid more attention without bias you will notice be walked about because he read through the seminar sheet and figured his time is more valued somewhere else.. He even pointed to “Seminar should be shortened to 1 day”. But of course as a cultic-fan that you are, you missed that point.
From a neutral, I sure he wrote this article with honesty and SEO for his company in mind. Nothing wrong with self promotion as long as you speak the truth.
I have never been in one of his seminars nor read a book, and although I have heard about him in the past I am aware of his events. It doesn't seem bad. Events like this are not everyone's cup of tea and not for me for sure but apparently, he is good at what he does and a lot of people have found a new meaning or a new way of doing things. Why all the bashing? Jealousy, perhaps? To each it's own.
I don't fancy these motivational events I rather read a book on business but maybe this is not for you and that's all. Just live the way you want and let the rest do the same
You hit the nail on the head. And just for everyone's reference, because most people coming here will not realize this - the author of this article is the same guy who didn't have the patience to stick with the early founding team of Facebook and lost out on $100 million dollars worth of stock (according to himself).
https://okdork.com/why-i-got-fired-from-facebook-a-100-million-dollar-lesson/
He was so short-sighted back then and seems he hasn't learned his lessons of impatience, and continues to criticize others of what he is guilty of himself.
Perhaps he needs to take some time to reflect if he's really learned much.
Everyone to their own I guess.
My experience is, I am one of those people that attended Date With Destiny.
I am one of those that paid $75k to be part of the platinum partnership yearly program.
I have attended a lot of Tony's events then naturally. The first one I attended was in 2017, so this is all pretty recent for me.
On my first day at DWD I had an intervention directly with tony, a one on one intervention.
Noah, you talk about him going deep, I wonder what it is like with UPW in the states, what I can say is in DWD events I have attended, he goes far deeper and more into change with people.
My life has changed completely and because of it I found the strength I needed to give up an addiction to crystal meth and heal my child hood trauma, see myself for the victim in life I was being and make the change.
The work happened after the events, after the crowd has gone home and from my own commitment to change.... which was inspired and these events for me were the catalyst of that change needed.
I'm grateful and thankful for my experiences both in addiction and in these events.
Now.... if I had as long a history as Noah has in personal development, and his clear commitment in bringing the best within him. Then perhaps my writing here would be dramatically different.
My main point, every person will get what they get out of it.
How many people can honestly look at what Noah's dedication has been to his personal development and say they are EVEN CLOSE to this kind of dedication?
This is the dedication I aspire too and the path I am now on to get there...... and I don't need Tony Robbins to get there.
In fact my next area's of growth are nothing to do with Tony, they are in area's such as continuing to deepen my own masculine authenticity and responsibility.
Continued deepening around loving myself
Good opinion piece. It must be remembered that we are drawn to our gurus, leaders, and inspirations because they resonate with us. If a message has found a pathway into your heart, soul, and motivational spirit, the source, if not evil, does not matter. The source is merely a reflecting pool showing us what we are primed to see. Robbins is harmless - and in many cases, helpful. If he’s not your flavor, find a philosophy and delivery system that is.
Such a good response, Helaine, I applaud you for that. We're often too drawn to gurus, and we forget they're people too. Use what works for you in the system/teaching/belief, ignore the rest and don't get too attached.
Great post!
‘The seminar felt too general. I know it's impossible to custom-tailor an event for 10,000 people, but more specific topics would have helped.’ Being generalised is part of the brainwashing, reveals the limitations of Robbins emotional intelligence. Most humans require niche, specific strategies to overcoming hurdles.
I truly appreciate the adverse opinion piece. I find it both comical and disappointing that some post thrashings of you doing your thing, while supporting your feelings with what you personally experienced. In a world where we are encouraged to be different - be our own person, that some feel the need for you to conform, stay silent, not promote on your own platform, simply reinforces the hypocrisy so prevalent today. "It's OK to be your own person, as long as I'm OK with that." Personally, I too have always thought TR's clap was reminiscent of the cymbal-clamoring monkey in Monkey Shines. I also do not appreciate "fluff" pieces, as I can clap and dance and sing during my personal time. Everyone has something to offer, but not to everyone. Either an experience is your cup of tea or it's not. Either we can take it or leave it. As someone recently receiving a predictably sooner-than-later time limit on life, I for one can say, spending time and energy on something you believe does not benefit you is more likely wasted time that we all should avoid.
He claps that way so as not to emit the sound into his microphone. It looks weird to us when people don't actually clap their palms together.
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I enjoyed the notion of be yourself until I don’t agree with you. With everyone being encouraged to be different, special, I wonder if it’s the reason everyone feels so isolated? I’ve been to seminars where everyone is made to feel a part of a whole by pointing out we’re all just the same on the inside. I think that’s part of the draw to TR seminars. I’m a bit too cheap for the big room bit but the books were great. Good luck/God bless on that farewell ride.
I cant believe anyone would criticize TR. I have been to 3 of his seminar even 1 where I had to borrow to go. He changed my life completly. Before I was a poor waiter and I survived on tips and the goodness of people. After I experience TR then I became a Democrat and I found love and appreciation in my life. Also I moved to a better restaurant (upscale)and my tips have gone up 25% from before I attended a TR seminar. So I would recommend the seminars to anyone even if you have to borrow money to go. Even tho I am male I would marry TR if I could, that's how much I admire him!
By becoming a democrat you found love and appreciation? What does politics have to do with it?
Very good read! My google search that led me here was "how to get Tony Robbins cell phone number", as if it would actually be made public, though my mind is a bit off at the moment.
This was thought provoked on me wanting to leave a voice mail asking one of his handlers, "do you have extra chairs for poor people"? Actually not poor, just broke right now. Reading this article makes me think (which I feel was a good read, just a guy being honest) - Is this all somehow endorsed by Tony? Negative news is good news, right? We've all gotten this far reading this and there's 1k+ in comments. I'm thinking Tony is looking to reinvent himself a little and what better way to just get it out there. Reading over a ton of positive things online tells me there is just a lot of BS about him being that affective vs truly getting what what you paid for by forking up 2-5k, or more.
So I'm a bit torn as I was in search of some way of getting a magically free ticket to his event. Even after reading all the mixed comments, I do feel deep down this Tony Robbins guy has true grit to provide.... Which is something I need right now, though I spent the last 2k (actually 5k) on my wife's medical bills, suicide seems like too much work... but anything to help rid me of this freaking groundhog-day like feeling that has my life playing over in repeat is shear maddening.
Anyway, good read, just not sure of the underlying purpose as I see multiple views playing out here, all of which I feel the writer knew would take place regardless - Side note: if anyone has an extra ticket on the next event he has, I'll do dishes, though my background is in mortgages:)
Sy, a little over a year ago, my teenage son was desperate to go to a TR event, but he had nowhere near enough $. He wrote an email to the company explaining how much he appreciated Tony's book. The company started an email chain with him that eventually made it to TR himself. TR sent my son a recorded voice message encouraging him and offering him 2 free tickets to UPW. If you don't get the same results, we're friends with one of his top security guys who can get discounted tickets. Be encouraged.
I'm not a T.R. fan but I do agree with Rick Trump. I also felt like you were pushing your own agenda while riding on Tony's fame.
I just finished watching
“ I am not your Guru “ (and the bonus material was still running) as I was simultaneously researching the web for blogs or reviews from participants of the Guru’s events... and to my relief I found your blog!! Thank you, I thought I was dead inside for not jumping up and down to the mantra of the so captivating self made therapist.
There was not one second during the process of the documentary, where I felt, I should join the crowd( don’t mind the slightly dry European enthusiasm!!).
Don’t get me wrong, I do seek inspirations and guidance, or maybe just a big booster to kickstart my ambitious but lazy ass, that has more excuses than solutions.
Very enlightening and constructive approach on your behalf.
Thank you x
Reading your reviews has really helped me a lot. My son in law and my daughter has an obsession with TR and they think he is a God. They sold their property to join this cult paying 75k each and much more to this con man. He was fired from work and has been trying to become rich just by attending TR seminars travelling all over the world. It is really painful for me to see what will be the future of my grand children aged 4 and 5. They both have been so brainwashed that they think everyone who does not worship TR is negative. I personally would like to thank you for writing the truth which proves to me that I am not insane the way they make me believe.
Hi there, I can assure you that your kids are in good company with the Platinum members. Most plat members own and operate multi million dollar businesses (and more) and are inspired to live life to the fullest + while contributing to the world. It must deeply disappoint your kids to not have your support.
As a mother of a young adult I completely simpathise with your fear. If my daughter came home anouncing she sold her house and signed up with the guy on YouTube I would absolutely loose my mind!!
For the sake of your kids, their success, and your relationship, I ask you as a fellow parent and Platinum member to please support them. At minimum by respecting the path they've chosen. I suspect they will amaze you with what they'll accomplish in a few years.
You won't manage to change their mind, so perhaps you can stay involved and have influence by allowing them to share their journey.
Why not join them at an event and meet some people? I'll be there!
Blessings to you all!
Good on you for walking out, and good on you for posting your experience. I have a twin sister who did his seminar and felt very similarly to you. I did the insight programs instead which apparently were seminars that Anthony Robbins ripped off
This article is totally a Newsjacking lol. Great job! What Newsjacking means? is the ability to create a post or article related with a celebrities in trend (Tony is always a trend) or relevant news and inject your ideas or product. You injected your development notes for download asking for an email and that is a subscription. Also you injected links for your app, and other two events where you are making a commission because is a referral link.
Whom created this term of NewsJACKING? it was David Meerman a Tony Robbins partner who teaches this technic online (youtube) and also in a deeper manner in the Business Mastery program by Tony Robbins.
Now, besides the newsjacking tactic you are doing I really don't see you growing strong in your life purpose when you are using a negative news against a person in order to gain traffic and then clicks to your sales funnels.
BIG TIME LOSER MY FRIEND. Try again UPW and go without your significance pattern which will take you nowhere and you know you are lost.
I agree. The whole time I was reading this article I kept thinking that this guy is pushing his own agenda and trying to sell me things.
I am not a TR fan but those are my observations as well. Totally manipulative. But transparently so, so not too intelligent. You have lost my support or respect through trashing another professional.. 'oh but I am not, not really'... yeah, you are and whilst doing so, you are stomping on his head to elevate yourself whislt also pretending to stroke him... worst kind of person Sir! I watched some of your video about YOUR presentation and quite frankly found it boring and lacking charisma, it just fell flat and you could tell that from the audience too... and ssshing an audience of adults... maybe once as an exaggerated fun thing but to keep doing it... hell no. Taking my business elsewhere. You show little integrity.
A man that sticks up for what he believes and isn't afraid to talk about it. I shall call you sir, for you are a real man.
It's a shame you feel you need to post negatively about someone who's only every been a force for good in his life and clearly has a drive to help. Also someone you claim to be one of your 'customers'. If you had more faith in your business you wouldn't need to bad mouth someone else's hard work and you should treat your customers with more respect. It's never cool to try and trash someones business or hard work.
He's clearly not attempting to trash anything, he's speaking honestly about an experience he's had and why it was negative.
I actually don’t think he did that, he actually says what he liked and if he is honest enough to say I wasted my money then good for him one mans meat is another mans poison as the saying goes. For me I really dislike Tony and I think this guy wasn’t anti
Great article Noah! I very rarely hear people willing to call Tony Robbins on his lack of substance in material and his dominating self-aggrandisement. I have heard his story and think it is remarkable, as is his success. He has good points, but quite frankly nothing particularly unique. What I don't appreciate is when I see clips of his seminars where he is talking over people, constantly self-promoting (it actually looks like he's insecure and needs to remind everyone exactly who he is. No humility.) and quite frankly bullied one woman on her opinion of the #Metoo movement. I am a communications specialist, so have done everything from Deepak Chopra, to Landmark, to The Artists Way and give my clients Brene Brown material all the time. I love self-development like you. But it can't be bullshit level, it's gotta go deep and hit the real conversations. Not quick fixes and Memes. Unlike you, I have not read tons of Tony Robbins - I bought one book once. I couldn't read it through, too superficial. Well done for having the courage to write this article, especially since he is a customer!
Talk to random participants 6 month post seminar and see if/how their life was changed. You might get the feeling there has to be a better way. BTW I worked with Tony over 7 years so I know what I'm talking about. Do your own research and find the truth of just how "life changing" these events are.
How you are in one thing is how you are in everything.
Amend yo ypur comments. I attended a seminar of the same name. definitely a polished speaker, but more fluff than necessary.
What gets me is the no. Of times he filed bankruptcy and the no. Of divorces!!!!
One would think he had a better handle on his own life!!!!
I like Tony, I think he does add value and broaden perception. Please note, I have never attended a seminar of his, but as a practitioner of meditation for many years, this is the observation that comes to mind.
Sure, he is a lot of hype, but he does need to get the crowd engaged. I feel that, however, that his methods may be somewhat shallow and wear of in the long run. Hi sis honest in saying that you need to do the work, but it is my experience that humans tend to regress over time if they do not have a vision, and the instruments to evolve.
I cannot say if it is worth going to a TR seminar or not, but I doo feel that one cannot change their physical-mental state for good without feeding their spiritual (not religion) component.
All the best.
I attended a Tony Robbins seminar today and I walked out before it was finished as well. I found there was too much hype and not enough content. "What happened to the old Tony Robbins." We spent way too much time saying "I", jumping up and down, massaging our neighbours backs, making noise, pumping the air etc etc. I came to get content, not all the noise and hype which gave me nothing except ringing in my ears. I understand that people need to get out of their chairs once in a while, but this was ridiculous. Also it was cold in the room all day (apparently Tony had told staff he wanted it cold, and so doors were left open that invited some of our Alberta winter inside). I was up at 6 am and the sessions started at 8 am and by 10 am I was uncomfortably cold even tho I was wearing a warm top, a sweater, a winter jacket and gloves. Being uncomfortably cold takes away your focus on the speaker. There were others speakers before Tony came on, and at the end of each of their sessions, they wanted you to buy their program "at a special reduced price". I started resenting this - it felt more like a sales pitch than a seminar.
I left about half way through Tony's session as I couldnt take anymore of the hype. Tony has so much information to offer, he doesn't need to resort to hype.
This was brave of you. Its so good to see someone else feels the same as me about TR.
I went to see Tony at one of the NLC events. I really wanted to see Eric Worre as well as Tony, but Eric was a no show. I was glad that I bought a Bronze ticket. I also walked out an hour and half before the end. I have been listening to Tony since the 1990s. A lot of his stuff hasn't changed. I also was tired of being yelled at. I also felt empowered.
I'm so sorry that you wanted your own success bad enough that you were willing to piggy back on someone with a much bigger name in a negative way that discourages others to take steps to improve their lives. I'll bet you got alot of views but I hope people recognize your method to hurt some so you can help others for your own gain. How would you feel if you changed your approach that helps everyone you influence without hurting anyone? Good luck!
I have a problem with a $2000.00 price tag for a seminar on how to change your life. Take a good look in the mirror, smile and accept yourself at the present moment. Then ask yourself what is is you want to do for yourself and try. There is no magic guru except the one residing in your own body. The gift you are seeking is right there waiting for you to discover. I liked this article because the writer ultimately came back to trusting his own instincts. Plenty of smart people have great information to share without burdening another with a high price tag. Check the local library out for tons of information about anything. If you want to learn how to knit, learn. If you want to learn how to invest, learn. Nike has a great meme. Just do it.
I have a sister who has massive social anxiety and Tony Robbins changed my life into being a top personal trainer in my city. I would do anything to have her, go through that experience of a seminar. And it makes me so sad you would even write this. Without Tony I’d be in trouble, with him; with his words, and energy....I’ll have a good life and your article is robbing some percentage of people from being the best versions of themselves. I hope you consider deleting this, you’re doing more harm them good. God Bless.
Hi David B.,
It’s called freedom of speech. He’s entitled to speak on his experience whether he is promoting himself or not. People or authors like him who write personal reviews provide consumers additional information to make better decisions. His research and personal testimony was informative, comical and entertaining. To many, spending $2,000 to $5000 is definitely an investment worth researching!
Not everyone will have the same experience as you. It’s great that you had a positive experience and you can share your personal testimony to help others as well. Asking Noah to delete his post is rude, and to top it off you added God bless at the end of your statement. What is that?
Confidence comes from within. If you believe in yourself, and focus on achieving a realistic and attainable goal, then you and only you can make it happen. If you fall then you get back right up and keep trying! Duh that’s how life works. Don’t need to pay $2,000 for that advice. You’re welcome!
God Bless.
I appreciate this article and author for the kindness and respect and honesty. I love this country, freedom to speak and freedom to take any class and freedom to leave if that is not some place you feel is a valuable use of your time or energy. I find this article and author realistic and refreshing. Certain responses posted above there are pretty accusatory and defensive and guilting, which is odd, because the author is entitled to his own experience and actually others may benefit from a diversity of experiences (and still others can relate). Obviously Tony Robbins is not God, and the guilting messages in some of these responses are absurd. Truth will not be responsible for anyone’s misery; quite the opposite, this is refreshing and realistic and welcomed in a free country. 🙂 I’ve never taken a Tony Robbins seminar, but I have taken a class called Landmark, and selecting whether to take it I spent time weighing the comments by those who’s lives were changed and those who had issues with it, and negative connotations like MLM, etc. and I did have issues with what was like sales pitch... I can relate. What was most helpful to me, was a dear friend who said “Well, I haven’t taken it, but I know some people who have and they benefitted, and I think it’s just up to you and what you want.” And I took it. And it helped me to start a process of work on and within myself. I’m glad I took it. Wading through the sales pitches for all the next courses was annoying. I feel the class itself was worth it, for me. To be clear... The class or the seminar don’t DO anything, they ASK you to... YOUre the only one who can, the participant, out of your own free will. It’s like a spark, or a tool, or a cheerleader. If you have your own spark, use that! If you need a spark, yes you might buy one here! It’s this simple. It can be lifechanging, but at the end of the day YOU, as the participant in whatever class or seminar (by tony Robbins or other or your own self) you are the one who stands up, dances, says “I” or calls your dad after 29 years- whatever the goal or fear you have you’re the one who faces it. If you need friends, courage, support, spark- you might find it in a seminar or a course, but that work is all done or not done by you, the growth or not, and seminar or not. The truth is, there’s more than one way and we are FREE to choose! :- ) THANK YOU for this beautiful article! 🙂
Went to a one-day TR seminar years ago, and left before the afternoon session.
Most of it was for people in sales, but it was never advertised as such. Also too
much selling of his programs which were available at merchandise tables. One
minor point, he kept mispronouncing the name of the city where the event was held
until an audience member pointed that out. Tony got a bit defensive at that public
correction.
Wonderful post. It's easy for me to smell fraud in some of these people. They prey on the gullible. Sad.
That’s ridiculous; you are selling yourself short if you think he’s fraud. There’s a reason a book written before I was born is still a best seller at Barnes and noble.
Never a more truthfull reply. The whole show was absurd and rediculous.
Take a look at Polyvagal Theory if you really want to understand your experience at Robbins' seminar. (I've left more than my share of seminars in the middle).
Me and my partner went to one of Andy Harrington seminars
Andy Harrington is a Prodigy of Tony Robbins and uses the same style which after the first 3 hours we found nauseating. It was a bit like going to listen to a charismatic preacher in one of those big American Bible thumping sessions. what I do admit Andy Harrington did very well and probably like Tony Robbins does was market his other more expensive courses very well.
Thank you for your objectivity and opinion.
neve went to TR sessions, as i'm not from the states or europe, but i did watch hours of his videos. and like any greedy celebrity, Tony has some great advices, if you have the patience to endure his cliche's, the whole theraputic sessions, pep talk, enflaming your "positiveness" will never work on a dude like me, so no chance in hell i will ever find myself in these ridiculous fake positivness. I do think though that Tony does have some sincere moments, and that according to his background, it is probably due to that that he is able to do that so well. I do think he wants to help people become better, he got to help really famous politicians and high profile sports people. I don't think his is the proper term for a con artist or a scam. there is one video that is really touching where he talks to a young girl who wanted to take her life. and he breaks apart pretty damn good. don't think its a fake, and i'm not sure if he really did help that girl for sure, but at that particular point in time-he most certainly did. he knows what he's doing, better than most pep talkers out there. and has some good advices however cliche's but can strengthen them with some good examples. he is simplistic, which is a plus in my book. so don't take him as 100% purist, because he is not, he enjoys fast cars, and enjoys his money, he is NOT a modest man. which isn't saying much about how pure the guy really is, more about his greed. so i hope this helps anyone he reads this.
you are smart. By writing a negative feedback about Tony's seminar made me read your paper other wise if ti was positive would ignored it
but I was disappointing because I felt that you used this trick to make read your stuff other wise I wouldnot have read
You also did quite a lot of pumping up yourself and telling us what you have done(writing a book) what you have read that changed YOUR life, how you spent YOUR time. I don’t take anyone that serious who needs cheesy guru’s to give them inspiration. Too much fluff in the article also.
Yeah, whoever doesn't notice you using a bigger name to promote yourself should go attend a Tony Robbins event. I've studied over 1,500 hours of Tony Robbins material and now coach people full time after helping my wife overcome some very severe mental illnesses that created a lot of pain in our lives. I'm happier than I ever imagined now and I give most of the credit to Tony. So glad he didn't let the kind of doubt and fear you've encouraged, to promote yourself, hold him back.
LaMonte Wilcox, I'm HIGHLY skeptical of your claims that you helped your wife to overcome "severe mental illness". I've been a therapist for years and suggesting you watched 1500 hours of TR material and then helped her resolve such issues is pure BS. Either your wife didn't have significant mental illness as you suggest, you are lying about the severity of her condition, OR you are overstating your effectiveness.. Mental distress doesn't always indicate mental illness…and “coaches” do not have the required training to help people “overcome mental illness”. I spent three years for my master’s (part time) and then four years for my doctorate (full time) two more years in a specialized fellowship, and then four years to finish my dissertation. A coaching certification simply does not have enough hours to help people “overcome mental illness".
Several years ago I obtained a coaching certification as I am keenly aware that coaching can be extremely helpful for folks that need short-term help. My experience with that certification was that a large number of people in that training program outright dismissed the need for therapy or they believed they could help people "resolve" significant mental illness like Schizophrenia and Borderline PD. The trainers did not understand mental illness or they believed NLP could resolve mental illness - this is magical thinking and my experience was that they confused mental distress with mental illness. There were two other shrinks in that training and all three of us came away with the same feeling.
I like TR and find his material helpful. I have been sober for many years and have used some of his quotes in my AA meetings as I find them helpful. I have bought his books for friends and I have had discussions with my peers about the concepts his presents in his material.. I might even be willing to attend a seminar to experience him in person. Tony is also very clear that he offers "coaching" and not mental health treatment and suggests that some people who attend his seminar might need outside help.
I'm a huge TR fan but have always wondered if I'd have the exact same experience at one of his events.
I watched the documentary on Netflix and was amazed at how stupid the whole thing seemed. Tony barks out a lot of self-help cliches and then makes very superficial and ineffectual attempts at offering therapy to a few hang picked audience members. The funny thing is if they offer him any resistance or disagreement he basically turns into a bully and lampoons them in front of everyone else.
The whole event is completely laughable and absurd
Funny that you claim to have not fallen for Tony's tricks yet this guy caught you so easily with his marketing scheme to piggy back on Tony's name. What would have happen if you wouldn't have let all that "bother" you?
I agree with you. And it seams like you are at another level than most of participants of TR events. I did not feel that participants problem are relevant to me. Whatever Tony was telling was obvious for me. Unfortunately, I did not get anything new, even going for a full UPW (maybe just some stuff about nutrition). And I signed up for coaching. And that was the biggest mistake I have ever made in my life. The coach was absolute zero and I had to cancel sessions with her and did not full refund, but was promised to get it in full. So, there are people who are not strong enough to coop with problems, to motivate themselves, to have a goal and work on getting things done. I have started my career with picking up cans on Brooklyn streets for money refunds, with cleaning houses, with passing flyers on a streets and coming up to being Broker/Owner of real estate company with offices in NJ and FL. And I could do much more, but I have decided to be a little bit lazy. 🙂
Some of these comments are exactly why I am critical of Tony Robbins. No matter where you're coming from, no matter your perspective, no matter the validity of your substance, no matter how solid your critique, Tony Robbins has built a full proof method of manipulation to turn any critique into a faulty personality trait: "that's your ego speaking." You know how I found out about Tony Robbins? Because my friend went to a conference, gained unreasonable confidence (to the point he thought he could say whatever he wanted to whoever he wanted), and lost all of his friends, including me. He still clings to Tony Robbins, trying to "have gratitude instead of complaining" and tries to regain these friends by telling them how "grateful" he is for the time they spent together but NEVER apologizing for his antisocial behaviours and ALWAYS implying that he is above it ("I'm here for you when you need it" aka "You aren't talking to me because of a personality fault within yourself, not because of my behaviour, which you choose to react negatively to"). Tony Robbins doesn't make you successful. He makes you a twit.
Recently I remarked to a friend, I wanted out of the self sabotage of my life, I wanted a new life and a career, yet i do not know what i want to do. He told me to read tony Robbins after a bit of research stumbled upon this, I am trying to empower myself. I am studying, getting qualifications, wondering at 47 am i a bit too late, but if i dont try how will I know? So I want to say thankyou, I will probably buy or rent his book, not because of him but because i can.
There are some great comments here. I think you and Tony might have a lot in common. Probable the things you did not like about him, are the things you don't like about yourself. You wrote this article from the same ego driven place and I think you left the seminar so early(too early to complain, really) so you can be the guy ''that walked out from Tony's seminar''. You get to tell this story for the rest of your life. You might see it as a powerful story, connecting your name with a powerful person. I think it was the attention seeking that got you out so early. He was ''not going deep enough''. If he would have talked to you instead of John, would you still have left? The attention seeking also made you post those pictures of you. You wanted us to say good job on your transformation. Doesn't it go down to being loved? Or being enough? Things you seem to ridicule. If I were you, next time I would stay until the end. And complain than, if you still feel like it. Or are you afraid of actually liking it? Or making a change? There are too many people liking Tony and that would not make you special in any way, right?
I haven't been to Tony's seminar but I watched a lot of his videos. Yes, everything that you all mention, it is true. And it is true for all of us. I think this is a common mistake people do, they expect the others, especially the powerful, to be perfect. He is human also. He was flaws, like all of us. For me, the important part is: do I have something to learn from him? I am sure I have. He is a man that accomplished a lot. And he is using his power for good. And he is human so he makes mistakes, he has an ego, he brags, he name drops.....so do you.
Another thing is, as someone else mentioned, there is no pill to fix us. No easy way. You might walk on fire, jump around, go to a seminar or you might find all that BS. What counts is the work you put in on yourself, day in, day out. The decisions you make every minute. The mistakes you make and what you learn from them. That is what shapes you. You are powerful too. You went to such a transformation. Forget this story. Use your power for making yourself better.
Thanks.
Gillian,
What an excellent comment. You made so many good points without attacking Noah Kagan's character and by pointing out the flaws in Kagan's arguments.
I appreciate that you didn't let your emotions or your opinion of Tony Robbins be what you relied on to shape your comment. And I liked that you made some points that I hadn't considered.
And it got me thinking about the Kagan's motivations for writing this. One thousand+ comments and first page Google search. Pretty nice SEO.
maybe it's just that this is so refreshing to read when so many other comments here and on Facebook when it comes to politics are so black and white and so divisive.
I wish I can discuss politics or openly on my Facebook page and get the kind of comments from friends and others that are thought-provoking.
Thank you!
Great perceptive response!
Now there's insight for you!
I have determined that great public speakers make a lot of money with people that need some motivation....they're called PEP RALLIES. A lot of "celebrities" know ho w to use them to their advantage. Our school used to use them so we could WIN football games!
Great comments, I will admit I have not listened to much of Tony Robins books etc, but I listened to his podcast with Russell Brand 'Under the skin' and the juxtaposition of those two makes his downfalls more apparent. Tony comes from an underprivileged background, I took similar notions away from his messages as you did. Especially the sentiment of 'replacing expectation with appreciation', but, previous to Tony Robbins, Russell had spoken with one of my idols, Gabor Mate, Gabor has worked in mental health, with severely misfortunate addicts in Canada. Gabor discussed addiction and the causes of it, trauma, pain, a lack of love and 'nourishment' as a child. All of these things Tony seemingly possesses, Gabor Mate talks a lot about the way he himself has addictive behaviours, due to his upbringing, he identifies shopping for music is his vice. The comparison of those two made me realise that whilst I don't truly feel like Tony is doing an injustice in any way, he has created a lot of good for people, he has found his own addiction in 'motivating' others and measuring his worth through success in 'helping' others. We are all addicts I guess is what I am trying to say, success is addiction? Perhaps we need the tools to choose the 'right' addiction, a fulfilling addiction.
My theory is that Tony Robbins appeals to a lot of young people who are culturally illiterate. There is nothing Tony says that you could not find in the great books of the last 300 years, fiction and non-fiction. But so many young people seem clueless about their own legacy from great thinkers in the past and avoid the hard work of actually studying philosophy and great works by going to these cotton candy events. I worked for a major corporation for 30 years and we would occasionally have one of those pep rally sessions for the employees of each department with the typical motivational speaker who pumps everyone up. Then we go back to our offices and come back down to reality and nothing has changed. You do not change yourself from glib one-liners. Change takes hard work. And Tony is making you pay huge amounts for information that is obvious to anyone who has bothered to pick up a book since high school. Come on, people. Put down your damn phone and read something instead of making icons like Tony ultra-rich.
Awesome!
Tony's followers read. His books like the 544-paged "Awaken the Giant Within" were bestsellers for a reason. To depict the people who pack Robbin's seminars as young drones addicted to their cell phones is painting with a broad brush.
Remember, the Tony Robbins phenomenon began before Google and IPhones and some early "culturally illiterate" seekers of Tony's self-help ideas included President Bill Clinton.
I think Mr Christie has 'hit the nail on the head' .. just thought I'd add yet another cliche to the mix. I am amazed every single day by people I meet who don't seem to understand that they literally have the entire worlds knowledge at their fingertips. This immediate, free access to the best libraries and peer reviewed journal articles is a privilege. Disseminators of 'self-help' information like TR rehash the philosophies of others into a neat package which undoubtedly helps many of his customers but I feel that doing the research yourself, reading the literature and critically thinking about it has more benefit in the long run as you are digging those neural pathways yourself rather than being spoon fed... deepening those pathways is the key to permanent positive personal development. All someone like TR does is condense some of the wisdom, combines it with personal charisma and packages it into a seminar because he has understood somewhere along the line that human beings are inherently lazy, particularly in the thinking department. I have great admiration for Tony Robbins but I am also acutely aware that he's running a business and business is only ever about making money. Being a complete skinflint, I'd rather not pay thousands of dollars to someone else to do the research I can do for free.
The article states that the author left after 1 day and "requested a refund."
Is this correct?
Does Anthony Robbins give a money-back guarantee?
Did the article author receive a refund?
Has anyone out there ever requested a refund from Robbins?
Was the refund provided?
Thank you 🙂
Peter S
I watched TR Netflix special, and I was on the fence about attending an event. After watching that train wreck, I can’t believe people pay 5k for that Ra Ra bullshit, and obvious predetermined people picked for “Interventions”
I’m not trying to be a hater, and maybe I’m just to cynical, but I just can’t “ drink the koolaid “
I too saw things I didn't like at his seminar. He dissed Robin Williams who was very sick and clean and sober 8 years before he died. He had a terrible medical condition that made him take his life. Tony indicated he had addictions that made him take his life. He also did too much bragging about his life and people he knew. I took away some wonderfully positive things, but found some topics and issues that were "off putting". Being realistic is essential and I left early as it ran too long for me as well.
I will just watch his 2 hour movie on Netflix and take it from there Three days is insanity! PS.. $2k for that is crazy too!
I just went to my first UPW last week. It was tremendous. I highly recommend anyone go who has internal things holding them back. For you, the author, though, it sounds like (1) you needed something deeper at the time, you had already done so much work on yourself. And also (2) you weren’t “in the mood” to settle down and dig deep into the resource you had all around you.
For example, grabbing the first line I saw from a quick scroll up, you mention the idea of practicing gratitude while stuck in traffic. Your response is that it’s glib, that you don’t need to pay so much money to learn that. Right? And, yeah, I get you. I see where you are. BUT if this were the first time you really thought deeply about the transformative power of gratitude, and that piece of the world was just opening up for you, or you knew but forgot how powerful gratitude is - then the practical advice of practicing gratitude in your car - something available to some of us twice daily, can make a real improvement in our experience of life, and make us better people. Now, I’m personally good with gratitude — probably from listening so much to entrepreneur talks. But I didn’t used to be, and yes I’ve experienced that HUGE improvement in my life. But REALITY is that MOST people have NOT. As evidenced in the traffic.
Could a self-aware person benefit from UPW?
Absolutely. You just have to WANT TO. These concepts are infinitely deep. For example keeping yourself in a peak state. Or priming yourself for the day. Or working with self limiting beliefs.
Maybe the author was simply afraid to walk on hot coals. We did that the first night, before he left.
He didn’t have to do it, and no one would have know that he skipped it. Lots of people chose not to do it. Respect.
Also, it doesn’t have to cost $2000. My seat was $500. Tony didn’t stand next to me, no. But I heard every word and saw everything. (And it was easier to get to the bathroom!!)
In summary, the author really seems to have not been in the mood for going deeper on basic life changing principles. He just couldn’t settle down and get into it.
And as he clearly explains in his description of what he did instead after leaving (note, he got his money back), he was more interested in one-on-one self improvement. Meaning he chose the wrong event. (And yes Tony’s organization does offer one-on-one coaching across the world.)
We have all been in a mood where we “just can’t get into this” and walked away. Sometimes I personally have an evil desire to heckle very serious movies lol.
But when I was at UPW, Tony explained, “This is not raa-raa shit.” There is a reason we participate physically and verbally — to get these concepts burned into our memory and subconscious minds. We don’t want to love the long weekend then forget everything. So we do the physical cheering and dancing. (It also keeps us energized to be able to pay total attention for 12 hr long days...)
Tony isn’t for everyone.
He’s for almost everyone.
But you need to be hungry and willing to take the ride as he drives. And be sure that the thousands of UPW videos available on YouTube are the kind of learning you’re seeking.
I've attended several TR events and enjoyed them - but I also admire your honest opinions and, above all your entertaining way of expressing them! well done, if you are not a writer, maybe you should be, cheers
I know in person missionary (billionaire) who makes 8x more money (few billions) than Tony Robbins (0.5 billions) but it didn't make me fall In Love with Christianity.
I bought few books by Tony but I cannot understand how "compound interest" can make him charge $2000 for 1000 of lucky winners(?). And how saving money can make you reach?
And why he has such voice? To greedy to spend money on vocal coaches?
But frankly, again, his 'financial' books teach you that 3% with compound interest and higher risks are better than 1.5% or 15% (with super high risks).
I also dislike that Frank Kern publishes videos with Tony Robbins showing you how to get money from people willing to give you money. It is not what I expected.
That is a cool and legit response
I can see that this is not for everybody at every stage of there own personal development growth cycle.
It's awesome that you did your own thing. That's the most important part.
Koom by yah is not for everybody. I personally hate that part and it puts me off going. Your right sometimes you just need the meat and Potatos that's what you paid for. Less can be more.
I just went to UPW in Newark November 8 to 11th, 2018. I don't regret going, but I was disappointed. Damn freezing cold air blew down on my head and made me sick. I had to leave stadium and buy a second hoodie. It was freezing. In 4 days I gained about 6 hours worth of teaching. That Joseph dude is ok sometimes, but overall is annoying AF. Constant sexual comments, orders, stand up, shake that ass, sit down, be. Bs. Bs..... right in the middle of best visual experience of my life, that Ass throws in comments to go sign up for Date with Destiny and my visual was destroyed. That really pushed me off. I love Tony and studied all his programs for 30 years. I really expected more from my first Robbins Event.
Could you kindly assist by providing a breakdown (in hours) of the seminar portions delivered by Tony Robbins, Joseph McClenden & Scott Harris?
I know Tony is a great presenter. But are the other guys any good?
Thanks 🙂
Peter S
I attended TR seminar this yeR in singapore. I want to learn from him and grow myself. I dislike "pubs and loud music" in general but i enjoyed those sessions. I learned another way to change my state drastically.
I do not like those prolonged sales pitches, hence i used those sessions to grab food n take some air. For me, its about getting the knowledge im hungry for. These little "imperfections", i just ignored.
It depends on perceptions, which are subjective.
Overall, i really enjoyed TR seminar and i would join his other courses.
Like the author of this page, this is simply my opinion. I believe we all get something out of any event in life. Tony is a motivational speaker; motivation is never a solution. It's a temporary result that does not last unless it's connected to your true highest value (chief aim).
If you want lasting results, try John Demartini. He will show you how to empower yourself without the cheerleading aspect. A man who has developed a Method, that is scientifically reproducible. A man who walks his talks and has transformed literally thousands of lives over rate last 30 years.
When you go to see Tony this is actually the guy you want to see. It's called the Breakthrough experience.
Thank you!
Oh wow , thank you for recommending John Demartini, this is exactly what I was looking for. The universe has such amazing ways to deliver the right message to you. I love discovering new books.
Thank you for writing about Dr. John Demartini. I've been watching video and podcast interviews with him, and i can truly say i've learned from watching one of his half-hour video interviews, than the hours i've spent listening to Tony Robbins' Personal Power II in audio format.
Thank you so much for this post. I was about to loose my job, taking meds, vitamins, and therapy... and still so depressed. I considered Tony Robbins because I needed something to snap me out of this rut. Looking at the price of his Florida event and not being able to pay for it led me to looking for information to see if the money was worth it. I read this comment and went to YouTube to look for John Demartini. The first video I saw was a 8 min video on depression... and after 15 minutes reflecting what he said I snapped out of my depression and now have the tools to change my thinking to the right perspective and I immediately stop being depressed. This post changed my life... quite literally... and I will be eternally greatful for your post.
Love it ... you felt empowered. That's a big sign you did the right thing. I started watching a documentary on Tony Robbins. I was fascinated because he was saying all the right things for a self aware person ... except ... i wasn't keen how he went about it either ... and ... maybe he is caught up a wee bit because for me ... self awareness is hugely enormously humbling, on your knee's, blows your mind TOTALITY kind of thing. And it's DEEP. Closer and deeper than your own breath and heart beat. So interestingly, I too felt empowered when I turned it off. Not deep enough. Your post makes me smile.
I felt the same exact way. I have been doing therapy for almost 7 years now, and my therapist incorporates very modern techniques and we work a lot with the law of attraction , so I am really open to stuff like that. Not to sound like I feel better than some people , but I feel like if you really are in touch with yourself Tony Robins seminars will just not work for you. I feel like there is no one size fits all. I also feel like his technique is slightly aggressive and I do not think that deep psychological trauma or pattern that you want to get rid of can be erased with a 3 day seminar. And its not like I do not want to do the work ... I actually have been doing the work for 8 years . Therefor I dont think that this will be the right fit for me. I am sure that some people can benefit and I am happy for them . However, it is good to know that there are people who feel the same way.
Fill yer boots top man. I learned more reading your synopsis than spending 3 days getting yelled at. I cannot stand being asked 3 times at increasingly louder volume if I'm "In the Room". Of course I'm in the fucking room you twat, otherwise I couldn't hear you being a full-size pillock! I have lots of questions, because I'm a 64 year old dinosaur on my last big gig. OK, it's world domination of the small business space so it may take a little time. But I'd like to join whatever you have going because I like your style.
I wish there's a LIKE button to click on your comment.
Thank you for your write up. I was going to go to some sort of free taster session tomorrow but I was thinking it was going to be a pressured selling thing. I am happy that I read your comments.
I have mixed feelings about Tony. I was one of his devout disciples back in the early 90's "Unlimited Power" days. I bought all his books and tapes and even went to a seminar. He does have some points of good advice, but he's also a master salesman. He's rich because he sells stuff...a lot of stuff.
The trouble I have is that he thinks he knows everything about everything. He preaches about too many areas, some of which he's probably an expert in like money and salesmanship. He's also a great "pop" psychologist, but a PhD he is not. In his Unlimited Power series he preached about how to have successful relationships and how he had the best marriage in the world; then he got divorced. I also didn't like him talking about God and how God wanted him to be wealthy. I thought that was kind of "out there."
I didn't walk out of the seminar I went to, but I eventually "walked out" on Tony Robbins. I drank enough of the Kool Aid and realized that there is more out there.
Shorten the seminar to just ONE day. - one day is definitely not enough to transform people's lives and beliefs. I love the progress of the program and the experience!!
Everything that Robbins tells his Clients and Participants are things, which everyone else could tell themselves. And all he tells isa blueprint of what ALL those Life Coaches, etc. tell everyone. The only difference is: ...the way, ...the intention and ...the transmitting-code that a Business- or Life-Coach uses, to get YOU to suck up this information for real and be able to do something positive for yourself and your situation with it.
Thats it. That's all!
I could do such Semiars on the Spot, whithout having sone this before.
Why?
Because I got the talent!!! Because I'm authentic!!! And I'm speaking out of Life experience as a Human Being, a Entrepeneur, a Mind-Person, a well and smart Life Spectator, etc.
Conclusion:
There is nothing special about a Tony Robbins, James A. Ray, or all the others. They just know how to get their emotions, but simple content, to their Fans or Clients minds.
Everyone who pays that amount of money to him, to attend his seminars, would be better off finding a Life or Businesscoach WHO doesnt speak in front of "thousands of people". Find one, that has the same strength but something more, which NON of all those Tony Robbins' clones out there have:
THE RIGHT TRANSMITTING CODE IN THEIR CONTENT AND SPEECH.
What they do it moneymaking "big time" on people which are just not as self confident like those "Life and Business coaches" - that's the only difference! There's nothing more to it!!
I'm different in this. I'm a real Life-/Business Coach who doesnt need YOU to pay 20 Seminars, to get you to where you wanna go.
THAT's the honest, strong, real and helpful way - in small groups or rather 1:1. I can make you aims visible and I can open peoples mind to see their reachable goals - not the ones, that someone never can reach.
Best of Luck to ya,
MarVin
Didn' you exactly get what you wished for? Empowerment.
Yes he got empowerment but it was from himself and not from paying 2.5k to Tony Snake Oil Robbins
The LGAT (Large Group Awareness Training) concept, of which TR is not the only advocate, has some well researched info for anyone willing to look it up. It is a fascinating concept, psychologically speaking, and it is astounding to see how profoundly it affects some people. It is indeed more attractive to people who are "searching" for something in their life that usually goes much deeper than what is implied by the chest thumping gurus who conduct these seminars. Does it help some people? Sure it does...some. And for those who are willing to pay for this "help", I suppose it's cheaper than formal therapy (and probably more effective). But for those who have some focus in their lives and understand what is really important, then TR (and others conducting LGAT seminars) looks like just one more carnival barker.
Awesome commentary! I felt that way a few weeks after!!
Hi Noah, some thoughts for you....All the memes that you made of TR's mantras you went against. I am presuming you don't believe that there is 'No growth in comfort'? Personally that is how I believe we do most of growth when we push ourselves out of our comfort zone. You were out of your comfort zone at UPW...massaging people you don't know etc so decided to leave. You were 'uncertain' as to whether UPW seminar was a waste of your time, and your meme states that 'Success is based upon the amount of uncertainty you can handle' You don't seem to be able to handle that much. The next meme of 'Your worst day can be your best day' you didn't stick around to find out..and finally 'Have a hunger that is insatiable and always expanding' ...well you didn't seem to be hungry to see what the next days held for you. I am not criticizing you at all, just reflecting back that what TR's sees as key elements to follow/succeed you did not attempt to follow. I am attending DWD in December and I am currently doing research so I can get the most out of it. I am not sure you can judge something that you didn't actually experience fully...it is like reading the opening pages of a book and then saying you didn't like the book..how can you form a judgement or opinion when you only see a small part of the picture? I am taking my time to comment on your info (which I don't often do) in the hopes you can use this. I am hoping for a great experience in December. I am nervous about 12-13 hr days and 'massaging people' etc but after reading your review I know I need to fully commit and see it to the end in order to ensure I get as much from it as possible. Thank you for solidifying this for me...and I wish you a wonderfully bright future filled with much happiness. At the end of the day maybe TR is not your guru LOL!
BTW your physical transformation is amazing!
Love and greetings. It looks like you have learned well in those 7 hours how to advertise yourself so I find it very unfair that you claimed your money back. Everybody goes to school to learn. What you do with what you learn is totally and entirely up to you. No teacher appears by your bed side and makes sure you complete your bucket list. I hear that millions appeared at his seminars past 32 years and used his books and training programs to their cheers to success. So if you did not, it is okay. And I doubt that Tony Robbin's team is using any of your business... Were you turned down, you raised your hand and you were not picked for intervention during the seminar? Being this successful, you were not recognized? Is that why you left? But you are loved. And your before after photo... well, thats something else.. Lets discuss that in another article. Thank you for sharing. Love and hugs xo You rock!
Well said sir. I feel the same way . The Netflix special was fake man . Those ppl were actors . the philosophy is what I want to keep alive in my mind . Every time something throws me off , every time I find out something else ,I try to remember that not everyone is perfect . But I do believe that Tony Robbins set up originally a little shady and then learn some value in his life and made up for it for a time there with instilling values and other peoples lives. But now he’s caught up again getting blinded trying to sell more and more and more instead of remembering what he originally came from. He preaches it so much now using the same phrases and techniques to get through to people .He’s done this so much it’s become meaningless. Is losing me now but when you listen to a lot of his material ,it’s pretty ground breaking . It’s amazing ,his way of getting around things . And like Wayne Dyer says, if your selling me placebos and they work for me ,then I’m into buying those placebos .lol .well anyway ,sorry if I misspelled anything and I never speak with anyone about this sort of study usually, so I thought I’d reach out . Also ,8 figures? Congrats I’m still figuring out 6 lol
this is great. i was touched in emotional ways after reading. i am about to embark on my own personal development day with my friend but without the sushi as i am not a fan of the raw fish. I am sorry if this dissapoints i am simply trying to do my best as i to once walked out of a seminar, for different reasons sure (i was hungover and the leader was very strange) it just wasnt for me. hiking however, now thats me. See you on the flip side dude, keep up the good work
Thanks for sharing. I do not do well in a hyper-vented environment. Someone called me today and wanted me to invest. My response was, invest what. We are not poor. We are blessed to have a nice home, food, car, necessities, friends, etc. I am not sure that having more money will really enrich our lives; however, we could assist others with need and maybe enrich theirs. But, again, what money to invest. I do what I can for others and know if God wanted me to do more, there would be more. Still pondering investing. Thank you for your input. I really did receive value information from this information.
Just attended the UPW 2018 in Sydney. There was so much content there it will take time to digest and needs to include a "roadmap" which doesn't involve paying for a coach. Since attending and during attendance the hard sell has not stopped. It is over the top and making it hard to stay focussed on the content of UPW. I'm annoyed at myself for signing up to Business Mastery 2019 at a time when I need that money to put back into my business. The cost to attend in Florida is going to be steep. And then they keep barraging me continuously to buy Mastery University. From reading some of the comments on the Facebook group I have a feeling some people have gotten themselves into financial trouble by falling for the "cross out pricing" and "limited time offer" selling techniques. I have told the "mentors" my feelings on the subject. My biggest complaint is that they are not interested in getting feedback from attendees to improve what they are doing. And I really agree with your comment on "More time to talk with the people around us" but I think it needs to be in group settings like in Date with Destiny.
i attended a one day seminar in Ottawa and while I was originally told there would be no sales gimicks, I found that the other speakers were flogging their books on personal development and courses on investment. I am an 83 yr old retired lawyer and not easily influences but I was swept up in the tide and purchased a course with Phil Town. It was initially valued at nearly $10,000. and was offered for $475 for one person and a guest. The attendees ran like lemmings to take advantage of the offer. I went out for a coffee and was swept up in the frenzy and signed up for the course. Two days later I found $667. has been deducted from my credit card. Apparently the cost of the course was in US dollars. the course had been billed as completely refunded if you were not completely satisfied. I felt I had been duped and taken advantage of. I requested a refund, was told to Contact "Power of Success", which I did but have not heard from them. Aside from my allegation of fraud, I am dismayed that Tony Robbins would permit such crass marketing to be done on a very vulnerable and captive audience. He is allowing himself to be used as a marketing tool for others who obviously do not espouse the values he professes.
Kay - Tony Robbins "IS" Mr. Crass Marketer, truly! Don't let that smile fool you. He purposely gets people pumped up before putting something out there for sale; he did the same thing 25 years ago. And I have little doubt that he makes a GOOD commission for everything anyone else buys that he allows in his seminar. He is a salesman who knows how to manipulate people.
You are so correct!
TR is getting old and burnt out. Even Batman got old and weak in the knees. He was great in the 90s but now he is like going to see grampa for advice. Still a good guy though. I think.
Buy his book Awaken The Giant Within. It's a classic, a seriously great book and Tony's pièce de résistance. It'll cost you $20 or less and if everything you need is there. Take what you need and leave the rest, read other books and do the same. Do the work. You don't need a 4 day gazillion dollar seminar to make a change and expecting that is chasing the magic pill...I want it fast approach.
I've considered going to his seminar but the cost and circus atmosphere were always deterrents. I like TR and have had great success using his tools but it was from ME focusing on improving and doing the work. But, if that is what helps a person and they get value from it then it's a different approach than mine and good on them.
For those who think you're nuts for walking out....well, this was YOUR journey and you walked away with valuable insights and learning's. Good for you for recognizing that.
Soooo agree with you
I was a little less encouraging in an earlier post, because I think Tony is great. But hey... thanks for what you do. Good success; go for it.
It sounds like you went with very specific needs and they weren't met because of it being aimed at 10,0000 different people. It doinds like there is nothing missing in your life compared to Maslows theory? You may have everything but you don't know it or your missing one thing maybe love and connection?
Your intro to yourself riding on this man's back? Doesn't get my respect. How about having started your angle by selling yourself...from where you are, not by "name calling".
How do you get behind guys like tony when they charge so much for their service. I sure for a lot less then 5000 i could pay someone to tell me how worth while i am and how much i should be on the planet. I recently watched a few minutes of a documentry they have of him on Netflix where at the start of it he was talking to a guy who felt sucidal and other than telling the guy he is worth it and some other kind of just what i call bandaid answers of positivity he did not really dig into any of the issues in the guys life that might be causing him to feel this way. It was like he was offering him bandaids for the bullet holes in this guys life. Not real solutions and i am sure if i gave you 5000 you would do the same for me that os why i am skeptical of people like tony when they are paid so much for there stuff.
He has a ton of cheaper products and free material.
These are his PREMIUM products.
If he was simply a marketer selling dreams, he'd have disappeared 2 decades ago. Instead, he gives 100% of the profits of his new books to FEEDING tons and tons of people in poor countries.
And re: the suicidal guy from the Documentary .. you missed the point. He made the guy laugh. He purposely threw off the guys mental state aka interrupted a pattern that led the guy down the path of suicidal tendencies. He was SHOWING the guy that another mindstate is possible at ANY moment.
Tony makes a lot of money. But you know what else he does? He works insanely hard. He donates a TON of money. He has helped MILLIONS of people.
It's called an exchange of value. Just because someone is rich, doesn't mean they are "scamming" someone else in the process.
How many countries in Africa have you fed?
Do you have actual specific details and proof of Tony's alleged philanthropic efforts?
Much wisdom & honesty. Thank-you
Hey, I'm Iris from Australia. I felt the same way. I love TR don't get me wrong but there were too much fluff and dancing. To me, it was wasting my time. I wish I found your article sooner before I purchased the UPW tickets.
I agree with you. I'm not a fan of his. He has a problem with women. He is loud. Lacks humility. Embarresses people at times. Just too much.
I research multiple self-help persons with the focus on what I can take away and apply to my individual needs and areas of improvement. I do not ever expect anyone else to "fix" me; that is my job. In all self-improvement classes or seminars there is a certain amount of showmanship and Tony Robbins is no exception. All I have heard or read coming from TR has been his way of attempting to connect with people seeking his advise and counsel. Sure he makes mistakes, he even admits this, but in my opinion he runs a good business which encourages people to rise above their circumstances and be more than they are.
It seems to me you have had enough self helpers help now your doing what you've wanted helping yours helping your self .
I am going to TR in November. I have attended other personal growth conferences that were great, and I do feel like they helped me. I am nervous, like you were. This is my first time. But hoping that I don't need to ask for a refund. But I am like you. Don't enjoy the hoopla and wish to get to the meat. So we'll see what happens. Any advice for me?
I don't get the last 3 memes.
Firstly who pays $2,000 for a seminar secondly walks out of such a seminar one the first day! That says more about you then Tony Robbins.
I don’t attend no seminars or spend hours and hours on this stuff, but I can not deny it is helpful, how helpful l? Well that depends on the individual.
Many successful business people and presidents and world leaders swear by him they have used him continuously. For example Billionaire Marks Beinoff founder of sales force and top hedge fund manager Ray Dalio net worth 18 billion a leading authority are just two example of people who have used him their whole lives. It is about what you take from people like Tony and what you do with it not everyone will succeed by virtue of who they are and what they do.
I am British so a natural sceptic when it comes to these things I never buy into the seminars etc but listening to some videos and reading the books is great and insightful, just don’t get carried away with it everything in moderation.
I just attended the UPW in Sydney. My view:
-There are a lot of good mindset and personal growth concepts presented for beginners to this area or for those that need a refresher. And you do get to dig deep on yourself.
-However, I do think it could be condensed into 2 days rather than 4 days. The dancing and hugging etc is a necessary part of the 'changing your state' and having some fun, but I think there is a bit too much of it. Although, I think pushing you to your limits with the energy you need to expend and how long the days are, is part of TRs strategy of change.
-Some people walk out because of the Ra Ra type energy ,but on the other hand some people find it too confronting having to dig deep to answer some honest questions about yourself and your life. They get defensive and dismiss it all as rubbish and use the ra ra as an excuse to walk out
-I feel that if you are really hungry for change, and want to learn even something, you will put up with all the stuff you do not like to gain the solid content and dig deep on yourself. In fact, I think making it so intense is part of the methodology and that it works for many people.
-I feel, putting up with something that may not be your style, is part of getting out of your comfort zone which you need to do for change.
-Yes, the upselling on day 2 /3 was a bit annoying and took a bit too much time. One speaker took ages to tell his story which at first was interesting and engaging, but in the end felt tacky as an upsell. But, that was not the end of the world and did not negate the strategies I learnt.
-The stadium is really cold, Tony keeps it like that purposely, take a warm jacket.
-So overall, I do not regret going, I learnt some things and reinforced stuff I had learnt before, I had fun and played full out. There are things I will take action on as a result and my life and mindset will improve as it does year by year as I learn other things also. If you can afford it go for the learning and experience. Stay open minded about the process and hoop la, have some fun, make some new friends.
I was there too. Perfect summary and agree.
Thanks! This is what I suspected. Rather spend my time with my friends or at work. Boy its easy to make money on "fantasy". I rather live my life, in good and bad, and I cannot take all my "stuff" with me when I die anyway. What I can do is love those around me and even make someones day better. That's more value to me! Love, peace and understanding!
Liz
Hi Noah
GOOD ON YOU! Many yrs ago I worked for a company that brought Tony Robbins to Australia. I have worked UPW behind the scenes several times. I have met Tony personally and believe me I am a midget standing next to him. I agree with your comments and must say your reasons for walking out are valid- they are the same reasons I find as the weak spots in Tony's marketing and presentations. Don't get me wrong I think Tony is great however 20 years later I know he is but the beginning to a success journey or should I say spiritual journey- I also had the pleasure of working with Brian Tracy, Deepak Chopra, Louise Hayes and others. My personal experience- listen and learn from as many of these wonderful people as you can - take what you need and leave the rest there messages will benefit anyone on their journey to their destiny- Denzel Washington, Coach John Carter , Bob Proctor, Abraham Hicks, Napoleon Hill, Andrew Carnegie, the list goes on and on and I pursue them all devouring their teachings- what do I get out of it- a joy of living, all the motivation and inspiration I need to have a great day every day- am I filthy rich - God no perhaps that is the best that's yet to come - now I will explore your "Tony Robbins Marketing Techniques" would love to connect with you!
All these people are shysters, very good at it too. Power comes from facing your fears and knowing yourself. I am always concerned by wealth creation gurus. Money does not make people happy.
Thank you for your article- you have saved my money 🙂
Dude i think Tony did for you in that seminar exactly what he promised to do. In fact he did it so good that after one day you were cured. i mean you said it yourself...
"But what I really felt, more than anything else…
Empowered."
Thank you Tony
That was exactly what I was thinking. He got a refund and empowerment after one day with TR. Seriously, this might as well be an ad for UPW seminar.
About fifteen years ago I was quite sold on Tony Robbins. Then I lived some more and realized that it's a lot of hype. I've gained a lot more from more realistic self-help books.
I have a question-
I've been listening to TR seminars on YouTube on and off for four years. Why does he ask the audience to say "I?" My ears work, I don't need to join a mob and say "I" which, when Tony does it with his hoarse voice, sounds as though he's choking. 🙂
He’s having them say, “Aye,” which means “yes. It’s just a way of keeping everyone engaged.
Thank you so much for this well composed article. You just saved me $2000, and reminded me that what my subconscious was telling me, is true.
See Mark Benioff, founder of Salesforce, to see if it worked for him.
Valuable insights. And you reflect back to me that GIANT within me. I'm 62 and "i built that mthrfckr!" It took a coupla high priced "seminars" to realize the 15 seconds of brilliance i caught in the jar came from my own hard work (like yours)-- not the person earning a living from putting their hands on the hearts of others. i am an excellent coach. but it is sacred work----not to be monetized by me, though for others it is right. my purpose is to reveal mysteries. period. nothing more. and leave Truth in my wake. Peace be with you, Brother. for the rest of your days.
Awesome
I too have watched Tony Robbins, a lot! The first thing that struck me was the lack of authenticity, swearing to make a point, does not empower people it intimidates! Telling someone to get on the phone right now and end a relationship in the way he did was intimidating! His body language, his tone was hostile! The only saving grace for Tony Robbins seminars right now, is the hyperactivity it causes and the trust in the pattern of behaviour showed by the audience...sheep like! I am embarking on my coaching career and it is because I have coached since I was in my teens. I want to make a difference with people. No one, I know, can afford these kind of sums of money to attend coaching seminars and, who in their right mind would sell all their hard earned belongings to do so!My aim is to have walk in counselling and coaching centres funded by the country through our governments!We have an NHS that is failing because we don't seek the solution with open hearts. I am giving my time to coach people and learn along the way. I want to give what I can of it back, to the community, by helping charities like MIND to expand. My groups will be small when I begin in October but that doesn't matter....they will grow and we will make a difference!I feel Tony like many who come from a struggling background get addicted to money. Sure they give a lot to charity but they are expecting 200 dollars basic for a hours session with someone!This is their expectation!My philosophy is that this information is not owned by anyone it is fluid and most of all it is felt by everyone!The most profound statement for me from Tony Robbins is 'He is not my Guru!'My role model is Carl Rogers the founder of The Person Centred Approach...Thats coaching!
10,000 people buying $2,000+ tickets in the hopes that Tony would "change their life" and "blow up their business" is the same as hundreds of people going to their church pastor to cure their cancer. In a way, the pastor one is more ethic, since he isn't making $20,000,000+ from each event. Tony is one of the top salesman in the world. Not Jesus Junior. If you truly need a mentor for real advice, open your network, meet new people, get closer to your friends, reach outside of your boundaries. Don't go to a concert.
Touché!
Nice work if you can get it. Certainly helps to run the corporate jet, the private island in Fiji and all of the other accoutrements that go with it. No wonder this guy is already half way to a BILLION DOLLARS and the suckers are just lining up to give him their money. I don't need this guy or anyone else to be my ' guru' because I already have one. ME.
Like u didn’t finish the seminar...honestly I could not finish this article... booorriiiing
Agree with your thoughts. I’ve read all of Tony’s books, done Breakthrough and Date With Destiny. His presentations have become too theatrical and at times profane and really obscene. We left his last seminar early as well as this is NOT the same man I worked with in the 70’s. Tony’s mentor, Jim Rohn, would not be pleased either.
Omg... I’m sitting on a plane RIGHT NOW... leaving vegas after business mastery... I left 2.5 days into the event for these SAME EXACT REASONS! It was 60% time kill-30% selling you something and 10% content. I like Tony too... but this was a huge waste of my money.
I am glad you wrote this article. I recently had a similar experience at a financial seminar. It was packed with people who truly believed in it, and people who went on stage to give testimonials about their success. For me - it was over-complicated and set incorrect expectations about what it would take to succeed in that program.
So as far as UPW, I'm glad you described your experience - because I am also on the fence about attending it this fall. I love reading books, doing the personal work (i.e. Miracle Morning routine), and connecting with empowering people. But spending several days at a seminar sounds overkill to me.
I always wonder about a person who has made it rich by telling other people how to run their lives - even before they have experienced much life or done anything else to be successful or wealthy in. (Unless you are a Viktor Frankl I don't think you have the life experience to tell people how to live exceedingly better lives from when you are in your early 20s.)
So I find over and over again that his concepts are pretty much based on other people's research and experience and then presented in a way to make as much money out of people as he can. (How can you possibly really get to grips about human development with hundreds of people in a small stadium setting? Although at $2000 a person it certainly shows how to get immensely rich if you have the 'gift of the bag'.) ie. Don't think you are going to get value for money (unless you are happy with paying that kind of money for the rah-rah of a revival meeting).
My suggestion would be to buy his main books for a few dollars each, and then go to YouTube and listen to Dave Ramsey.
The 'motivantional' movement basically makes money selling seminars, courses, books etc. There are examples of people who have been inspired by these guys but most successful people have never spent a penny attending any seminars or courses.....
Thank you
It seems like, perhaps all of those self-help seminars you attended in the past; as well as all the books you read, finally culminated into your own self-actualization. In that moment when you decided to walk out on Tony, you become living proof that it all works and that he was successful. You may be right about Mr. Robbins being, from what I take, a fraud. I suppose you could say the same about the Catholic Church, but when it comes down to it, behind the money and the hoopla, they truly do want to help people.... and that's exactly what he did for you. As Tony says "even your worst day can be your best day." Congratulations on leveling up in life.
Why would you give this idiot 2,000$ He lives in the stratosphere of his own mind. He wouldn't pull you out of a mud hole. Read the Greek philosophers. These modern day gurus take advantage of the fact that no one does, thus, they, like Robbins can present themselves as original and unique. I have found that so-called inspirational, motivational speakers sound no different than Joel Osteen, and often like tarot card readers. I am not impressed with this man. Problem is people impress so easily. No matter how sophisticated or educated they may think themselves to be.
Please tell me you have at least read his books. They changed my life...
I have read Tony Robbin’s books, done Tony Robbins coaching and attended Unleash the Power Within. That seminar I got a lot out of regarding my personal life.
I did buy a Diamond Level ticket to Business Mastery for $11,000 - which I walked out of at the end of Day 1. Most of the people I met were desperate and failing small business owners looking for answers. Tony’s suggested ways to grow businesses bigger, strategies aimed at corporate structuring, and general big-business advice seemed tone deaf.
In one instance, he was discussing guarantees - What are you willing to do if your business does not deliver on the service promise to the client? He pulled a woman from the crowd- she said her business was coaching single mothers on how to be more effective with their time. She was scattered, rambling and it didn’t seem like she actually had a business - more like an idea for a business. He coached her to finding a guarantee: that she would send her client and their kids on an all expense paid trip to Disney if she didn’t deliver. Tony didn’t address the asinine premise of telling single mothers that they’re doing it wrong, and that financial priorities might not align for her target demographic to find value in her services.
I waited till the end of the day, went through every exercise and still didn’t see the value. I walked out and asked for a refund. There was an attempt on the part of the organizers to persuade me to stay - that maybe all I needed was more coaching. That may be true but certainly not from them. I did get a refund and spent the next 5 days exploring the phenomenal art scene in Las Vegas.
You preemptively denied the possibility that you weren’t committed enough, but then later you fully admit you were pretty annoyed by the interaction exercises. Are you aware of this inconsistency in your article?
There's a difference in actually following through with the exercises (actually doing the back massages) and being annoyed with it. You can go to a gym and be committed at building your body, but still get annoyed when the trainer keeps asking you if you want supplements.
Yeah never trust a guy with teeth bleached three shades too white.
Well said! Agreed! I feel most of the self-development gurus haven't achieved anything great in their life(except for their talking). They just teach the same kinds of stuff again and again and they charge a lot of money for saying the same.
I remember buying a course of his year's ago....and felt like I got ripped off.Tony made his money by telling people how to make money....same tactics name dropping and whatever....he gives bits and pieces from other self help books lol....what really turned me off is when he got to the point of using fluent profanity....I felt disrespected ....it just does not reflect on the model of a real successful person.i feel he did read all those self help books....and combined them into a new format with different wording.i realised...he's like a guy who encouraged us to go find gold in them hills ....but meanwhile instead of mining himself..... he's selling us the shovels and supplies to mine.....I cringe when I think about the money I spent on him.....wise choice....I made it years ago however I'm on to his game and he won't get my cash again !!!
It’s always amazing when people think they can correlate cursing with success in life. A history lesson is in order.
Agree with you!
Tony Robbins is a great salesman. That’s all there is. Reminds me of the EST movement 1960s and 70’s
Did you do the EST training? It is not start till the 70's.
I’ve watched Tony from time to time over the years. However is it all real.? Does he have plants at the event? Seems he is profiting on people’s negative emotions. Are any there any success stories shared from those that attend other than Sol. I’ve found deeper meaning talk with friends and reading books which are a lot cheaper. FYI I’m not making accusations, I’m just having questions.
1 - you didn't get the point of the seminar.
2 - you are a quitter, in this context. You have severe problems of Anxiety.
3 - I bet you quit school or did it by obligation and as a torture.
4 - When you are presented with something in the universe what matter most is what you generate. Education is not a package delivered by TR to you but what you generate inside yourself.
My Two Cents
It sounds like you thought way too much about this, haha. If you would have just jumped in w/o so much judgement and gave it %100 in the moment for those 3 days you probably would have got more out of it and had the stamina to stay and not needed to walk out? Why not? You paid 2k and flew to Ca...just finish the thing. Or if you think you already had shit figured out and were familiar with his strategies etc. Why go? I personally don't like how his events have grown to 10k people filling arenas. I first went to one of his events when I was 12, 25 years ago. I was much more open minded as a kid, obviously... there were less that 3k people there, maybe like 2500. Tony held my hand during a real emotional moment for me. I definitely "drank the kool aid" with the supervision of my Dad but it helped me. He helped me a lot actually. I went again later in life and had a whole new perspective on it, still positive. I just took the things that resonated and worked for me and left the rest. If I had some cash to blow i'd probably give his wealth mastery or date w/ destiny events a shot.
I agree completely with your statement here.
Ty for your well stated read!
just go to church and it's free lol
Amen! I watched one of his videos because a family member found him fantastic. My response to my family member was that I can definitely see how people find him uplifting and encouraging. But to charge 5000 bucks a person to get into a seminar is ridiculous. I can go to Church for free and be uplifted and encouraged and learn more than I learned in that video she had me watch. Plus, his language was awful! I don't need someone screaming profanity in my face to get me to have a wake up call. Again, some people are ok with that and find him great. I guess my thought is if he truly wanted to reach people who need help, etc., why charge such an astronomical fee to go see him. Oh well, to each their own.
At some point, I ask about fulfillment of purpose, which I believe Tony is living his. And when is enough enough. By this I mean, he has made enough resources to last himself and his family more than a life time. I’d like to see him grow his capacity and his impact by extending himself to offer his gifts of facilitating personal growth and healing in service of those from marginalized populations/targets of systemic oppression. For example, 10% of every seminar includes people without the means who have put their skin in the game through an application process and are granted entry including support for travel and lodging. Or to run one of every ten seminars exclusively in service of populations who are targets of systemic oppression. This would provide Tony the opportunity to expand and grow his cultural awareness and gain insight into his own implicit bias conditioned by dominate culture. Because as he knows, growth is life, so try something different/new with humility and depth. This can touch his soul in unimaginable ways.
Wow! And YASSSS!!!!
Very weil said. When Bill Gates made his money and good or bad changed the world he stepped back, reevaluated how he could do good in a different way and created a foundation that will spend billions of dollars on helping healthcare in the world. Not perfect but a reflection that he was willing to go the next step.
I also admired how Tony Robbins grew out of his mildly disturbed childhood traumas, self learned NLP, Physcology, hypnosis, etc then gave that knowledge to others via taking the time to write books, make Cd/DVD and arrange his seminars. He makes a lot of money for his efforts. I see nothing wrong with that, as he helps people and employees many people/families to run those aspects of his business. From my business professor perspective, TR has created a very solid business model to his passion. From my Hypnotherapist perspective, TR has learned how to touch the subconscious of his seminar attendees effectively.
I just watched the Netflix documentary on Tony Robbins, "I am not your guru" last week.
I have read his books, watched seminars, listened to audio and interviews. The Netflix documentary went behind the scenes of a "2015 master your destiny " 6 day, 12 hour a day seminar. $5000/per attendee event in Florida.
I learned a lot about Tony Robbins from that 2 hours.
He is driven by his own pain of childhood abuse from his mother, obsessed with his mission to help others avoid that same pain, is finding a way to fill in the lack of love he had as a child with the high intensity love of his messages and seminar tactics.
His "abrupt language", as very evident in the documentry, he claims is a successful NLP disrupt thought technique (which it is), but the taboo language (mainly Fuck) I could see his own pain in the over use of this word.
I would like to see, as you articulated, Tony Robbins go to the next stage, to heal himself (or better get help with a Hypnotherapist) free his own pain and then lose his own Pain/Ego so he can give (without money) to the world. He has a lot of unleashed power that others can also carry on. He has unfortunately created a name for himself, not a program that will survive without him.
Perfectly said. I agree.
On top of the cost for event you have to pay for transportation and hotel stay?
Yes. The cost of his events, is for the event only. Transportation, lodging, and food are on your own. None of that is included.
Really Good Stuff, The main thing is people have their different needs to be spoken to (or interacted with) learn to speak their language and you are golden, you and I are a meat and potatoes, get to the point. there is a gaggle of people that are so in need of the fluff... I call them the mainstream, buy whats cool even if it sucks, shop at Walmart even if you don't get a cheap price and get crap quality.... you get the point.
at 53, I'm looking at retiring doing what I love, quitting my great job that hates me and has a blatant disregard for me, my family and my time .. and I'm scared as hell gambling this late in the game but it is going to fulfill me ... I hope
I am about to go to his event in Vegas August 15th. I am not a superficial person either. This event is for business owners and I am going not to build my confidence to cheer with a group of business leader but rather to get to know them as connections in the business world.
cool, I love it!
Dear Noah, being quite a fan of Tony Robbin's approach (and having loved to watch his video "I am not your guru") I was looking for an opposite voice on the web, someone being sceptical. I was very glad to have found your post and can really relate to it. Thanks for sharing your critical opinion, I find it highly precious!
PS: A quote by Mark Twain I like a lot (valueing your single critical voice in an ocean of That-is-great-staters for Robbins): "Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect."
😉
Kind regards from Berlin, Matthias
Exactly the same for me. Great article.
I connect to all the things you have written.
I felt the same thing after watching the film "I'm not your guru".
Such a huge glamor was built around the name Tony Robbins and after whatching the film it felt like plastic with silicon and a bit of soul.
Dont get me wrong in the last year i have been training with some of Tony's methods and i can feel the drive to change happening for me in and out.
I was very happy i got to see this article and relate to.
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If it talks like a cult and walks like a cult, it's probably a cult.
Never Truer words written...
In some way, everything is a cult. From the Politics we support to the sports we enjoy - anything we believe in and invest our time and energy into can technically be called a cult, its just easier to point at groups when we are on the outside of the group.
TR is a smart businessman preying on those who aren't strong enough to stand on their own 2 feet but its also a decision a person makes to give him their money. At the end of the day, until we deal with what is on the inside of us that makes us feel unworthy to be who we truly are, people like TR will continue to prey on our vulnerabilities.
"TR is a smart businessman preying on those who aren't strong enough to stand on their own 2 feet but its also a decision a person makes to give him their money."
Then he's taking advantage of people who don't make good decisions. He could charge half and still be more than comfortable. That's the part that ought to make us question his priorities.
One thing I see recurring in the comments is an aversion to "fluff", how the content of an entire 3 day seminar could be condensed down into a short book that you could buy on Amazon and read in half a day. Maybe true, but would you read it and then actually apply it? Some would, most would not, at least not to the absolute best of their ability. Which is why Tony provides what he calls immersion, where you're in the environment for an extended period of time, you'll get tired, your focus will wander, but if you suck it up and do what's necessary to work the processes anyway, along with a whole room full of people who are doing the same thing, you will benefit more and might just create lasting change. By removing yourself from your day to day life for a period of time to focus on yourself and your own development, you're investing in yourself and your future, and it takes that level of commitment to create that lasting change. It's a concept Tony believes in, and so do I since it worked for me.
Now I've met Tony several times and I can confirm that he does exhibit narcissistic traits, how couldn't he, his name is in huge letters on all of the materials and around the venues, and the salesy stuff in the middle of the seminar can be off-putting. And Tony is extremely good at what we does, a master of human psychology, and highly charismatic and courageous. I took the stance of take what you need and leave the rest, and I took a great deal, far more valuable than what I paid, not that that mattered to me. Not everyone will have that experience, and he does give you your money back if you want.
You mentioned that TR has" narcissistic traits, and how couldn't he"
However there is a verse in the poem "If" by Rudyard Kipling that explains that you don't have to act an ass just because you are popular among kings. I agree with this statement as such, please check out the following:
"... If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!"
Forget to mention, I love these little tacos in your articles...
Thank you so much for sharing this. I think this is a really insightful article - for yourself and others. Of course, it is not really possible to go deep with a 10k people crowd. Thinking Tony would do real therapeutic work is just nonsense. What he does is just a temporary change (which of course can be needed for healing!).
Thank you!!
Solid review. I agree with you completely. Tony is not a charlatan; people definitely find self improvement in his work. I personally don't get "high" off of those types of seminars. I'm smarter than that. What I mean is I can see fluff and hoopla from a mile away and I don't appreciate it, nor do I want to waste my time and money on it. I need substance and tangible content. Getting a massage from my neighbor, dancing around, and fist pumping does nothing for me 24 hours later. Thanks for you well written, organized, and concise review.
I believe you were bigger than the seminar and that’s why you left. It happens with me also, if you already know something keep moving forward
Good for you. People that think they can sum up someone else’s relationship or life history in minutes are being insensitive, insincere and cruel. No one is able to know this person’s heart or pain except God, and Tony is not God. In fact, from what I’m reading, his insensitive, sarcastic and humiliating behavior with people isn’t God-like at all. My personal feeling is that he would test pretty high on the narcissist scale, and in some cases, his approach may do more harm than good.
Agreed.
He's the pie in the sky. Champagne dreams selling fake dreams.
Right on! You *got* it.
I never understood the adulation for Tony to be honest. I always felt like his followers were like Scientologists, desperate to be told they are 'somebody '.
I enjoyed reading your article , nicely written .
I'm so glad to read this review. Really qualified feedback. Thank you!
Just here to say that, while I rarely read an entire article as long a this one, I thoroughly enjoyed reading yours and enjoyed the structure you used!
I would go a step further. The issues people face are typically deep seated and emotional. These issues typically require a transformation of mindset. This is the hard work. Tony’s seminars are temporary relief from existential pain. If attendees are not careful. The post tony high can lead to a much lower low. If you attend enough events with out results you lose credibility with yourself. This for many is their life enhancement journey. They are worse off. Tony is great but not the answer.
People were saying they were putting the next seminar on their credit cards, and were being told it will return itself. It was terrible advice. clearly not acting on peoples best interest, and the supplements also left a bad taste. They are not high quality or even necessary, just another scam.
I cringed from the beginning to UPW. It was colossal- I got a free ticket (and it seems a lot of people do). It was forced fun - like those awful preteen dances, anyway, awkard. Everyone was pumped woop woop. I tried, but it all seemed like none of this stuff was new, like i'd heard it before, like a patch work of advice, from Jesus, to Buddha to Oprah. The love bombing, the hype, we had 2 hours of pre Tony just to dance. There was too much fluff. I am a massage therapist and having to give massages and then get crap ones back annoyed me, and the sheep mentality of fire walking! He runs on volunteers, it costs a lot, and the delivery was so forceful and repetitive. It was very American. Then TR told everybody to get rid of their limiting belief/shit/I don't know... well the whole arena started crying. I had to climb out from the front of a crying room to get out, over chairs, weaving, I felt surrounded by souls in hell, I got out and power walked to a cafe, and was followed, by a volunteer. Who was nice, but it all felt a bit..... controlled. And the volunteer told me how TR wife was controlling him etc, and that he is unhappy. And I thought I know this is smoke and mirrors, screw it. And the nutrition day was good for someone thats had their head in a hamburger, but it's nothing new. It is a cult...... After the UPW facebook group I have been invited to was amusing, people using TR terms 'priming, limiting beliefs..' I kept getting friend requests which I felt hesitant about. I mentioned this in the group, asking women if men were requesting them, and then I was trolled. And I thought- you guys are actually horrid- I felt threatened, and after all the love bombing the farce was obvious. There will be another, he is the Billy Graham of his generation. I would say if you need help for business go to a business advisor, if it's health go to a health coach, you want . to get rid of limiting beliefs go to a therapy group or if you can invest it, pay for psychotherapy. But hats off to the business model. In essence I felt uncomfortable and forced.
Well, recognize Robbins for what he is, a very good salesman. In our country good salesmen do very well financially. Example, Elvis Presley's manager, Tom Parker sold the South on Hadacol, a fake brew that was about 30% alcohol. Of course people felt better---for a short while. Robbins' brew works well----for him. He's a millionaire. Not so for the people who pay up.
D.G. Cannon, Ph.D.
I attended Mindvalley and have similar experiences to these mentioned here.
Hi, I am not sure how I came upon your article. Just one of those flukes of the internet. I am 66 years old and was a big fan of Tony Robbins back in the early 90's. But now at the age of 66 I find a lot of his answers to be cotton candy in comparison to the rich food in psychotherapy and psychiatric therapy. If you have a profound sense of low self-esteem, the answer is not to attend a 3 day pep rally for a temporary high. Perhaps you need to see a recommended therapist who can do the HARD WORK with you of digging into the origins of that issue and bringing to light the unconscious beliefs and programming behind your issue. Glib slogans will not heal your life. And bear in mind, LIFE IS NOT EASY. Too many people have serious problems and think that a 3 day whoop and holler festival with a life coach will resolve these issues. It just ain't going to happen. Most of the participants in such events are young and eager for perfection in their lives. As an old man, I can tell you that it takes time and effort, often a lot of effort. Even if a session with a professionally trained and accredited therapist costs $400 a week that gives you 5 weeks of intense work specifically on YOU versus 3 days as part of a 10,000 pep rally.
Solid Read.
Sounds like you had no business being there? Sounds like you went looking for the secret to hit the next level but didn't realize Tony is a catalyst for the weary? Much like the "revival" or "retreat" some people really need encouragement, or really need someone to stop sugar coating it and be real with them.
I think the guy serves a pretty powerful purpose at a time when someone needs a "cheesy, pick me up, I'm with TONY ROBBINS, important feeling." For those that are extremely capable or lack direction.... he might not be the best.
The guy is making a lot of money, but if someone is on ground zero.... the first step in happiness has to be removing limiting belief. 3000 bucks really isn't that much at that point? I have seen people buy cars, or houses to "perk" themselves up!!!
I guess I think Tony does a great job for the people that need Tony Robbins.
In short - Michael Jordan may not get that extra bit of ferocity from him but a 30 something living at his parents house... Might.
The $3000 is arbitrary. It could easily be $1000. He'd still be rich and famous.
I followed a similar path, we may have been in some of the same Tony events, and I agree with you. One piece I'd add you may agree with that is my experiences with Tony were the start of my own exploration of myself, the beginning of my growth, and they were profound at the time; it doesn't need to be a choice, it can be a progression from Tony to things deeper.
I love that you made a decisionfir yourself. While it's cool people have their platform, there's more than one way to do a thing. We can't be afraid to walk or own path away from the hooplah!
After having kind of walked out on a netflix documentary of Tony Robbins ‘ I am not your Guru, I am relieved to read your article and know that I am not alone ! Thank you!
ditto
I respect your decision to walk out. I would have done the same thing, given those circumstances.
Thank you for the post it also think he seems "out of touch" with issues too. I never hear him talking about his personal issues and how he grinded his way to the top. Just some generic if you're scared face your fears. (I didn't know you made AppSumo, made a shopify account and saw that app. That's pretty dope)
I thought upon watching I’m Not your guru that the seminar was highly manipulative and mean spirited. Having a woman call her boyfriend to break up in front in millions of people was for me the height of narcissism
Some of the empowering stuff was good, realizing that the bad in your background is what makes you successful today. but I am not sure Robbins is as sincere as he is a cult leader making money.
Awesome! Way to be unapologetic, and to take care of you. I love that you shared your minority view--there's not enough of that anymore. What I love most that you shared was that you listened to your gut. Your gut said "dread--don't do it" and you listened. People don't do that enough. As a wise Jedi once said, "Trust your feelings..."
Thank you for this honest and educational recounting
I have never been to one, nor do I plan on going. I am guessing you hit the nail on the head when you said this "For a few days, you will feel loved.
For a few days, you will feel like you are enough."
Tony's ego is just a bit too big for me. No, it is WAY too big for me.
many of you won't want to hear this, but the only thing that will sustain you is God.
Looks like If you never went to the Tony Robbins event, you would have never came upon this realization. Which means....TONY ROBBINS HELPED YOU!!!
yes he did say "This may have been the best part about Tony's personal development seminar -- it forced me to create my own."
duh.
I went to his event just yesterday...and felt the same way. I kept thinking...when is it going to get real? When are we going to get to the work? I got tired of clapping and yelling and watching Tony act like a rock star... And I felt like the oddball...cause so many people were into it. I kept checking with myself, I kept trying. But it just wasn't my style. My husband says I am the hardest working person he knows, so I was wondering why I felt ashamed for just wanting to sit and learn. Oh well, to each his (or her) own.
Did you get a full refund?
Great article and it's great and refreshing to read some negativity.
I attended both UPW and Business mastery so I know what it is all about.
Few points.
1. It' is too long and I agree that everything over day 2 is usually a salespitches from 3rd party speakers and can be avoided. I am not used sitting so long and finding non-junk food was really hard on the stadium, I went out to Starbucks and enjoyed some sun.
2. It is life changing and Tony is amazing force of nature. Seeing him on stage is life changing for sure. He was on stage for over 14 hours, no toilet breaks no water breaks, he must be a robot.
Name dropping? I did not feel like it it, those were awesome life stories from high profile people and it's always fun to learn.
Weird clap? It looks energizing to me..
Supplements? He must make money after all, if people buy them why not? I bought as well to support the cause. Nobody was pushing them too hard anyways.
3. I did not go to firewalk and I felt ashamed as everyone was pushing it hard but I dont regret as it's my choice. I just went to hotel to sleep.
4. Massage and dancing is a big part of staying "awake". It's not possible to sit so long without action and loud music and dances makes it look like a rock concert and brings up the energy. I do not agree that it's a fluff and waste of time. In many cases it takes you out of your comfort zone and keeps your mind open.
5. More of "Personal coaching" on stage? I don't agree here. On business mastery Tony did one personal coaching with a lady in front of everyone and it took almost 2-3 hours. Though it was helpful to her, for others who did not have similar issues it was a drain.
6. Does the effect last? No. That's why you need more seminars and they will upsell them, for sure. That is a normal business practice and I did not feel much of the pushing. Normally effect goes away in a week or so, as regular life consumes you and puts you back but the lessons you learn stay in your heart anyways for your lifetime so you can come back to them during the hard moment.
Bottom line? Was it easy? No. Is it worth it? 100%!
Go with an open mind! Walk out but dont go home giving up and finding excuses. Go to Starbucks, enjoy some sun and come back 2 hours later to continue the learning! Also listen to his podcast, great golden nuggets there...
I would add that best is to compare any "self improvement" seminar with a shower. Does the shower last? Not really. But it does not mean that you don't need it. And you do need it again to "shower" with fresh energy once in a while!
I agree- Tony is a force of nature, and the money I spent on UPW, Date with Destiny, his health seminar were well spent. I learned many valuable things which contribute to my happiness still - 15 years later. He is an extremely talented and hard working man. Combination drill sergeant, stand up comedian, master psychologist, stage hypnotist, charismatic speaker - and of course salesman, and entrepreneur. Not for everybody of course, that goes without saying. He’s not God, not a guru, but he’s got a lot to give and he’s giving it. God bless him.
Yes! I agree with you!
I’m so glad I invested in this amazing experience
Just watched a film featuring T. Robbins and C. Madanes as the narrator. It was filming Tony at one of his events on 9/11/2001 in HA. It was both fascinating and disturbing all at the same time. I felt like I had seen some sort of cultist event and/or leader. I've never read on of Tony R's books. My brother gave me a tape years ago of the "Giant Within". I listened to it and found it wasn't that interesting or helpful to me. I was curious about him so looked him up online to see what people were saying about him.
Completely agree!
I love inspirational speakers, but he’s a little too much.
I have listened to him & probably won’t need to ever again.
I missed female speakers and i agree with some things u r saying. I missed interviewing people about their stories. I was on a high for one week and now it drops which is scary and i get lots of mails and phonecalls to sign up for the next events, fear is involved ... but i love him, i admire him. At the end of the day ... i am alone with this feeling and back into my life and routine. And my body is still soooo tired.
I haven’t been to a seminar, but I have heard loads of his stuff on YouTube. I like it, it helps me. The problem that I see with a lot of people in this post is you think he is supposed to be “a perfect man”, “Jesus”, persay. Tony is just a guide to help you, fulfill your life, but at the end of the day only YOU can do such a thing. He is not a god. He is a human being. None of us are perfect. It may help Tony’s credibility if he spent more time relating to people’s lives through love and compassion instead of telling them “this way or that way.” Maybe the money, or busy life he has has gotten to his head. But I do believe his intentions are pure and good, or he wouldn’t be doing it in the first place unless he’s hypothetically obsessed with money and learned psychology and human behavior for that reason. But I just don’t believe humans are designed to do such a thing and if that was the case he’s probably miserable or will at least die a miserable death. Not that I wish that upon him in anyway. At the end of the day it only matters how you feel and if you are happy not Tony Robbins. Do what makes you happy and fulfilled.
If what you say is true, then what is the purpose of such seminars. Can't we all do the personal development work on OUR OWN without attending seminars?
Now I know why Tony has so many companies. He gets his audience to experience 3 days of uplifting mantra then... Boom sell to them.
Last day at UPW 2018 was overselling. Left early.
I really appreciate your honesty. I'm at an UPW event in London, and I'm ready to walk out as well on day three. I think everything could have been compressed I to 2 days and 16 hours max. The firewall was fun, even though I did get burned, but I'm not the type of person who is ready to share his *true* deepest fears shortcomings and failures with random people around me, even if they are all wonderful. There is WAY too much selling during the seminars. WTF do you mean that "the next step" is for me to attend business mastery?? Shouldn't my next step be to employ what i just learned here and change my life forever??? I
I’m at the same event right now and am SO disappointed by the event! Tempted not to go in tomorrow, but then again that would leave me worried about having wasted so much money.. 🙁
Igor you're not alone. I walked out at 2PM on the 3rd day. Some really good stuff coupled with some stuff I didn't like...
* really terrible/dangerous advice (like turning shoulds into musts)
* pseudoscience (Kirlian photography)
* inaccurate stories (Robin Williams didn't kill himself because of depression, he had Lewy Body Dementia)
* terrible pitches (the bald guy who showed photos of his Ferrari was hilarious - but of course, it's not money that matters).
* and a very cult-ish overall experience.
I didn't want to wait another day to listen to nutrition advice from someone who's recovering from someone recovering from self-inflicted mercury poisoning. I love some of what Tony preaches, but he's a fine example of "often wrong, never in doubt".
Overall, a useful experience. I'm in marketing, I love to see how these tactics really do control the crowds and turn people into raving fans. I believe most people will get out of this feeling they got the experience of a lifetime.
Turning shoulds into musts is sound advice. It's not a concept that is exclusive to TR either. Folks like Stephen Covey and Brian Tracy also speak to this concept. As an executive who focuses on change management, I can tell you that this is not terrible/dangerous advice.
I've heard TR tell the Robin Williams story many times. He speaks to Robin's overall drug use and self depreciation. The moral of the story is that Robin had mastered the science of achievement, but not the art of fulfillment. Robin's wife has been quoted as saying that the reason he committed suicide is because he was losing his mind and he knew it. It was not the disease that killed him; he committed suicide because he was depressed.
I can appreciate constructive criticism, but some of the reasons you listed are baseless.
I recommend you read what Albert Ellis, one of the fathers of modern psychology has to say about "must-urbation", and the toxic power of "musts". I trust him more than I trust Covey / Tracy.
As for Robin Williams, the message was not about how he lived, but about his suicide. Was he depressed about the disease? Maybe - but I didn't hear Tony mention that. Doesn't have quite the same power, does it?
completely agree!!!!
I have just an hour ago been walking out of a UPW in London with 13,000 people. I really enjoy sitting outside in the sun, not having to dance and shout and jump anymore... they are preparing the firewalk a few meters away for tonight. I'm so happy having found your article while sitting here! I'm not the strange one! Think I will not go in again and give it a second try. And I will skip the firewalk... But I'm sure I will now have 3 spare sunny days to enjoy London - while my husband goes on with the "training". Best decision! 🙂
Tnks 4 sharing!! Just came out from a JTFoxx free seminar and I just felt wasting my time. Same same but different.
I love Tony Robbins. He has enlightened me many times and challenges me to grow and be the best version of myself. You do make some valid points and I enjoyed this article. Looking forward to your ideas and thoughts in the future and maybe we can grow together.
Thank you for posting this. I found it by Googling, and up popped the link to your site. Now I know I am by no means the only one. I see him as one more proof that showmanship which combines condescension with flattery can yield a gusher of fortune -- for the showman. You and I differ on one point, though: I find his whole exploitive act dispicable.
I couldn't agree more with Kenneth.
Agreed - complete waste of money and time; over promises and under delivers
You don’t get to stay for part of a day and comment on the whole thing needing to be shorter and needing more focus. You speak from ignorance.
actually, the seminar got him to get up and take action, so it was empowering
have you read the entire article? Obviously this author is not ignorant. ...and he didnt walk out and started doing productive things because of the seminar. He walked out and started doing productive things in spite of the seminar....
He does have a very weird clap.
I'm an Aussie, so the 'ra ra' factor is difficult for me to swallow x 10,000 to what someone from Tony's part of the world may even struggle with. I haven't actually been to one his events for many years, but assuming they're still the same, I might make the following observations. Firstly, I'm always uncomfortable at the start and feel like walking out. Dealing with that discomfort rather than walking out and feeling empowered, is part of my process. It's how I learned stuff I wouldn't have otherwise. Some of which was valuable, some less so. I guess you'll never know what you missed out. I hope it was a really good coffee and healthy lunch you had instead.
Giving a summary on what people may or may not lie about the seminar you didn't actually stay at is probably quite a big call, on't you think? I could probably review the last Foo Fighters concert I didn't go to, but that wouldn't make much sense because, ah, I wasn't there. So by all means explain why you left, and what you thought of it BEFORE you left, you know, while you were actually still there, but quite how you get to say what Tony's seminars might do for people and what they should do differently based on the bit of one you saw just seems illogical to me. I really don't understand it all. And no, i'm not someone who puts him on a pedestal - i don't love everything he does, especially all that bloody hugging and singing and dancing. But at least I stayed til the end. Several times. So I can probably comment more accurately than someone who didn't. Anyway... just sharing my thought. Shall we hug now? 😉
Big Hug too... indeed, you have to get out out of your comfort zone, accept it and sometimes 'sit it out' and then inevitably SOME rare insight or decision will come.
Hope they all enjoyed their lattes and sunbathing ;-))
My long-time girlfriend is heavily involved in the TR organization....as a volunteer. I went to UPW in LA 3 years ago(I had to pay of course). And because she wasn't volunteering at this particular date, she had to pay also. About three grand for both of us, plus airfare. My GF believes in it, and it's become more of a social thing for her. Me? I didn't get much out of it.
And to be honest, $4000+ (total) could go towards real education, not some culty stuff, like walking on coals and "visualizing" fortunes and fame.
My biggest problem with Tony Robbins is that 90% of the general staff are volunteers. UPW and Date with Destiny (and most other events)are not free charity events. He is NOT a non-profit(most of the time). He's making millions at these events. And the two mentioned are just the beginning. It's a rabbit hole. His exploitation of volunteers is like Home Depot or Walmart using volunteers. It just wouldn't happen. The fact that so many people do end up volunteering after going to a few events, leads me to believe there is a underlying cult effect. It may not be as evil and undermining as Scientology, but...It's definitely cultish. Oddly, there are no perks to volunteering. You pay your own airfare, no free tickets to other events, programs or books. Most volunteers love him unconditionally, yet have never even met the man in person. He makes no effort to know who his legions of volunteers are.
I know the above article was written from a consumer point of view. But it's pretty slimy behind the curtain too.
Anybody considering spending money on this, throw that money at education instead. Some night school or something. Want to feel better about yourself or feel loved? Join a gym or a like-minded church, donate time at a animal shelter or soup kitchen. They really need your help. You can feel like a million bucks, without spending a dime. Don't join a cult.
The volunteers are just that--exercising their free will. Did you talk to any of them? Some of them gain just from being there. Some are wealthy and want to give back Where does it say that Tony Robbins has to be Obama?
Clap, clap!!
true!!!
I have been crewing... and I do not think this is a cult. There are indeed wealthy people that do it as a sign of their gratitude, and you meet amazing people. But a lot of the volunteers do not have the money for the actual event, and so can enjoy some parts of it.
I do not crew anymore as I do agree that a most profitable multi million project should at least pay for simple lodging facilities if asked. Now volunteers coming from afar do not get enough sleep and invest heavily in transport and parking fees. Just giving food and cheers does not reflect respect for the long and irregular hours (5 full days for UPW)
His seminars are his job...it pays for his lavish lifestyle. If you truly want to learn some life changing skills a good workshop with teams are the best.
Well said,
Yup. Amazing how people are willing to work their behinds off for free for a COMPANY! If your employer didn't pay you at the end of the month you would be livid. BUT you have to work like crazy in the hope that you will pick up a few nuggets of wisdom from somewhere behind the scene! Suckers.
Go and volunteer for a hospice or hospital or orphanage or join Junior Chamber or Rotary - where you can get to grips with people who are living their real lives.
Wow. This is amazing. Honest and balanced. I'm not a big fan of Robbins, although I have huge respect for his work and the sheer volume of people he has helped. I've had people urge me to go and for me, his methods just don't resonate. Thank you for saving me from wasting the money and more importantly, time I couldn't get back if I went. I still read his work and watch his videos. That's enough for me. There are other practitioners who I get more from that I will work with... but more than anything, I'm deciding I'm not broken, I'm OK and I just need to realize that rather than taking another self help seminar or buying another book.
This is so misleading. My friend Mary worked for Tony for 10 years. It is so wrong to say 90% was volunteers.
This blogger needs to do more work on his de-Robbinizing. That it is necessary is indicated by what he regards as deep thoughts worth emblazoning.
Example. What does "Your worst day can be your best day" mean...if your "worst day" is getting shot in the head or losing your son in a car accident? But of course, that's not the kind of "worst day" that was meant. And there's this qualification: "can be." Of course, not every "worst day" can be transmogrified into the "best day." Sometimes though, maybe. And it sure sounds good anyway.
"The whole sequence was superficial." That's exactly how I feel the few times I have listened to Tony Robbins speaking. Especially when he cusses as if it accentuates his point better. The whole thing feels like a sales transaction rather than a serious journey into the self.
Thank you for your input. The best help I have found in my life from others are the ones that help me help myself. There are very Few things that I don't taylor to my own experience. I was wondering how Tony effected his audience. I suppose my enthusiasm has to authentically mine. doesn't hurt to get boosted a little bit, but unfortunately that kind of stuff doesn't last very long. I have been the happiest in my life when I am able to be true to myself and see myself as I see myself with no one else's filters. I have Incorporated self-help, a few churches spiritual enlightenment, I think what we need from others is encouragement but also acceptance to the direction that we want to place that encouragement
Went to HPA a few weeks ago, which was my first event ever, and had the same feeling of superficial cheesiness and of taking for a fool was undeniably present. Although I did not walk out, probably out of fear being judged and out of curiosity to see how Brendon was going to structure the rest of the seminar, hoping it might give me at least some valuable insights, I found most information very basic, and the stories and everything else are designed with such precision, that it just obvious that the event was a great funneling system of converting warm prospects into loyal customers. I think that people need to stop thinking about personal development from the stand point of check list of all the things they need to improve in order to feel worthy or enough, and start looking deeper at what the underlying patterns of their behavior might cause their misfortunes, stagnation, confusion, fears, etc.
I loved reading it all. You're clear in the structure how you present it. It makes it so easy to read and not be overwealmed but instead to really see the point and it feels very fresh to read. Thanks.
If anyone flies around in a jet and makes millions of dollars from desperate souls seeking answers,they're not helping you,you're helping them.In an age where information is readily available at a click of a mouse,it amazes me how people can't help themselves by typing in whatever is troubling them for a solution because that's what self-help is...helping yourself.Not paying a load of cash to someone else to do it for you.If they capitalise of your troubles,that's not help,that's a ministry.Advice should be free.Even Buddha didn't charge a cent.That's just my take on snake-oil narcissists.Agree to disagree.
The ministry part is too real!
I agree 100%.
you are awesome! I agree 100%
I couldn’t agree more! Total snake-oil salesman and he has also said some horrible victim-blaming things to sexual and physical abuse survivors. I think he’s vile.
I also think if people invested their money into proper evidence-based therapy with a licensed psychologist to work on their self-esteem and other deep-seated issues, instead of looking for a quick-fix (there is none, BTW), they wouldn’t be throwing their money down the drain and lining the pockets of these charlatans who have zero qualifications to offer vulnerable people advice.
Frederick L Covan, chief psychologist at Bellevue, wrote the forward to his book
Chloe Madonnes, top five family therapist, keynote speaker at American Psychological Association, is in partnership with hime
I absolutely agree! It appears he uses or needs the crowd to pump up his own insecurities. I quit following his social media content because I don't believe it to be authentic. It appears he seeks power and money. If so, be honest about that. Yet, he brags of "breakthroughs." The name dropping gets old when anyone does it. If he's so authentic, why does he name drop so much?
You have this mention of Buddhist monks all wrong. First under Buddha rules - monks go around to homes every morning and in the monestary - to accept donations of food, shelter, medicines, and clothing. While a monk may not accept actual money (gold, credit cards, paper, travel tickets, etc) - the stewards of the monestary may and do so often. In Buddha’s actual time - they did the same. How would they live in today’s world or back thousands of years if they had so source of income to provide that they don’t produce. Many monhave winerys and other agricultural means and businesses to make money. Read this Lay Guides To Monk’s Rules (Buddhist Studies) https://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/buddhistworld/layguide.htm
Also - on your “ If they capitalise of your troubles,that's not help,that's a ministry.“ - I believe you are way off here. First, not all ministries nor do all TV ministries make money off people. In fact, most do not do anything but barely cover expenses. Many preachers today have to work several churches each Sunday to make a full salary and some work a regular job in addition to their ministry job. churches have a board who determines the funds needed for capital improvements, utilities, salaries, etc. and they try to raise that through tithes which most people of religion (no matter the denomination) believe based on the bible is their responsibility to share 10% of their income with their church. If you look at most churches budgets - you’d understand they might be collecting revenue but aren’t making a profit and are just barely getting by. NOW - if you are talking about the mega type churches - well yea they sure rake in the money and pay millions to their preacher(s). I myself have difficulty understanding why preachers have to be paid millions in salary while their members average $30-50,000 a year (some much lower, some much higher) but I’m not on their board making those decisions. Of course, again, these mega churches have huge bills to pay and if on TV - that is a very expensive proposition. But as a member of a local midsize church with a Sunday TV hour - I’m well aware of their budgets and short falls. However, without TV church ministries - many people would never hear the word of God. This includes those who are already saved and those who have never been exposed to God. Those already saved - many are elderly or have chronic or terminal illnesses and can no longer get out physically to attend church anymore though they attended all their life. Other saved folks always attended but for some reason they currently aren’t able to do so ( job schedule requires working on Sunday’s or they are the sole caregiver for a bed confined family member, etc). And for the unsaved, it is very sad if they are never exposed to God so they are able to determine if he is for them. God’s love is available to everyone; however, not everyone wants or sees the merits of a life under God and that is a personal decision. But it would be sad if those who believe in him couldn’t receive weekly inspiration. I might point out that ministries/ churches who asked for and received formal non profit status (it is not required for them to do so) - you can look them up on Guidestar to see their financial statements and non profit tax filing. Again - it isn’t required like it is for other non profits so not all will be listed but some of the larger ones are but what they provide might be limited.
his material is indeed available online and in the library. The point of the tuition is to have what he calls immersion, 12 hours and day for six weeks, to affect change. Also if I pay that much, I'm much more likely to get the most out of it. Some people don't appreciate value if its free, and therefore will not go full out.
Absolutely Correct. Average ticket to his seminar, $300-600 times 10,000 seat area. Math doesn't
Lie and the riches keep coming. But Robbins and everyone else have to use the restroom and have limitations like everyone else. It's great to pursue your dreams and to be better in all areas of your
Life. Most of these great changes are free, and there is no need to waisted your money on a guru.
I recently attended the UPW in Singapore. Your sentiments are shared. He is great at what he does, but the bragging became annoying. I made some business contacts while there, but will not attend another of his events. I am not interested in jumping up and doen again. Once was enough.
Thanks Noah, great story as usual.
It is such a great feeling to have the strength to leave a workshop or seminar when we are guided by our own body and intuition to do so.
I love Deida's work. Sadly I have been unable to get to the US to attend one of his workshops. I will look at Gayle Hendricks.
I cracked up when he wrote he doesn't enjoy random dudes touching him, Lol.. Good article. I don't think I would enjoy it either. Especially not for that price. I would rather go to Miami with the $. Best therapy and motivation for me.
Great article. I was curious how much it cost for Tony to speak at an vent and found your article. I am a proud summoling. I had never heard any of your back story. Your are inspiring in that you like to challenge yourself. I’ve learned few new things about a company I support and visit about four times a week. Great engaging writing too. On TR I subscribed to his podcast with disappointment. It’s a lady often interviewing people. Not what I expected from a TR podcast. TR has helped many people, I am a roundabout fan. I’ve only seen him in movies and listened to one side of a cassette tape, but had friends that did listen to him support me through tough times. I am thankful he labels himself a motivational speaker though and not a pastor.
not a motivational speaker, a life coach
Great article. I love how you're not bashing anyone. I saw him at an Isagenix event in vegas last summer. I got such weird vibes from his "performance". The weird arm shake clap thing he does (with music and I think some kind of noise he makes) when people applaud to sort of shift the energy, the "strangest clap you've ever seen", the dancing, the uncomfortable massages from neighbors, etc... it almost felt as though energy from the crowd was being... harvested and used. As strange at that may sound. I left there feeling very drained. It was annoyingly hyped up. I was glad I only paid $250 plus airfare and there were other reasons I had gone to the convention. Plus it only lasted for maybe 4 hours. I couldn't have handed much longer.
Its super that you notice how the energy in the crowd is being harvested and used. Huge groups of people are prone to cult like trance. The attention in the room is somewhat herding the sheep's mind. If the woman that recently spoke and stood up to the man Tony didn't discern his point of view. There wouldn't be a backlash or some sort of up-rise towards his speech in his event. No matter who is the Master or Expert in whichever field. Humans have flaws and can be wrong. Tony's abuse towards to woman is enraging. To push her when she stood up for herself and other woman in the movement called the MeToo. Just a good point and I applause your ability to discern this hidden energy playing in the background.
Stop Gaslighting. When you pay thousands for coaching, you expect coaching- not a sales pitch.
I read this before I went to UPW in San Jose. I took it with a grain of salt because I wanted to play full out. I wish I saw it as more of a red flag. I stayed longer than I wanted- left 2 days in on Saturday. On day one, Tony managed to follow through with his presentation on Steve Wynn's success while bashing the #metoo movement. Although he says he wasnt bashing it-only the false claims- it seemed to be suspicious and not at all coincidental that #metoo was brought up the same day we cover Steve Wynn's successess. Many participants, including myself did not appreciate having his politics shoved in our faces and the dismissiveness that followed. I love the disclaimers in this article because TR fans and the like resort to major gaslighting as soon as you have a criticism or different POV. I agree that this even could be 1 or 2 days max! Lets stop dancing around and get focused. Also, event programs do not list who is facilitating each day- a lot of folks were very upset to find out Tony is only there a day and a half out of the four days. We were even told for Saturday, "Get here early, Tony wants to start at 8:30!" Then he didnt even hit the atage until after 11am! Wtf? That's when I left. Overall it wasnt horrible, but I would not recommend it. I like my meditation retreats much better.
I thought Tony handled himself quite well after the #metoo woman attempted to hijack the seminar to promote her politics. There's a time and place for that discussion. I didn't go there to listen to an audience member promote her ideology. In my opinion, she made a complete fool out of herself.
Nanine wasn't promoting her politics, as you say, in the least. She was simply questioning what she heard something from him that didn't make sense to her.
How did the woman (Nanine McCool) embarrass herself? I thought she remained very calm and dignified in the face of Tony’s ranting, rambling attack.
IMO Tony showed his true colours during that episode and it turns out his true colours ain’t pretty. He came across as an ignorant mysogynist who is more interested in defending his entitled position than listening to other’s viewpoints. And his subsequent apology was glib and vague.
On a different note, I like the way that this article has been written and I appreciate its balanced approach 🙂
I watched the clip of that metoo bit by Tony Robbins. I think he just lost a bunch of customers ...He is definitely part of the problem and he demonstrated some of his true colors when he was being very gently challenged and the 6’5” man couldn’t take it. Just a bit of narcissistism/gaslighting? ..Easy for motivational speakers to talk in one direction, probably the tens of millions of people he said he’s spoken too but the moment he gets challenged.... he fell apart and makes the falsely accused men the focus and the victims. And his very wealthy powerful friend that didn’t hire a more qualified female over a male candidate because he was “scared” of this movement? So there you go women, now men are such victims in this whole movement they can’t hire you because they can’t understand what qualifies as harassment or chauvinism - it’s that confusing for them. Maybe Tony and his poo friends should pay money to do seminars so they aren’t scared of attractive women. Hopefully people just get behind the useful messages and not this messenger... not a good pattern with anyone.
I find it interesting that Tony tells people to stop being victims, but then complains about the MeToo movement victimizing men.
That is such a good point.
I am a PhD in Psychology with over 35 years experience and a tenured full professor in Psychology. Everything that Tony Robbins does is based on good psychological theory...even the celebration and upbeat chanting. If someone does not like that, then they should not attend his seminar. I just did my first one this past weekend in San Jose and came away more convinced than ever that his approach is brilliant.
I have not been to a seminar in the past 20 years where other seminars or products weren't promoted, even the so-called non-profit professional organizations. Yes, there is marketing done at the seminar, but the amount he does is small compared to any other I have attended.
Sorry people are so skeptical. I found the weekend amazing and walked away with tons of skills that I can use with my clients.
Re: "Everything that Tony Robbins does is based on good psychological theory... ."
First, as to your 35 years of experience, you must be aware that urologists with 35 years of experience are still employing the PSA test as viable screening mechanism for prostate cancer even though the inventor of the test conceded it does nothing to reduce deaths from prostate cancer.
There are also gastroenterologists who will suggest colonoscopy screening is similarly effective in preventing 90% of cancers of the colon even though the procedure cannot detect the 40% of cancers that originate in the ascending (right side) colon.
My point: you're attempting to justify Robbins' credentials by citing your credentials. More problematically, your contention that everything he says is based on "good psychological theory" is a sweeping generalization.
One example: in a recent Wall Street Journal article Robbins advocated that we should allocate only 90 seconds a day to suffer.
This doesn't pass the laugh test.
You must be aware of the landmark research by Daniel Wegnerin which subjects were told to avoid thinking about white bears and failed miserably. Even when the ban was lifted, the group thought about white bears much more than the control group which was permitted to think about white bears. Robbins' advice to allocate only 90 days to suffering could also compromise reflection on the etiology of our suffering that will bring us wisdom and less suffering in the future.
A second example: Robbins places the need for certainty as the preeminent need of all human beings.
This, again, is utter nonsense for two reasons: first, our brains are hardwired to estimate probabilities, not to look for certainty. We're that the case and the fundamental human need was for certainty, the human race would not have had its explorers and scientists that took life-threatening risks despite knowing they were going to confront the unknown.
If you're a true believer, so be it. If you think Robbins is a brilliant theoretical psychologist good luck.
He is not. He is a commanding presence with a degree of charisma the kind of which L. Ron Hubbard Joseph Smith possessed--a man who has the ability to make others believe he has the secret sauce.
John thankyou for responding so comprehensively to James that I have no need to add anything 🙂
John Carpenter nailed it.
Totally agree Joanne! He acted as though he had something to hide himself. He was being an intimidating bully and using his physical size to try and get the lady to back down too. I was glad to see she tried to stand her ground in the face of his overbearing arrogance. I can’t stand the guy personally. It’s not the first time he’s done something like this to an audience member.
I'm a doctor of psychology, and I could not disagree with you more. People are not healed by self-help cliches and watching narcissistic "gurus" flap around on a stage. He masterfully manipulates emotions, puts on a good show, and gives people enough good advice (which you can find all over the place in books, on google, in talking to good friends), combine with an highly emotive and emotionally arousing experience that they feel hopeful. It's not that everything that Tony or any of these other self help/life coach/preacher types do is always bad or unhelpful. Some people are on a growth journey, and will continue on that trajectory, however his message and the way he interacts with people can be seriously damaging to people with enough risk factors, and mental health struggles. Particularly those who lack a good support system. And he is making bank off of it, it's disgusting.
James Larson you are an intelligent and enlightened man, and more than qualified to assess, based on your academic credentials. Thank you for balancing out the biases here.
So you are a PhD in psychology and you don’t see any trace of narcissism in TR...? Not even a thin trace?
I was just at his San Jose UPW event. Walked out from the event but during the 3rd day as I wanted to see/hear all that he had to say. I think he is brilliant and obviously a very helpful personal coach (validated by numerous successful people who vouched for him). However, in addition to the points that you made, which I agree fully, I have 2 additional observations:
1) he gives the audience a burst of confidence that may very well last throughout the seminar. The incantation used to quash an individual's limiting beliefs , when said during peak state along with 12 thousand other participants in the arena can be very powerful and gave a sense of euphoria. Its like a pep rally on steroids. However, I wonder how long those new beliefs last once people fly back to their homes
2) With each day, a higher percentage of the time is spent promoting other seminars. I got the sense that UPW is a feeder seminar ($1k to $2k depending on your seats) for other more expensive ones. During the 2nd and 3rd days, they blatantly allocated blocks of time during the program dedicated to selling the benefits of the seminars that costed $5k to $10k. They even used pressure selling tactics that asked people to make the decision on the spot for 59% off - with a kicker that research shows successful people make decisions quickly, so you should too if you are successful. On top of it, they had financing programs for $300 down. That really rubbed me the wrong way. If someone is not able to afford these seminars, should Robbins company apply pressure on them to go into debt if they truly cared about their well being. Reminded me a bit of predatory lending.
Thank you for that information! I personally haven’t attended because I don’t have such a big amount of money to spend on a seminar and the overpriced tickets really give me the wrong impression...
Thank you so much for this review. I have always been leery of Tony Robbins, I think with good reason. I don't think I'm a hater, but much of what you wrote in your article were the things I was leery of. He seems a little like a wolf in sheep's clothing to me, preying on people to get rich. I think he means well, and I also think he wants to be rich. I have a friend that I highly respect who is currently attending a conference and is super excited about it. I want to get behind her, but I just can't. This led me to do a Google search on Tony, which is how I came upon your review. Thanks for posting--it was enlightening!
Great post! I hate fluff and silliness and all of that clapping and dancing bs would make me feel like I was totally wasting my time. On the positive side, I've enjoyed watching videos of him talk and figure that the 1 hour I spend watching a video of him talking about (whatever he is talking about on any particular topic) is probably not a complete waste. It's nice to see that I'm not the only one who doesn't go for that kind of ra-rah motivational gobbledey-gook.
I agree with you about the all the jumping up and down and clapping and handshaking. I have a problem with it in church when they tell you to look at your neighbor and say so and so. I feel like I just want worship God not to perform all the commands/gestures that the preacher/teacher/minister instructs; then you are shamed into doing it. That doesn't sit well with me. So lately I've been worshiping alone at home. What's the difference, the church is not a building anyway; its in the soul (if you believe in God). Sorry for getting a little off topic but I see similarities here.
Wish I read this earlier.... just walked out after three hours. I agree - it makes me want to go out and work on being better on my own terms.
I felt it was too hardcore and there were so many lost souls there looking for something to make them feel better. I hope they find what they’re looking for.
For me - I need something more real and genuine where I don’t have to act out skits with strangers in an arena of 13-thousand people.
Also - I’m not interested in Tony Robbins protein powder supplements.
How did they react to you walking out? Did they try and convince you to stay? I am going in November and am a bit nervous, b/c I am a bit of a cynic.
I attended the just registration process with daughter who attended the seminar. From the beginning when we stood in line for hours for the "privilege" of getting registered to the end of the chaos in the area while getting registered, it was embarrassing. It was clear to me (as a licensed psychologist and counselor with thirty five years in the field) that there is a great deal of emphasis on superficial [and often childish] behavior designed to keep peoples minds distracted with 'energizing' themselves. This is common technique to give people a false sense of purpose and meaning, and works well with those who are struggling with low self esteem. Of course there is the issue of not wanting to admit that they have been scammed, so many folks will fiercely insist that these types of self-focused seminars have somehow helped them. We live in an era where self is worshiped and elevated/over-rated, and self-sacrifice and focusing on the needs of others is scorned.
Many are secretly questioning if all the money, and all the effort they have put into getting into the area to register is worth it. So having the volunteers roam through the crowd 'high-fiving', whooping, yelling and clapping their hands is designed to keep people from having time to really think about the whole decision--and from leaving--or asking for their money back. It is amazing how gullible some people are, and sad how desperate many people are that they would feel the need to waste such large amounts of money on something that is so obviously not effect in the long run. I am glad that you have the courage to speak out about why you left, as well as clarifying the details about the seminar.
I only hope that my daughter has the wisdom to seek real help and real direction from guides that do not put the emphasis on self above all else.
"So having the volunteers roam through the crowd 'high-fiving', whooping, yelling and clapping their hands is designed to keep people from having time to really think about the whole decision"
That is highly assumptive. in fact you make more than that assumption about people attending. I know a lot of people who attend these seminars out of exasperation from failed psychologist programmes where they see no improvement in their metal well being.
People are looking for solutions that work, that improve the quality of their lives and traditional therapies have fallen short in a lot case (especially psychiatric drug therapies). And that is not being assumptive I can assure you.
Greg.
Excellent point. I come from the therapy "business" and I wish more therapists knew his way of applying therapy techniques. That is what he does...apply proven methods from a different and simpler perspective. I wish I had been taught what he talks about in my doctoral program in psychology. BTW, I have seen a video of Tony presenting at an international therapy conference with Cloe Madanes (who is a highly respected marriage and family therapy expert). It was amazing to see what they did with a couple who were both therapists themselves. What I see in most of the negative comments are basically people who don't like his "style." And anyone who knows anything about human change knows that learning from watching a video is NOT the same as being there, in the same way that watching the Superbowl on television is not the same as being at the event.
Hi James!
Just wondering what the link to the awesome video of Tony and Cloe coaching the therapists is (or what its title is)? I tried searching for it on Youtube but no avail. It sounds super interesting.
Thanks!!
Yes, there can be unsuccessful therapists as there can be unsuccessful coaches... But if I had $7,000 to spend on my self growth, I would rather take the effort to find a good psychologist to work in one on one basis on long term and would still have some money left to buy myself a nice trip to Thailand or Burning Man if dancing and hoopla hoopling is what’s doing the priming for me
Nicely put
Thank you. Attending tomorrow’s event in San Jose. I feel exactly the same way.
Heading in open minded, however I’m not looking for massages or cheerleaders. I’m looking for more growth and the “breakthrough”.
The name-dropping alone would have done it for me. Cannot STAND it when people do that. But I already had made a decision about whether or not to ever attend one of his events. I've read several of Tony's books, mind you, and he's got some good--and some great!--advice and points. But when I saw the video where he splashes water on a participant's face in order to "redirect" them, I was like, "Hellll to the NO!" Can you not interrupt people in order to manipulate them? Can you possibly just ask a question without asking if you can ask it? I can only watch so much, and I certainly wouldn't pay for 3 days of the same!
Thanks for this. I attended a similar workshop this weekend and had to sort through a bunch of my feelings about it and your article helped with that. Cheers
Well, you had me interested when you told me you run AppSumo and Sumo cause Mr Robbins runs about 15% of his advertising from what a read over Sumo. That aside I noticed it was not so much Tony rather the format, I have seen one video of him where someone asked WHY he does what he does and I truly believe he is genuine in his own way and its a sad fact we as humans believe celebrities more often than the people who have facts, with no story and face attached to a cause it gets nowhere. Whether Tony is ra ra or not REALLY look at youtube we know the format what are you expecting with 10K people in the audience and as with any seminar it's those that go there that make it special (btw THAT'S ALL EVENTS) yes you can get it for free but will you do it. My experience - let's take a simple example we all need maths for life and reading - do you do that on your own? iI you do which I doubt, do you find it easier in company with a teacher (we are socially programmed to learn together)? People that go to his stuff, well you can see it's a rock concert and with 10K people some are not going to like it, as long as you get your money back, then I would as you have done just walk out to preserve the most important asset we have TIME and the only one really in our control, if you are lucky to live in a country that allows you to make your own choices. Not to say those countries don't manipulate us from a very early age, its why its called SOCIETY 🙂 we all manipulate each other some for the good and others for the better. The outcomes are important and you choose that it's PERSONAL to each individual. I agree smaller, quieter events is something Tony does not have and I doubt he ever will.
Just listen to any of the hundreds of free YouTube videos of the friendly, down to earth monk Ajahn Brahm. He's an instant stress reducer and you don't even have to do any homework. I love listening to him on walks
I stumbled on this and the title interested me. I was actually looking for a quote and somehow your site popped up...the title intrigued me. You conveyed your sentiment is a refreshing self reflective manner. I really enjoyed it and am going to go back now and look into your hyperlinks.
Can you tell me what he stated (worth 3-5 thousand dollars) that can not be found on youtube ? Apart from entertainment elements -which quite frankly TV does a better job with the evangelist preachers- and a few well rehearsed drama scenes what does he have to offer which can not be gained for FREE ?! I think he's a crook, and at best another evangelist who knows very well how to play on peoples emotions, for his own personal gain.
I would never in a million years spend that kind of money to go to a ra-ra event. Which, as the writer as stated, is essentially what it is. I'm personally fascinated with Tony Robbins, primarily his charisma. So, I've watched his documentaries and have listened to some of his YouTube talks. And you're right. What does he say that's worth $2,000 that you can't get for free? And the answer is - nothing.
The people that go there strike me as lonely, empty vessels who are looking for meaning and purpose. Nothing new. It's the story of humanity....."who am I?" "Why am I here?" "What is the meaning of life?" I found it rather sad to see so many hungry, lost, lonely people looking for purpose. So, hungry, so lonely, so lost, they are willing to pay ridiculous amounts of money to find it.
Does that make Tony Robbins a crook? Meh. I wouldn't go that far. I personally think Tony Robbins is still working on Tony Robbins. I think he still wrestles with his own pain and damage done from his own life....which, by the way, he freely admits. He's a powerful, charismatic man who has the ability to inspire people. And people pay him a lot of money to do it. We pay for a lot of things to help us through this life. That doesn't make those that we pay, crooks. It makes us desperate for meaning and purpose and willing to go to great lengths to get it.
~"The people that go there strike me as lonely, empty vessels who are looking for meaning and purpose".
Perhaps, but that doesn't make them inferior to you. Everybody finds different ways of growing personally. I've tried many ways of growing in my life (including psychologists and psychiatrists). I'm still learning and searching for meaning. As Viktor Frankl said in his book - the search for meaning in life never stops, no matter what.
If you don't mind, can you share which techniques work for you? I truly want to learn...
I think the money that you pay for a seminar like this, is so that you know that you have paid that amount of money and you know that you want to get something out of it... It is a promissory note to yourself...
He states it in Personal Power, because you have bought the tapes, because you have physically paid the money, you are more likely to take something seriously.
The immersion of the course, the 3-5-7 day period (can't remember what it is sorry), is so that you can live in that mode for that long, and you can give yourself the ability to live in that love, that room (essentially) around other people who want to improve, maybe meet others that want to do the same as you, and then carry that feeling into your every day life..
I guess, especially as it is as much as you would spend on a semester at university in England, you are paying for something similar.... if you have an events degree, or a music degree, you are paying money to get given the ability to build an instant network of others that feel like you, and then you are also given the skills that you need to learn to do what you want, in Tony's case that would be change your life..
If, at the end of the day, much life the author of this piece, you do not need this, and you feel that you are complete, then it is a waste of money for you, and if you can find and action the information in your own time, then I guess you are saving yourself $2000. But the sad truth is, as magnolia has stated, some people just aren't that lucky :S.
"because you have physically paid the money, you are more likely to take something seriously."
In reality, once you have paid the money you are very open to being manipulated because you need to convince yourself that you were not really scammed....
This man plays on the fear that many people have--that they will somehow miss out on something of "amazing value".
paragaph 1 you hit the nail on the head
I'll go one step further: for less than $10.00 you can buy three books for amazon that can be read in a week and which, if you believe testimonials, have brought people the same kinds of gains--financial security, improved health, better relationships, and greater life satisfaction.
These are: "The Magic of Believing " which Lee Liberace--one of Las Vegas' greatest ever performers claimed was the catalyst for his success. (Today he would have been worth $200,000,000 and was adored by millions of fans.)
"It works"--a free pdf download on the internet that thousands of true believers who claim the author's simple three-step process brought them the perfect marriage, their dream house, and other unrealized dreams.
And, finally, Norman Vincent Peale's "The Power of Positive Thinking" which, love him or hate him, Donald Trump credits for the success he has enjoyed.
So, why would anyone spend $6,000 for Robbins' strutting, hand clapping, and eardrum-shattering music when they could get these books for less than breakfast would cost you at one of his "Mastery Weekends"?
John you missed the point
in fact, his book Awaken The Power Within contains most of the material from the seminar
So to answer your question- IMMERSION in order to reinforce
I attended the UPW event in Singapore. Accompanying me is my friend who is a CEO of a publicly listed company. We kept an open mind esp after we saw the theatrics at the start. Good thing because it changed my life, my mindset and my priorities. I respect the negative opinions here but it worked for me. The change in mindset resulted in having more business opportunities which exploded because of a small change I made, saved my family and relationship and I think made me a better and more optimistic person. I consider myself as an intellectual and I am happy that bec I kept an open mind I genuinely feel the changes happening in my life almost like a miracle. I am confident that I would up my game and achieve breakthrough. Someone mentioned about the hefty price tag of platinum membership but I am really considering after I bring my wife to another UPW event or to Business Mastery. While it’s through that the content is available on youtube, I felt that the experience onsite is just amazing... sharing with different people from different backgrounds with extremely high stamina and energy made it an experience worth remembering. It came at a right time when I am ready to up my game and leverage my success/momentum. Plus it saved my relationship. So i would pay 15x over by gifting this experience to close friends!
Well said! It did the same for me, got me out of my own way...
I also attended UPW. because my friend did not wanted to go alone. First day I was surprised by the dancing and hugging but I decided to keep an open mind. I had a lot of break throughs and destroy some limiting beliefs that i didn't even knew I had. I later took my husband who doesn't like all the dancing, massage, etc but I felt there was value to attending business mastery. We learned so much about ourselves, our relationship and our business. Our business grew 33%, our relationship was elevated to extraordinary because we put new habits in place. We joined plat and it has been one of the best year of our lives. We travel around the world with our new plat friend, We are living life in our own term. Funny one of the best advice was stop suffering and live life in a beautiful state. We give more, we love more and we serve others more.
Very balanced and well articulated...There is a great deal of profound mentorship and support in far less frenetic and far more personal and beneficial settings. But somehow I would like to go just to experience it first hand simply for the phenomena it is. I know it would creep me out but I think I might find curiously entertaining.
Right on. I mean, really. Right on.
Hi there, I totally agree - there seems to be a lot of fluff, hoopla and dancing. No I've never been but I was thinking of going to Aust. NOT anymore. Cos all his videos I've watched - a whole lot of the fluff and 10,000 people?! It's too vague - his messaging. No, I'll save my money and work on my personal development on my own
Check out Dr. John DeMartini. He has a 2 day seminar called The Breakthrough Experience. I keep on hearing its better than Date with Destiny.....
I have been to both, Dr. J. Demaartini "Breakthrough Experience" and T. Robbins's "UPW." Definitely would recommend T. Robbins. Dr. Demartini's one is more expensive, about £1250 in London. UPW about £ 1000 0r £ 800 if you buy in advance. For me UPW was life-changing.
Demartini's Breakthrough has left me quite overwhelmed and slightly disappointed.
They are however both great men, who have a lot to share.
We all have different tastes, different needs, are at different points of our life. No one teacher, teaching can fit all.
BINGO. Thank you for pointing out that major disconnect.
Just watch on u tubes and save mucho time and money. DIY - do it yourself with pen and paper.
Killer article. I did buy "Get The Edge" and it ok. I never got the edge to go to one of his seminars... I like Tony's stuff but something never quite sat well with me about these ra-ra-events. Instead, I took a nice trip to the Dominican Republic and continued to listen to Tony on Tape. 🙂
You made the WISE choice, by far.
the trip to DR is over once you're back home.
The point of his seminars is everlasting change.
One is a purchase, the other an investment, that keeps on giving long after its over
Hi I just wanted to know did they refund your money?
silly question... of course not. Loads of people would have walked out if they thought they could get a refund. I'm sure that's precisely (at least in part) why he felt "empowered". He wasn't driven by the money he paid, he wasn't going to "tough-it-out" 'cause he paid 2K, (as I'm sure many of them did) he was driven by his personal commitment and what HE wanted to get out of it, not what Robbins wanted him to get.
TR's refund policy is this: providing attendees who have registered stay for 1.5 days of the seminar, and are still unhappy and want a refund, they will get one.
Of course he did! As did my sister!
I loved the seminar. Same blood but not the same experience...which is perfectly fine...we are all different.
I felt the exact same way!! I just walked out of the session in Singapore!!
My boss was at that seminar in Singapore, and my working life is now insane as a consequence! Seriously considering resignation right now...
What made it so insane? Just curious.....
I fully respect your opinion and enjoyed reading it. I'm not trying to defend the event, as I've never gone, and I understand why you left.
But at the same time, your personal development day seemed like a dud.
The seminar inspired you to what?
discuss personal development with a friend for 3 hours,
Record yourself discussing personal development for an hour and a half,
Read about personal development,
and then discuss personal issues for another hour.
Sounds like lots of talking and not a lot of action.
It's very easy to have conversations and make plans. I'm not saying it's bad, just that it's easy.
It's action that brings change.
For many people, is not most people---those things he mentioned doing are taking action.
No everyone has to take action in the same ways or at the same time.
Thank you for your post. Ive checked out TR on utube. I tend to lean towards your way of thinking. I ended up calling a coaching program to get some help and enlightenment with some deep issues and ended up enrolled in a coaching coarse the ultimately cost me $30, 000. I dont regret it although i still dont feel prepared enough and it has left me financialy strapped. Most likely my own issues with money, and i also felt it was also about selling. Every time you turn around someone is trying to sell you something, frankly it makes me a bit sick. Also i feel the deep blocks in a person need to be resolved and worked out first, its like taking medicine for an issue that justs masks the problem but doesnt take care of the real issue. If you get rid of blocks then the path i feel is more to achieve the dreams with the help of the universe of course. Just needed to share.
Great article!! Some of us don't need this type of seminar. There are so many inspiring people to learn and grow and have a seminar with. I met some TR admirers and they act like there is no other person in the world. Don't get me wrong I liked some presentations of TR on youtube. Helped me a lot.
Thank you for this... I had thought at one time to buy his program but something just didn’t seem real and you are right, there is depth missing.
Tony Robbins reminds me of Jaws in the James Bond movies. He looks like the sort of person I would send to collect money from my enemies.
No, I'd say he's more like the character played by Tom Cruise in the movie Magnolia, maniacally whipping dorky men into becoming aggressive pickup artists.
Yes - I'd say that's more of how Tony Robbins comes across to me. And I hate being massaged. Don't touch me.
And, by the way, I cannot be hypnotized, so imagine how I felt being in a room full of hypnotized maniacs. I was like, what the heck happened to this crowd. Did someone just turn on a light switch in their heads or something? I felt so alone and isolated from the rest of the "revelers".
I wonder if Tony Robbins can see the dynamics of what he's doing to these people from an observer's point of view. Such mind control cannot be healthy. I mean, you are clearly not yourself in that mix. It's more like a subconscious slice of you on meth.
Well - Price paid, lesson learned...and the "Kool-Aid" doesn't even taste very good.
Definitely not for me.
This is my one final note on what Tony Robbins does. There's an old saying: People aren't taught...people learn. It's like taking a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. If I'm motivated enough to do something with my life I don't need a "Tony Robbins" to help me do it. I find a way and I do it. That's real.
And after I've done it I don't going around telling others how to do it - I'm not a preacher or a salesman. When others are motivated enough they will find themselves in the same position I was in and they will find a way to do it, too. That's equally real.
I cannot emphasize this enough.
The Tony Robbins's of the world are the equivalent of a band-aid for cancer. The real cure to the dis-ease is in the mirror, and being honest with what you see in it. Does anyone really need a life coach to do that? If the person is not ready, even Tony can't help. If the person is ready, he doesn't need Tony anyway.
I'm not against Tony Robbins or what he does. My only question is to those who follow - what really do you think you're doing (besides spending money and getting entertained)?
By the way - thank you, Noah Kagan, for providing this venue.
I will share with you my personal, first impression of Tony Robbins.
The first time I saw a photograph of Tony Robbins (born Anthony J. Mahavoric) I had one immediate, gut-level thought - this man is a maniac. I'm pretty good at reading body language and all I can say is the image of Mr. Robbins screamed at me, "I am a successfully angry man! I am so full of rage it's literally bleeding out of my pores!"
If you read about Mr. Robbins' childhood you won't be surprised. It was full of emotional abuse and familial chaos. No wonder the man turned out the way he did. I would be full of anger and hatred as well if I had to grow up in the environment he grew up in, but that's not the point.
The point is that Mr. Robbins' philosophy and methodology appeal to something similar in those who follow him - hatred and anger at themselves. At some deep level Mr. Robbins hates himself and is angry at life in general. He cultivates that in others who are in similar life situations and makes money doing it.
My advice is to beware of being lured into that way of approaching life and people. The rewards are almost immediate but are also usually short-lived, as you will tend to repulse most people who have any intelligence, integrity, or genuine self-respect, and you will soon find yourself in the company of bullies or idiots.
There are better ways of learning how to enjoy living your life than learning how to scream.
But if that's for you, then by all means, go for it.
I agree. He was actually consistently beaten by his alcoholic mother for years. This made me have some more compassion for him but it has also made me realise he has never really healed from his own past and why he tells the audience participants to essentially “get over it” if they have had an abusive childhood. The anger still enimates from his pores, it’s just suppressed by all his forced positivity.
Our direction of attention the most powerful tool in this century. Attention make bigger anything you pay it ( sorry my english if you don t get it)
TR always saying. ¨You think you are came for ¨that¨and on the real you will get another¨. Is it his believe?
I v got my Tickets on UPW in Singapur now, I v been to London last year.
Life presents to us POSSIBILITIES. Take it .
In this UPW my purpose is to find out how can i find tools for all I right down and study during 4 days.
By the way , thanks to UPW, i become PRANA HEALER, what was presented by STEPHEN Co , healer of TR on last day of UPW . that is amazinggggg.
NOTE. I heard form one couch , that he goes UPW 11 years, and always there something NEW.
God bless you all.
I have been a fan of Tony’s writing for years, so when I finally had the chance to go to his Business Mastery seminar, I jumped at the chance. I cannot overemphasize how disappointed I was. My disappointment was not that his minimal business advice was so basic and underwhelming, but that his main purpose during the seminar was to sell people on his Platinum Partnership program.
My wife and I paid $16,000 dollars to attend a five day seminar whose main purpose was to manipulate us into spending close to ten times that amount to be part of Tony’s “exclusive” high end partnership reserved for only “select” qualified individuals. As it turns out, the only “qualification” needed was a credit card and a willingness to fall for this charlatan. After hours of tearful and Oscar-worthy theatrics accompanied by music and a light show, Tony mentions that though only “a few” spots for his Platinum Partnership remained, anyone interested is welcome to apply. Afterwards, briefly moved by his performance, my wife and I went to the table to fill out an application. What we found was that there was no application process, only people actually helping us fill out a binding contract promising “proximity is power” and an opportunity to rub shoulders with the business elite for the low low price of $140,000 a year for us both. We personally saw dozens of other contracts being signed with the help of Tony’s eager staff members (far more than the suggested “6 or 7” spots Tony had hinted remained).
I was embarrassed that my wife and I almost fell for this highly intellectualized scam. In addition to this bit of hucksterism, the remainder of the seminar presenters were schlepping there own expensive products after sensationalized power point presentations.
I urge you to make your own judgements, but my experience of this man was sigh-worthy and embarrassing disappointment at his ego-driven underhanded personal financial agenda.
I appreciate you posting such a thoughtful reply...
I always wondered what his "Business Mastery seminar" was all about...
Being a "Marketing Guy," I was hoping he would focus on that... But, I also had a "sneaking suspicion" that he was going to present only "basic" information... and pitch his higher-priced seminar. I'm disappointed it was the later.
In the end, I'm still a "fan" of Tony... I just don't think I'll ever go to one of his live events.
I'm impressed with the choice of articles and titles - great way to tap into the draw of the Robbins name and guarantee readers for your promotion.
However, your motivation aside, I can't disagree with much of what you have written. Robbin's life has been dedicated to becoming a 'guru' and no one can deny his outstanding achievement in fulfilling his goals and dreams - he is without doubt one of the most successful people in this space and I doubt he would change much about his life! That being said, he is a 'pop star' with a pop star following. It just so happens that his fame is build on providing something more than music, which I personally find fatuous along with most of the people that supply it. However, I can't condemn those that hero worship the so-called stars, if they get pleasure from it then there is no harm done?
I went to a TR day back in the 90's, I think it was a prelude to Awaken the Giant, and left at the lunch break. I don't believe in hype for hype sake, indeed I believe it to be dangerous for people of low resistance, whether their problems are temporary or permanent, and can lead to them taking bad and dangerous decisions.
Is this TR's fault, should he vet his audience? Who knows, not me anyway.
I have (kind of) followed Robbins for most of his 30 years, even went to an event in London a few years back, you think I would have learned the first time. I've never paid any money to him so I have no axe to grind. Even though I sat through a day of pitching for the 'privilege' of around an hour and a half of him on stage, I picked up some useful information, proving that we get what we look for - and everything has a quid-pro-quo.
I have gained a great deal from being introduced to the world of self improvement in the 80's, which happened as a result of being drawn toward Robbin's advertised offers of a better life. I went on to discover works from people like Dale Carnegie et al, teaching actual substance not hyping words, and, as promised, my life was altered. 30 plus years later, after spending a great deal of time and effort developing my skills, I have traveled the world teaching these skills to others and count myself immensely fortunate to be able to continue to do so. (All due to great advertising by the Robbins corporation, because, lets face it, thats what it is, a multi-million dollar, sales and marketing corporation.)
So I thank him for that and for one other major lesson (which he never intended to teach me). Teaching people anything, especially action and character changing ideas, must be done responsibly and carefully. If it's done simply to further one's own success and satisfy income and ego dreams, then, in my opinion, it is immoral.
Just to be clear, I believe intention is the overriding factor and I believe Tony Robbins' intentions are to help people and improve their lives. If some gullible and idiotic are sucked in - does the end justify the means? probably!
Hold on, you walked out and then paid for a massage? You could have had multiple free massages each day at the seminar 😀
Tony uses Neuro Linguistic Programming NLP to market his seminars, in his language when presenting on stage, and when he does 'change work' with attendees. The problem is that he does not divulge this to his followers (He's started to, however for decades he didn't acknowledge the field of NLP which IMO is disrespectful to the co-creators John Grinder & Richard Bandler), nor does he teach the audience members the patterns, (step by step) of HOW they can repeat the patterns themselves.
Hence, while attendees get 'unleashed' verbally, and witness powerful changes of a hand full of audience members that Tony works with directly, they quickly fall back into their old patterns soon as they return home. Reason is that external triggers, lifestyle, influences are generally inflexible and in order for change to happen on a deeper (neurological) level it needs to be embodied and anchored. (I guess this is what he's attempting to do with the dancing and clapping and hugging - which works in the moment however this is a highly inappropriate method of anchoring a high intensity state as it cannot be easily replicated in 'real life' back in the home. )
What this all means is that people quickly fall back into their old patterns and unresourceful states upon re-entering their lives and jobs back home and quickly need another 'fix. As an attendee they now have a 'community' they feel connected to so they sign up for the next event, and keep coming back for more, and more and more!
Tony is a model of excellence in the genre of marketing his events and selling from the stage. Many people model his model and it works. Unfortunately, he is also robbing people of the opportunity to make the changes in their lives they want as they don't have all the tools they need...specifically, the NLP patterns, processes, strategies and language patterns that he is using!
So if a person has $2K-$5K to invest in themselves so they can transform their lives great!
They might get better results seeking a reputable and *Certified* NLP Trainer who offers Certification courses in NLP (examples - Classic Code NLP, New Code NLP, Masters, Coaching and many more certifications are available - worldwide by many excellent trainers) .
Investing in learning NLP skills in a LIVE experiential training environment where you can actually use the patterns with a partner will provide you with the patterns Tony uses (and many other transformational trainers/speakers for that matter)- plus you will get the shifts in belief, state, habits and behaviours that you are seeking - and you can replicate the experience when you get back to home. And if you keep practicing you can even begin coaching others!
not too sure about NLP...might want to try "real" science
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-linguistic_programming
There are only a handful of studies (little if any data, too few subjects, not repeatable) to support the claims in the numerous articles upon which this "field" was built.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3481516/
I've always enjoyed this brief seminar as an alternative to the more expensive options discussed in this article: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SrNtXoTy13M
I watched Grandler and it could induce deep sleep in an insomniac
Tony makes it very clear he didnt go to one seminar and that effected lasting change. He stresses the criticalness of a daily ritual
My interpretation of your article is that you were already evolved to (or past) the point that Mr. Robbins' seminar was designed to help one reach. I don't know much about TR but I do know that there comes a point where we simply graduate to the next level and no matter how skilled the presenter is, their material no longer resonates.
Agreed.
I ready your article and found it interesting and accurate. My son- in- law is planning on going to one this coming summer, I will ask him to read this article for perspective and insight. He can then decide for himself seeing two different viewpoints. I would not attend a TR seminar. Actually, in the 70-s I did do the Warner Erhard EST training . Same thing.
Thank you. Having completed some Landmark courses, my concerns would be similar. I purchased Get The Edge/Personal Power years ago I found it inspiring but not so easy to put in practice. I believe Landmark to disconcertingly (dangerously) confrontational. Your practice of discussions with friends and a group(s) may be the way forward. I had been looking for a way to share with my much younger family members so they can design their lives more than I did. Unfortunately, I don't believe giving them materials and suggested processes is going to have a real impact.
I watched about 20 minutes of the netflix I am not your guru, which I thought the title was quite accurate. Tony Robbins is definitely not a guru and most certainly not my guru even if he were to ever be one.
The 20 minutes of the netflix flick was difficult to digest and peppered with way too much with the F bombs for my taste, and I am not shy around that word. It felt too much like watching a cult.
I have never read any of his books but I may in the future, I am not against the message but I am not a fan of his delivery.
Yes, he's rich but does that make him a better person? Our society confuses net worth with goodness of character; they aren't interdependent.
Why does he charge so much for his seminars? At 10 thousand attendees per seminars, he could charge 100 bucks per person and still make a crazy amount per year. But, that won't happen as it is just greed, plain and simple.
Happiness is free, it's inside of each of us, some discover it sooner than others. Save your 5 grand, or spend it on yourself.
Tony Robbins isn't smarter than most, nor is he exceptional in any regards, he's just a business man profiting on the self doubt of others.
Glad you walked out.
Well said.
By the way, material wealth and success does not translate into happiness, either. Mr. Robbins may be many things, but happy he is not. I consider myself to be an empath, and the vibrational impressions I get from him are uncomfortable and disturbing. He is not at peace inside.
Yes he could certainly charge $100 and still make big money, but the point is, the more you pay, the more value you magically get from something!!
Might I ask which author/teacher you've followed to improve your life? I'm always looking for new ideas to improve myself...
I respect your viewpoint about T.R., but I must disagree with this opinion in regards to the material. His books are absolutely amazing. I have never gone to his live seminar (and may never), but the books are truly outstanding and packed with concrete advice for a better life (NLP techniques, personal values process, health, etc.). Sometimes it is helpful to familiarize oneself with printed content before judging the author 🙂
I´m sure if you go to Date with Destiny you wont have the feeling that his seminars are superficiall UPW is a great way to get to know Tony´s work and also there are a lotof tickets that sell under 2000$. If you really want to go deep you should attend Date with Destiny wich goes 6 days and covers all areas of life.
I disagree. I attended Date with Destiny, and it didn't do anything for me at all.
Far too much emphasis on money covered up with a lot of faux spiritual tosh.
TR boasted about going to Paris with his Platinum Club members and, on finding their preferred nightclub full, allowed the doorman to throw other guests off a table so they could sit down.
We were all encouraged to drink out of single use plastic cups which were then all chucked away, despoiling Fiji's green and pleasant land. My suggestion that we reuse them was met with incredulity and annoyance by the brainwashed 'trainers'.
Being English, I obviously loathed the hugging and groping - though did enjoy the dancing.
Save your money and just buy one of his books!
He is a philanthropist and gives to people that need basic necessities to live...if you can afford a $2-5k ticket to experience him, that’s not ripping money from your pockets.
I think that if he was truly a philatrophist, he would help the people that have financial problems for free, at least once in a while... When you can pay $2,000 and above for a ticket to an event, you are already one of the very few who have a higher level of financial security
I too, find his bragging to be excessive. I enjoyed your article.
Thanks for the video of the weird Tony clap. I lol for a long time.
I have crewed events for 2 years, I completed Mastery University in a year. I am a pharmacist 15 years. Tony Robbins, like Louise Hay and Wayne Dyer, even Deepak Chopra today, keep people out of hospital beds. I see 50--120 patients a day in pharmacy. Tony Robbins is the worlds number 1 coach. He has brought politicians, sports elite athletes, the everyday man and woman on the street back from the brink. This work is not easy! Pharmacy is not easy! Implementing change is not easy, but in the words of Bob Proctor it is worth it. Persevere. Never, ever, ever give up! You can do it! You can reach your goals and dreams and highest life purpose. Live for you. That's what Tony is showing people what and how to do. Be well and best wishes, Eavan
Thank you so much for this positive light. It seems quite strange, all the negativity. I needed to hear you, Eavan. I am struggling greatly with the ins and outs of life. My dreams are real to me, and I've been doing it all wrong for the past 22 years. There's no way out. I can't give up. I must make it to the other side, and I need help. I must succeed, because I have given my dream work , my life and I deserve it(already doing the work, yet it feels weird! I do deserve it, I'll say it again! We all do! And most importantly I feel that I will be a better person for others/the world when I fulfill my work dream) I just discovered Tony, while I can't go to his seminars, and I am best in quiet atmospheres for growth right now. I feel fortunate to listen on line. I'm exhausted. I'm tired. I need this help. I am so happy how passionate you are about TR keeping people out of hospitals and that you are a pharmacist at that! That gives me hope, because it shows me how you care and know that we are over medicated, this comment from YOU warms my heart so, that you are on the right side and want to help the "health" community and not the over use of meds/drugs. This all ties together with the kind of person you are and how you care! That is beautiful. Yes, it is so important to reach ones highest life purpose, to reach their full potential, it seems it's taking me nearly half my life to get there, and I better do this quickly,because of all the time passed by, and I won't say "wasted", just passed by with many experiences to hold. Yet, I must do what I can swiftly. I don't want to say my "whole" life it took me, sounds a lil more charming to say "half" my life. Listening to TR NOW, when I could have been listening to him all along! TR's message is very important and I wish for all to embrace it. And if you found TR young, you are all the wiser. And one lucky person. I missed out on TR and Grunge Music, I am not sure where I was (working a ton and moving way too much) I tie in Grunge Music, because it's quite powerful, all these amazing musicians blossomed in my hometown of Seattle, meanwhile TR was becoming the major influence and I missed both :(. Also,thinking of the fallen musicians that TR could have helped,if they found him, if they were open to him. I feel a fool to not realize TR's tools and the like. It's these types of tools that need to be in the tool box. Or it's like a tool box without a wrench! I am also looking into transcendental meditations. While I am late to the party, AlI I can be, is grateful that I discovered it all before I was 6 ft under. It resonates with me, I've done and thought it all wrong. It all seems common sense, yet , we, ourselves, our surroundings can destroy our lives, be the grandest detours of it all. As others said, we go back to those patterns that destroy our growth, and we must not, we only have a short time, we must stay on the right path. Which is why I am going to study TR, and TM (transcendental medi), with the combination, I am and must stay on the best path for my best life. All while listening to Soundgarden, Chris Cornell, Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Eddie Vedder, Alice In Chains, Mother Love Bone etc..! The fact that I missed out on some of the greatest people in the 90's is absurd. Lucky to all that already knew. I will be catching up to you! Thank You for your sweet words Eavan, Never Give Up, and now I must believe that's it's never too late! Happy New Year 2018 All, May all your days be filled with health, love and peace. Cynthia
Wow.
Try eckart tolle... U will like his talks more..
I've embraced ET and he way of thinking... and have been better ever since!
Your goals don't match the point of this event. And if you already had your breakthrough and are in a favorable stage of your life, the Tony Robbins events you should be going to are the business ones, not this one.
Every business person who wants to teach you something will tell you what they can do. That will create trust and credibility. After all, you have to tell people what you've done and can do since they don't really know you. Not everyone knows Tony Robbins or has the same message, so he has to say it over and over again, just like stories on TV or on the internet are repeated at different times in order for everyone to be on the same page. I agree with the self-promotion thing being too much, but how long would you take to promote all your work if you had over 30 companies and various kinds of seminars? Business is business, and he needs the money if he's going to feed/help all those people and be the best at what he does. He needs to increase his status so people around him can see that his results continue to improve, which expresses a sense of trust and that what he does actually works. He did mention before that he wants to be the best at what he does, and that includes being shameless about advertising his own work, which anyone of higher status will advise you to do. You yourself did that in this article with Tony Robbins and his crew using your products, which you actually didn't have to do, and you still did for a reason.
All perspectives need to be taken into account, not just a couple. I don't obsess over Tony Robbins, but what I've learned from him has all been for free, otherwise he would have a team flagging all of his free videos on Youtube that are uploaded by random individuals.
Totally agree, just seems funny to not pay it forward in the best way that you can
Thank you so much for this article on a Robbins event. I'm a Nurse with a goal of becoming a Motivational speaker. This coming year goal is to attend at least 5 events, just to get feel for the environment and learn from those out there doing it already. I felt that many of these events weren't for me just by watching on YouTube. I love helping others in the more physical since. So I needed this to help start me off on the right track moving forward. You dropped so many jewels and I'm sure you have so much more. I often find inspiration from within, just having a hard time finding that mentor who's going to give me the tools I need to move forward. Thanks so much for this and keep it coming. Blessings and much success
I’m not being funny but you have a mastermind group someone who can go hiking with you on a whim and discuss personal development and even after spending all that money for a conference you were able to get a massage and chill the f out! On top of this you walked out on a conference most people can’t fully afford so you’re pretty much covered. You also have willpower and some of his books! It could be said his conference worked so well for you that you were sorted in just one day! This is an extremely annoying post! For someone like myself his conference could be life changing especially seeing as we don’t have your already motivating environment
I totally agree
Already reread and I did a not so good job at checking my sentences for correctness.
You expected too much for the ticket you paid. Trade expectations for appreciation.
I am so grateful I read hishis books. I wish had the money to atrend his events. Even if I do I would not spend on his seminars but massage and other health related leisure activities. I love Tony but also other great authors as well.
This was great. TR teaches something called Reticular Activating System. What he teaches is not what it actually does, it regulates levels of consciousness like sleep...it doesn't cause you to only see negative things that you think about. That sounds more like Negativity Bias. I was telling this to a coach yesterday that teaches RAS in his dating webinars and he just reacted to me in an email that it's not a "Tony Robbins thing" and it's a real thing...without even researching what I said which is what a scientist would do...but we're not talking about science are we?
Hi, I'm totally with you. So many of these self development do a lot of talking ab out what you may need to change bla bla bla, but they don't actually get down to telling you how it's done...you leave with a sense of euphoria, and then when a problem hits you you're back to square one because you've not been given anything specific, just a feel good factor for the time you're there and maybe a few days after. Setting goals, pretty useless...our main goals should be waking up in the morning and feeling good about who we are, everything else is just fluff.
Tony has read all the same books we've read, and he's smart enough to paraphrase them and then sell them at a seminar as his own. Do the math, 10,000 people at $2000 a pop. TR makes $20 million per event. I'd be excited too!
Spot on!
I actually attended UPW and Date with Destiny and loved them both! I am very happy and healthy, work from home, live in Breckenridge and snowboard or hike every single day. Life is good! I don't have problems I want to solve when I attend these events and yet I have a blast and make HUGE positive changes afterwards anyway. I have connected with so many awesome people from around the world and discovered things about myself I didn't realize before attending. It's always healthy to take time for yourself and to refocus your values. I gained a lot of insight and left extremely motivated to kick ass both times. He mentions that his program isn't for everyone and it's for those who are already successful but want to reach higher. That is why my mother and I were good candidates. We didn't arrive to either event with expectations yet made HUGE positive changes in our businesses, health and relationships. There's a reason that celebrities and really wealthy people attend these events and hire him as their personal coach. Those people are already successful but are still striving to reach their full potential. He clearly states that these events are not for everyone and he's right. Make sure you actually have what it takes if you want to get your money's worth. You still have to put in the work, he's not going to do it for you. He's simply helping you unlock your full potential. If you don't grow tremendously from attending an event, maybe you've just reached your limit. Like I said, it's not for everyone. For me, there is no limit and I will never stop growing and learning and making a difference in this world. I'm thankful for these events/ They helped push me past my limits and conquer some major goals that I'd been putting off.
I am at Dat with Destiny and I too walked out. It’s freezing in the room and I’m in Florida walking around in my boots with gloves and hat and a 25 pound backpack with layers of clothes and water etc. I’m here 5 hours and all I have heard so far are sales pitches on his platinum membership and business mastery! Disappointed I just walked out because after 5 hours of commercials I feel I should get to choose hoe to spend my time and if you want to sales pitch me let me know so I can decide to be there or not. Too much dancing this program is way too long with too much fluff.
I’m literally watching TR I’m not your Guru on Netflix and I immediately noticed how strange his clapping was! Then to see the clip of your pointing out the clap ..... ?? Good Laugh. TR is amazing and I love watching his videos, etc. but I’m also totally with you on the bragging and name dropping. I couldn’t even get past the first few chapters of one of his books because of the bragging, etc. One more thing... the pictures of you.... that definitely does not look like the same dude. Good for you that’s crazy.
He claps that way now because of the nerve damage he’s suffered over the years from all of the events.
Tony Robbins is another prosperity preacher. A false prophet.
If ypu want to know what to do, know yourself. Read philosophy, read the Tao Te Ching. No one can help you but ypurself.
It really floors me that the people on here criticize others and call them names because they go to a Tony Robbins event. It sounds like you name callers should seek help at some type of seminar or maybe a psychiatrist. It sounds like you are the type of person who complains and calls people names for wearing certain clothes or shoes. When in reality we all are guilty of buying into a brand of some type and spend thousands of dollars on that brand. Do you wear Nike’s? Holy crap you must be a moron! Why would you spend $200+ on sneakers? Maybe you drive a Mercedes! Why? I could go on and on. I’ve never been to a Tony Robbins event and don’t plan on going however, I’m not gonna slam people who do. I don’t go to church and believe there’s a deity who chooses wether I go to a place after I die but, I don’t slam others who do. Really, get over your self righteous selves and quit worrying about what people spend their money on. That’s a choice they made! You did not make that choice and quite frankly who cares!
I went to UPW in November. One of the first things he says is" I'm not going to teach you anything you already don't know. Everything you need is inside you. I'm just going to unleash it!" That is the entire point of UPW, to remind you who you are and ignite what you want to do with your life. To push away the excuses of I can't... because... Just like the author of this article, he didn't care for TR but what did he do when he left? He did things that helped him personally and had him grow and challenge the road blocks in his life. If you break down the 4 days of the TR seminar, you can do the work all yourself. You can! Challenge yourself to do something you never would have considered. Walking across fire. I did and burnt both my feet. I wasn't upset about it and it hurt for a few days after. Just like life. You can get hurt and burnt on a few things but if you take care of yourself you can heal.
Eat right and exercise, sleep well. This is a no brainer. People who have depression and anxiety take meds and see counselors, So do people who don't have those issues. People need people to care about them and help them up. Another one of Tony's points. He's just helping people up. He's done this for almost 40 years and yes continually to reinvent himself to what works for him and applies that knowledge to everyone else. You take what works and leave the rest behind. We are supposed to reinvent ourselves, not stay stagnant. Think about it, when air is not moving you feel stifled. You need help. Someone can open a window, you would be so grateful because now air is moving. You could open the window and you still would be so grateful for moving air.
Go see people who challenge you, think differently or have an ideal that is inline with yours. If other people don't challenge us to challenge ourselves how would we grow? take responsibility for yourself, love your self, look in the mirror and truly see who you are. Grow every day, even if its to give yourself a hug, help someone carrying packages.
It's not naive, it's love of oneself and Tony has figured out how to tap into that lucratively but yet how many people do you think go home and try things he says. When you don't follow through on changing and growing you become stagnant like the air. If you don't like things then leave and change them but keep moving.
The name dropping is to point out that if you wanted to get to someone influential you could, you just have to continually try and express your message
The massaging and dancing, figure up your nose is for loving your neighbor as yourself. No one is better then the other, we are all in a different point in our lives. Some by choice of circumstance and some by choices we made and some by choices that were made for us. The dancing is to move your endorphins, endorphins make people happy! If you didn't like the music, use your own but move and be happy. The last thing is the nose picking, while at first it did seem ridiculous, the point of reinforcement was that all problems can be tackled and eventually the fear and judgment of ones self releases and what is left is love on one self and care to you and not others.
I went to UPW in July. I enjoyed reading your perspective and I can agree there's WAY too much massaging going on. But TR uses this as an immersion event. 4 days to really dive in and be uncomfortable. I enjoy 80% of the UPW experience and was happy to leave the rest.
(Dickens, past/present exercise? ew. Conflicting nutrition advice, no thanks).. so for those segments I left. Got a snack or went to my room.
I LOVED the firewalk, not because you walk on fire - but because I did something I had no interest in and didn't even believe or cared about. But I pushed through and at 1am I did it. I'm someone who will choose comfort EVERY DAMN TIME, so to be pushed out of my comfort zone in many ways was worth it.
I was also reminded that I'm in control of my life and my emotions, and I stopped taking antidepressants that very weekend (I was on a low dose and I was only taking them out of fear). I didn't necessarily LEARN anything new, but I was REMINDED of my power and that experience has stayed with me.
We all need support, and that support can come from many different ways. I can be a bit lazy, so for 4 days I turned off my thoughts and opened my heart. It was an EXPERIENCE I'll never forget. It's not for everyone, and it can feel a bit cult-y. I think it's important to follow many thought leaders and keep an open mind. TR isn't for everyone, but everyone should be open to learning from those further down the path.
I'm going to DWD next year, I'm equally scared and excited. And that's a good thing!
I agree with you about UPW - I walked out too. But I did attend Business Mastery and LOVED it. The connections and new friends I made were absolutely gold and I loved some of the things he did during the week long seminar. The days were super, super long, but totally worth it. I learned a lot and got to talk to people that were far more successful than me, and learned some new ways of thinking. Loved it so much that I signed up for Business Mastery 2 next year.
It would have been nice if you had not had to walk out and had realized before you even plucked down your hard earned cash for this event that it was not a true way for you to move forward in your life, but was a great way for Robbins to further enrich himself. Many of the techniques and strategies Robbins uses are readily available at the public library or online, and so your money would have been better served making a donation to meals on wheels or some other organization that would have used it to better the lives of people who are truly suffering.
I've never attended, but I have watched his Youtube videos, and what I think most about is this: if he goes on and on about generosity, why he doesn't he offer free trainings or seminars for the poor, who actually need this the most.
He does! Look it up
Excellent point!
Although a standard answer might be...."you value what you pay for" However, he should offer free scholarships
He does do that
I agree with your assessment of UPW. I just finished the one in west palm. There is some valuable guidance for everyone, but I think there is more value for the people less "emotion fortified" if you will. I felt that it was virtually 50% infomercial, and I actually got more out of his free you tube stuff. I will say that he's an impressive individual in his ability to read and reach people emotionally, and he loves what he does. UPW was like a concert and a religious revival. Date with Destiny? Doubt it
This American romantic fascination for Tony Robbins band wagon is unhealthy. His target customer is people who just can't quite find a way to be happy with themselves that he professes he has the answers. Thats altruistic platitude in spades (no personal interaction or one on one interest defies personal relevance). Always all guns blazing & has reinvented himself so often that he is the number one over patronising name dropper on the planet. If he really wanted to change the world he would have stood for President instead of dropping all their influential names like a Me 2. For 3 decades (its a numbers game) & new people keep swallowing.
Tony has helped tonssss of people- but I think I agree with this comment. It seems like a hype up event that wears off after a few weeks or even months. After you feel like you need that hype to get going, it becomes like an energy drink... you can’t seem to focus or accomplish anything without it, plus the crashing from the high.
I listed to Tony Robbins' 30 day tape program when I was 16 years old, and it changed my life. I started down a path of self reliance and control. And just like everyone else who gains control over their life, they start seeing things differently. I wouldn't recommend him to anyone else, even though absolutely helped me.
Why? Because when you find the solutions he provides to be temporary and specific, they no longer change you. I had to face myself, my sins, and I found God. And when God says fear him more than men, and take this seriously (commit) then you start to stop being afraid in life, just like how Tony Robbins taught me. But for a permanent reason, not a selfish and temporary one.
When you dedicate your life to helping others, you don't need tricks and gimmics. When you worry about other peoples problems more than your own (truly) you cannot be depressed. If you are still depressed, then go back to worrying about other people until you aren't any more. If you are still depressed, then you are lying to yourself about what you are worrying about.
In Proverbs it says worldy saddness leads to death, is this not depression leading to suicide written thousands of years ago? There is nothing new under the sun. Help someone else, you will find love very quickly. Do something real, stop lying to yourself, and if you are afraid, admit it to yourself. If you cower in your own fears, you are a coward. If you justify your fears, you are a liar to yourself.
It's all rather simple. Love others, and you will have love. You don't need thousands of dollars. Just humility, peace and personal sacrifice for the sake of others.
Peace to you
Very well said, thank you
Amen!!!
I listened to Tony’s 30-day Personal Power program about 15 years ago and it changed my life, too. I was super depressed and on the verge of starting anti-depressants when I began, and by the end I had the most productive work month ever and felt happier and more positive than I had in years. I agree with you, though, that this can be temporary and we have to continue working every day toward more permanent change. I think Tony would agree. He teaches people to jump start their lives and to use tricks to shift the focus of our thinking to a more positive direction. I still ask his morning power questions most mornings and use many other little things I learned. I love Tony Robbins and love many of his books and programs. I reread Notes from a Fridnd often. He’s been a huge influence and helped a lot of people. Many of today’s “gurus” use variations on Tony’s ideas. Mel Robbins’s “30 before 7:30” is a variation on Tony’s “Hour in Power,” her 5 Second Rule is a variation on Tony’s pattern interruption, etc. I’m not sure I’d get much out of UPW either, but as with most things, I think take what works, discard what doesn’t and don’t give up!
My daughter and I went to one day of UPW. We walked out after day 1. We absolutely concur with what you said. Waaaayyyy to long, to loud, just way over the top. We were not impressed with the event.
I just went to UPW in West Palm. I gotta say I have mixed views on what I experienced. I’ve read a few of his books and went to “YouTube University before. I do like some of his ways. LIVE I did like the information, direction, and his personal stories.
I admit Tony and his partner personally did work their asses off those days. WHAT I DIDNT LIKE was.... High 5’s every single minute from his team! Massages from other students were acceptable, but then being told to stick your fingers up your nose to say your limiting beliefs, and then give 5 high fives and hugs seemed alittle bit nasty ? ! He then took us back to the past and future bringing us to our worst nightmares... I get the point BUT The women next to me and others were screaming like they were in a Stephen King horror movie!
I came along way with self help education since 2009. Proctor, Rolm, Canfield, Assaraf, Tracy, Hopkins, Ziglar, Hardy, Cardone, and others. They all hit key patterns with different versions. I went to day 4, payed for parking and waited an extra half hour before I walked out. I didn’t “feel” good with these people anymore. AGAIN I did take home some good stuff, but wasn’t completely satisfied with it either.
Today was day 3 of the UPW event in South FL. I stayed the whole time and did the fire walk on day 1. It took over 2 hours just to get through the prep talking then another 1.5 hours in line waiting. Not to mention two blisters on my foot. I dint get it. All that sensationalism for what? I went to day 2 and left early. Went to day 3 known as Transformation Day. Gets you thinking but this guy really thinks he is a god. I agree with you on all the, well let me use one of his very common words, FUCKING dancing, massages, sounds, rave music, high fives, and other tactics it is just too much. Felt like a cult event. And to sum it up you are correct that he is a huge bragger and name drops the whole time. He is a rich fuck and wants you to know it. I won’t be going back to Day 4.
The music/ bass was just an ongoing assault. It felt like the music was being used as a brainwashing tool. I hated all of it and felt huge relief when I left.
Thanks for your POV - it proved insightful without being judgmental. I just saw Tony's doc on Netflix "I Am Not Your Guru" and it made me realized we all have choices: take what works and leave the rest for someone else.
"A fool and his money are soon parted."
Well articulated & there is a abundance of fools always swarming for more.
I agree that UPW is less than awesome. It's broad, salesy and waay too much massaging going on. However, having been to Date With Destiny twice....I can say that when you commit to Tony's deeper programs you really do get something more profound out of it.
I think much of what you dislike about UPW would be solved through DWD. That said, doesn't seem like you want to do that (it's a full week!).
I wrote about my experience with Date With Destiny here: raviraman.com/8-things-to-know-before-attending-tony-robbins-date-with-destiny/
I attended UPW back in March 2017 in LA and couldn’t wait to simply disconnect from it all. There were celebrities attending in the audience including Carmen Electra, Mark Burnett, Kardashians, Kanye and TR preached to the masa how we should not be bothering them and to give them respect all while the cameras were pointed at their doe eye faces in their VIP seats. Here i’m thinking, “aren’t we all EQUAL in your eyes Tony??!?”
TR, is no doubt the master peddler of hopes, dreams and love but for thousands of dollars which I was open to spend. By the end of it, I realized I could simply rely and do this all on my own as i’ve always done - FREE!! Now this might be a lot to take in from die hard TR fans including one I spoke to who was attending his 15th UPW but honestly, combine all the mindfulness, higher conscious, higher purpose, love and “you can do it” stuff readily available at your fingertips, and you have yourself your own live event!
For those who don’t have the time and are riddled with petty distractions, the TR events are concentrated expensive picker uppers and he is making a killing doing it. His events have become more about MARKETING TR events, the brand, products etc. etc. after that, you’re on your own.
He skillfully utilizes the “get under their skin......and ailing hearts” agenda to have you eating from the palm of his and his apostles hands. And, speaking of eating, for all the nutritional and fitness talks, the arena that event was held only sold processed junk food, sodas which was quickly scoffed down as breaks were minimal. I’ve never eaten so badly during those 3 days!
I respect Tony Robbins and he has been rewarded many folds for his genuine efforts to help others. He has a lot of powerful things to say but so does God, Ghandi and most of all, YOURSELF if we just acknowledge the LOVE and LIGHT within. I don’t believe he is the same TR I read in my teens years ago who enlightened me but rather one who is casting a shadow today. : (
Sincere.
I never attended his seminars. But watched some on Youtube, Videos. But always felt TR's not very helpful to me.
Thanks for sharing.
Love it! I think TR is a real con artist egomaniac. Sociopathic? Greedy?
Good for you that you walked out! He is a sham and caters to people’s insecurities and fears. I wouldn’t waste a cent on that charlatan.
Agree. They are predators who live off emotionally weak people's insecurities. These people are too lazy to invest their own time making sense of the world, and want one stop shop to simply complexity, and create meaning out of nothing. In old days, religion, priests and prophets used to provide that service. Now the whole drama has taken up a more modern form with the likes of TR. It's been a lucrative business since the beginning of human civilisation. Egyptian priest we even more rich and powerful than the pharaohs.
Agreed. Amen.
If someone needs help to be free from pain and can afford it, why not TR-UPW! You got what you came for without knowing it and left. You have moved on from that particular event (part way through) and built the life that you now have. Win Win I'd say.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts here, it's interesting to hear what others might have questioned you about leaving early, and what you did instead.
As a Firewalk Facilitator people always think I will be a big fan of Tony's, but he doesn't resonate with me. Every so often I get people come to my walks that have walked with him and thought 'there must be more to this than that', and then they find me.
The reality is, different ways of doing things are right for different people. I'm sure Tony creates a magical space for the people that are right for working with him, but well done for recognising you're not one of them.
thank you for the posting- I've been listening to Tony via you tube find a lot of repeats but your info gave me a lot to think about and set new goals- I feel very excited about my future and networking with folks such as yourself...
I have read your article and I heard what you had to say. Personally I am not a fan of Tony Robbins, I am a sensitive soul and I don't enjoy people screaming in other people faces to get them to change? I love Byron Katie and her work. I know she believes what Tony Robbins is doing is good work and so it might be... but it's not for everyone. He isn't for me, at one time I read a quote from him on a friends timeline, the quote was "Emotions are a habit!" I totally disagree with this. Emotions are a deep self sufficient way to deal with painful and stressful events in one's life. Emotions are how we connect to our nurturing spirit. Emotions are our ever living heartfelt center. Emotions are not bad. Emotions are not a habit - a habit instinctively is something hard to give up - we don't give up our emotions? We are born with them, we die with them. Anyway, the friend was obviously brainwashed by Tony because she didn't discuss my idea she just deleted me. This friend is supposed to be evolved and up leveled to Tony's teachings. I know many people who follow him and worship him. I just don't like his style and he is not for me... so I will not drink the cool aid. However, I have coached people who have been sucked into his bright lights and dancing cult like stage theatrics and in the end they have realized that the only one who can do the work and bring you to the alter is yourself. There is no level of Guru who can help you find peace. Peace come from within. People can go to a rock concert and be just as pumped and entertained with out the brainwashing. The sad thing is many peoples lives have been forever changed because they drank the cool aid of Tony Robbins. Thank you for your insight.
Karen, you don't seem to understand what TR means when he says "emotions are a habit".
It simply means that you have control and influence over your emotions and that is not HIS teaching but the teaching of any serious therapist in the whole world. Yes, emotions are a habit. You can influence them, you can guide them, you can control them to a certain degree, and that alone is the difference between happy and unhappy people. That alone is the reason why there are poor children in the third world being happy and lively and millionäires with families and careers ending their lives with suicide. The outer circumstances don't matter that much - it is what we do with them. If you deny this, you are giving away responsibility for your own life and happiness and you will always be a slave of the outer circumstances.
I know his seminars only from Youtube, and I agree that they are too superficial. They are more like a short term energy boost than a deep growing opportunity. However, I have red his first book, 'Unlimited Power', and it goes deep into detail and offers an enormous amount of value when you are troubled with chronic problems or pain and search for a way to better your life.
Hey Noah! Interesting read and you're obviously huge successful and intelligent but I hope you don't mind if I (politely) challenge you a little... Before you read this I just wanted to clarify that I am in no way affiliated to Tony Robbins or any company related to him. I also completely agree with your comments around "cheese" and thinking that you wouldn't get much out of the UPW experience. I remember sitting there the first day and thinking the exact same thing. But boy was I wrong... It saddens me you let your subconscious pre-judgements influence you enough to walk out.
In any experience you have the choice to take from it as much, or as little as you decide. It's actually one of the core learnings of UPW. If you decide that you're not going to get much out of the experience, then that's exactly what will happen - especially if you actually forego the experience entirely ;-).
So unfortunately your pre-judgements and the fact you walked out mean you can't possibly give UPW/Tony/Or the results you can get - a fair assessment. You can't half ass 20% of a workout plan and then give a public review about the plan that influences other people?
Had you stayed past the first day and pushed through your limiting beliefs (that you were obviously experiencing - even though you say you weren't, I can see them written in your words), and committed your heart and mind to the experience then I have no doubt it would've had an immensely positive impact on your life... AS LONG as you committed to the on-going work that's required to maintain it. It's not a 3-4 day seminar, it's an immersive experience that's designed to give you a breakthrough moment, combined with the necessary framework and exercises to maintain that breakthrough.
The reason why it's not one day is because the seminar isn't a quick fix. Tony talks about living an outstanding quality of life which only comes from constant training. The best athletes in the world don't work out once a week and become amazing in their field. They practise with motivated intent, religiously. And that's what UPW is designed to build and has been proven to build. It's a platform to create rituals in your every day life to break patterns, and live an amazing life.
There's a reason why he brings all the cheese. There's a reason why he name drops. There's a reason why he claps the way he does. There's a reason why it's 3-4 days. And there's a reason why he makes you dance, hug and high five strangers.
Some of it's related to sales and some of it's related to pre-positioning people to opening up to what he teaches. But all of it is there for a purpose.
UPW has been taken by more people than any other life coaching program in history which means that it's been refined more than any other program. Am I saying this means that you have to accept every thing the program says or does? No. Am I saying that you shouldn't let the negative elements you don't agree with dictate your entire experience of it. Yes - 100%.
The reason why I'm taking the time to write this is not because I'm keyboard warrior trying to fill his day in. It's because you're an extremely accomplished and successful person, and we NEED people like you to dream bigger than your ever thought possible. We need you to saddle up and lead change in the world.
You may feel like at this moment of your life you don't need the experience.. Well you'll never bloody know if you don't actually do it. And the whole idea of UPW is that no matter what stage you are at in your life, there's always more to unlock. If you've accomplished enough or you feel every aspect of your life is fantastic (relationships, business, love, contribution to the world..), then I'd say you need to go through the experience more than anyone.
So I challenge you and ANYONE who reads this.
I challenge you to go to UPW or DWD with a completely open mind and heart.
I challenge you to commit to push through the cheese, any other doubts (i.e. your limiting beliefs) and get as much as you can out of the experience. Laugh, cry, hug and high five strangers while you tell them your darkest fears and your most aspirational dreams.
Then I challenge you to commit to two months of daily rituals to implement the frameworks.
If at the end of those two months you don't feel like it's helped unleash a greater power inside you. Find me and I'll refund you the cost of your ticket.
I absolutely agree with you! You can’t start something, quit halfway through and just say it wasn’t for you because you are uncomfortable. For example if you are not gay but society convinces you that you should give it a shot. You can’t just not have intimate relations with the same sex just because half way through it freaks you out. Then you certainly can’t write a review sharing your experience unless you went all the way! You’ve really got to challenge yourself bro! This is the dogma the wandering masses adhere to. They can’t stand on their own two feet so they need people like Tony Robbins to shake things up for them for a few days. Nothing has changed over thousands of years. Tony is one of the confidence peddlers selling to the insecure and good for him! He is making a killing and honestly he really needs to take it the next step and form a religion. There will always be those, who instead of searching for the healing they need from their Creator ( yes God) will look for a stronger man to guide them. Is it sad...nope, it is is just emptiness! TR is more than willing to sell you a whole bunch of universal feel good platitudes mixed with some awkwardness that pulls you out of normalcy and I say good for him. He knows his audience. He knows what kind of people are showing up to these events.
I have never been to any of his seminars or purchased anything of his retail. I bought his Unlimited Power book at a used bookstore, unread, for 2$. I am by no means an expert with his work. That being said, reading your post brought up some things I would like to share.
Some the dancing and craziness goes back to that Unlimited Power book, he's trying to get you to change your state. He believes state and plays a role in your ability to grow (connecting to the content). He also believes behavior comes from your state has a direct connection to your behavior and your actions. Your state is influenced by your physical being (posture, breathing, energy+nutrition levels, etc) and also by your internal representations of what's happening (how you see the world through your previous experiences -the way two people can see the same thing differently) He is herding the group to an excited state to get them out of mental and physical barriers. This gets the crowd into a favorable state for themselves and the people around them. It's similar to the stuff athletes do to get them into a performance mode.
This sounds like it also helps make additional sales for Tony's other ventures. If the stuff works and you need it fine, but I know I'm genetically incapable of lavish retail spending. I will say that the idea of getting people to realize they have the power to change their minds about what is happening to them is powerful, because a practice of deliberately altering your state is a part of self mastery. (The idea of separating yourself from your previous experiences and emotions is some of what 'Your Erroneous Zones' - Dr. Wayne Dyer is about.) Getting a majority to see that point can't be easy, but it's definitely lucrative. Generally people are slaves to bad habits, experiences and preconceived ideas+generalizations... So for some people a seminar can be the only way to get the experience. For me, the books are enough.
Someone I know is about to go to a "Life Mastery Event a 4 day event that has already cost $3500 .Now at the last minute they have asked for $1200 for an additional "meal plan" for 4 days.Interestingly this "meal plan" cost drops to $850 if one stays at the Loews Coronado Bay resort where this event is going to be held .Contact me if you would like to have the document that mentions the meal plan etc .Absolute rip off if you ask me!
That you would have to deflect so much bad faith against you for having a critical opinion before you even shared shows me that this is like a cult. The book "Bright Sided" has much to say about self help and Tony Robbins. Charging 2,000 dollars for a ticket? Are you kidding me? Tell me more about his good intentions.
You don't know me from a can of paint. I am a firm believer that you must offer or present a solution to the problem. A very successful business woman told me right before starting college, "If you are not a part of the solution, you are a part of the problem." That is why so often, I DO NOT offer my opinion without presenting a solution. I would love to see you take this blog post a step further by offering a solution that does just that --- by either facilitating or finding a very capable and energetic equivalent to provide a ONE DAY SEMINAR. What's my point? None of what Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey or YOU (:-)) say, for that matter, is new and could not be found in a book or the somewhere on the internet. The issue is IMPLEMENTATION. People need help with that. Why? Because change is hard. It takes perseverance. I takes commitment. That is what people need help with. If you ask me to help you with it. I will. No agenda, here. I just love to seeing outliers and mavericks make things happen.
"If you are not a part of the solution, you are a part of the problem."
Complete, utter, b.s.
This is what's known as a "False Dichotomy" or "False Binary". (Don't believe me? Look it up.)
The bottom line is that Tony Robbins is an expert salesman, and the product Tony Robbins is selling is... wait for it... Tony Robbins.
The only difference between a Tony Robbins seminar and a Faith Healing seminar is that at least at the end of a Tony Robbins seminar the "healed" attendees don't go home and die because they were convinced to stop taking their chemo and radiation therapy.
Then again, judging from some of the suicidal people in attendance at Tony's seminars, maybe some of them actually do go home and die afterwards.
What a sad, tragic waste of time, money, and attention for these poor desperate people who think that a charismatic huckster who's suckering them for untold millions of dollars is going to change their life for them.
P.T. Barnum was right -- there really is one born every minute. And they all grow up to attend a Tony Robbins seminar.
The comparison of Tony Robbins to a faith healer hit’s the nail on the head. His Energizing “praise and worship” tactics are very similar to those used in mega churches to get people pumped up and feeling good to open up the pocket books for TR merchandise. People want to feel good and get energized and that is what TR does, but after the dust settles there is not manual or tool kit that can be implemented that will ensure you don’t need another dose of TR. Great article.
"If you are not a part of the solution, you are a part of the problem." absolute b.s. sad that four years of college did not educate you otherwise, perhaps ur not in a good school or major which enlightens u enough. some problems have no solutions and u either see it or pretend you don't. please don't masturbate to the idea that there will always be resolutions.
I like your solution! Implementation IS needed and necessary for those of us stuck and incapable or afraid of change. In general, people don't change their lives when things are going smoothly. I am in a VERY uncomfortable place right now, and seeking assistance in implementing change in my life, but I didn't know exactly what I was looking for until I read your response...thank you!!
E Douglas, I could not agree more. As an aside can I put my implement in you cause you are one fine looking lady!
Actually I think you had a successful seminar. You went to discover how to unleash the power whithin and you did just that, Bit faster than 2.5 days , however you did do it Cheers
Great way of looking at it - you are right!!!
Great post. I appreciate your honesty.
I believe maybe you just passed the phase that you would need to be in such a seminar. Like you said, you aren't better or worse than anyone because of it. You are already part o masterminds, already have a great company, maybe the seminar doesn't make sense for you at this time in your life. You review was awesome and also gave me a short reminder of all the great sales tools tony uses when he talks.
It's not self-help if you need a carnival hawker pushing his wares on you. These guys are all the same. They're master manipulators with one goal: to sell their supplements, books, tapes, etc. and make themselves millionaires by preying on self-loathing and gullible idiots.
What empirical evidence that Tony Robbins has helped anyone improve their life or career?
Or better how do you know that reading a Tony Robbins book has done more to improve a person motivation compared to bowing a dvd from the library or watching some tony Robbins videos on Youtube?
"I decided it would be better for me to work on my specific issues, one-on-one with a friend": well said....... nothing beats one-on-one discussions.
It seems like you didn't go in with a need that the seminar would have been able to fulfill, needs you could already meet on your own as you are already operating at an empowered level. If you had gone in with a different purpose (like learn as much as you can) you would have stayed regardless of little annoyances.
Hello
I went to a free seminar today in Brussels (Belgium) of UPW Tony Robbins...
First of all, I was amazed about the give away, impossible I thought, must be that they are going to harass me with purchase goods etc... this wasn't the case, only... Tony himself wasn't hosting. Instead, some guy named Allan came up to the stage. Ok, minor disappointment, but seriously, what dit I expect for no money?
So I decided to still be enthousiastic about the whole thing.
During the 3hour session, I learned nothing new. I don't really follow TR, however, I am an active self development learner and I knew everything Allan preached from a previous way too expensive coaching seminar I attended.
At the end, the sale pitch began.
So I left...
Don't get me wrong. I know for a act that those 4 days with TR would be mindblowing, energetic, incredible. But that is just it: it would only be those 4 days. Afterwards, you return in you real life, and you try to apply it into it, but slowly it fades...
My first coaching experience which resembled a lot to the TR experience (though in smaller groups) offered me a lot of power and strength, and it was a great eye opener. Nothing more I'm afraid.
So spending that much money on 4days, to me, is crazy! You will never truly gain the power and strength for a lifetime. You will need to return, spend a lot of money, and preferably, have one on one sessions, which are simply out of reach for most of us.
Do I believe in what he is teaching? Absolutely!
Do I think you need this to find your power? Absolutely not!
Just listen to yourself, feel within your heart, and move along your path as fits you best. You don't have to spend money to that extend to reach your full potential.
In the end, it is the American dream, of being able to live and earn well, beyond well, becoming a milionair. That isn't what drives me though... and worshiping someone can be dangerous if you ask me. Worship yourself, the rest will follow. You don't need to become a milionair, just be happy with who you are.
Thanks and fully agree with you, even being a great fan of TR books and videos, but the change must and will come from within anyway. Nice article by the way, its always interesting and healthy to read not only the positive but the negative, even if they are still personal experiences.
This is such a well-written article. I love it. Thank you for writing this!
So....... you asked for a refund??? Did you get it? Good for you for walking out. All the hoopla and rah rah rah is good for the moment, then we go back to our reality called life.
You brought trust and secret yearning to this event, looking for your own way to Unleash the Power Within. What you describe feels more like loss of control and personal space than meaningful breakthroughs.
Tony Robbins offers legendary energy and crowd control. No wonder his cult-like leadership rallies supply an addictive surge of external motivation followed by claustrophobic resistance for many. Some choose to stay plugged into the Tony Robbins programs for security. Many others feel resistance you felt over a loss of autonomy and real connections.
Why not use Tony Robbins contributions and insights more effectively by using every part of your brain for lasting rejuvenation and change as you chose to do. Intrinsic motivation fuels many of our higher-level drives in life, including those you mention. Without more autonomy, most of us are more likely to let go of public inhibitions at a 3-day staged event without any lasting fulfillment.
It was interesting and refreshing to read. And I didn't even know who Tony Robbins is five minutes ago.
Thank you for your feedback! Did you ask for the refund? 🙂
thank you for the posts. I first attended a tony robbins event in the 1980's in California. Following, I purchased his Unlimited Power cassettes and listened repeatedly for months. I was so enamored, at the expense of many hours of my time transcribed every meaningful phrase. In the upcoming one year, I read and reread my hours of time investment. Then in the mid 1990's I started my own business. Incorporating some of his principles, I did feel justified and comforted with some of my hesitations while navigating the many aspects of business management and hopes, successes and failures along the path to eventual stability. In 2013 I attended Date with Destiny in Palm Desert. After the first day of DD I signed up for the business Seminar in Florida in January 2014. Returning home from DD, I promptly cancelled the Florida seminar. I did learn some valuable tools at DD but the exhausting hours attending the 5 or 6 days of worthlessness watching prancing and dancing by Tony on stage was convincing. DD usually began each day at about noon or later and lasted well into the midnight hour or after. the meat of this 5 or 6 day course could be condensed into 2 to 3 days and not run past 6 pm. I was considering signing up for UPW in Florida but not now after reconsidering my last experience and reading posts on this blog.
I have never been to one of TR's events. I have followed his work since 1992. I totally respect him. Your articles hasn't changed my view about wanting to go to see him, but what your post does reinforce, that is consistent with all these guys (TR, Brendan Burchard, Robert Kyosaki, Dean Graziosi, Robin Sharma...) is their endless selling. We ALL know they started without privilege, we all know they have interacted / taught the most successful, wealthiest people in the world, we ALL know that they have turned around the lives of millions of people. I want them to stop selling and just continue to provide the great content that they believe in. If their audiences don't believe in the value of their content, then they won't ever come back to experience more. Selling won't convince them of that. So stop selling at every opportunity and FOCUS on the PURPOSE of the content. I think this is TR's mantra!
First, I don't agree with the disparaging comment about Jehovah's Witnesses. Second, I agree that the "massage your neighbor" thing would cause me to leave. Too weird. I believe that Tony Robbins seminars are in reality a sales effort to sell other products and more seminars. I would bypass Tony Robbins and to get into Brian Tracy if I were you.
Great article, I've been to quite a few Tony Robbins events. Its a bit like going drinking when you're a teenager. Great in its time and place. Takes strength to go against the flow. Thanks for sharing.
My husband, and father of 3, attended a UPW event this year. It's the worst thing that could have ever happened to our family. The hype, the high-fiving, the hypnotic music, strobe lighting, the pumped up hightened emotions, the excitement, etc. It changed him, at a cost.
Obviously, to go there in the first place my husband was searching for something, some meaning and a way to feel good about himself. Most of us need a bit of help at different stages in our lives to deal with the inevitable: losing loved ones, issues of aging, relationship problems, health and diet, weight issues, sickness, feeling lonely, depression, and more.
Instead of helping my husband by giving him the tools to deal with life events, this has given him an additional distraction to remove him and distance him further from his life, his beautiful children and our family as a whole. His new "healthy eating and nutrition" program, that he adopted from UPW, means that he no longer eats with any of us as a family (which was one of the few remaining times we actually got him to ourselves because he works so much).
He is now obsessed by his diet, his own individual goals and everything UPW. He is connected with people he met at UPW, as is encouraged at the event, and they all support each other. They even have their own language, motivational phrases that they learned at the event. People that are not "in the club" just don't understand and are naysayers.
I don't say much to my husband about this because this is his journey, his choice and his way of finding a path that suits him best. I respect that. We all deal with life issues differently.....and I'm very much in favour of personal development. But in this case, it has contributed to the break-up of our family and 3 children being confused as to where the Dad they once knew went.
Goodness, that's so very sad... really hope that it eventually starts turning around for your family. Maybe you could talk to your husband and let him know how being able to eat with hims makes you all feel? All the best.
Heart wrenchingly sad for me to read. I'm sorry for your loss (which is what people post on FB after others' loved ones die) came to mind.
Linda,
My heart goes out to you. Sounds like you have been incredibly patient with your husband's "mid life crisis" as you hold down the fort. As a Tony Robbins graduate from a 10 day intensive in Hawaii, including the firewalk and also a weekend in the SF Bay area, I can tell you that the optimal outcome for me was the amazing "night out" experience my small team shared together in Molokai as we had an unprecedented opportunity to be invited to the leprosy colony. I met the oldest living leper and we entertained the lepers, who had never seen white people except their doc. My team which was the NO 1 team in the conference for the better part of 7 days (there were 1000 people attending) was simply great. I met some super folks, one of whom I still communicate and one of whom is now dead, aka, amazing entrepreneur and American Patriot who had big success before attending the conference. That said, I do not think that Tony Robbins, himself would advise the dissolution of family is a great outcome of his seminars. I am not saying that I think Tony is my guru, he clearly is not, God almighty is for sure. For me, it was a great "vacation" from a busy work life, an opportunity to fly to Hawaii, great entertainment and experiences. It occurs to me that your husband is "searching" and the time with Tony and his new friends who are all currently drinking the same tea is a priority for him. Seems like the Tony Robbins transformational seminar sort of "scratched his itch" so to speak. That said, it sounds to me like he has the best opportunity at hand with his own family which has been "left behind" not knowing the "jargon" and "Tony Speak" that compels some people to relate to one another. Tony is a fantastic marketer and has understood how to amass great wealth through the evolution of his company built on the hunger and thirst for people to find meaning in this life. Is that a crime? No. Is there anything fundamentally wrong with it? No. I call it free markets and individual choice. He, himself, does apply his principles well and an undefined percentage of his audience manages to find success that they attribute, in part, to him. I most definitely have adopted the notion of "adding value" but did it prior to attending. I can honestly say that for me personally, my foray into Tony Robbins did not add one red cent to my bottomline. It was entertainment and education. As it relates to personal growth, yes I think that there is some value there. The problem I see here is that you, your husband's wife, partner and Mother of his children did not attend the conference such that you would know now of what he speaks. He is now off in a world that does not include you or your children and your family life. At least, had you attended the conference together, you would be beamed up on his new perceptions, whether you found it useful or not. Now, you are excluded. All that said, it does not sound as though this "morphing" of your husband is constructive to a healthy family life. You cannot blame this on Tony Robbins, candidly. However, I hear and feel your frustration. I can assure you that nothing anyone learns at a Tony Robbins intensive is worth losing your cherished family over. I think that Tony would have to agree if queried. You are obviously a good and faithful wife, Mother and supporter. Maybe you and your husband could sign up for a married couples workshop weekend with a faith based community and work on your interpersonal relationship relative to what God has intended for marriage...not what Tony Robbins has taught in a weekend. Linda, find yourself a women's bible study to help you navigate these challenging times. Do not give up on your husband and marriage. Keep vigilant and pray. God can do all things. Trust in him, first and foremost. I can honestly say that I did not have the relationship with God when I was a Tony Robbins firewalker and seminar participant that I have today. While I am glad I did the training and have some great memories, I can assure you that NOTHING Tony Robbins can teach or share will EVER CHANGE my gratitude for my relationship with Jesus Christ as a professing Christian. God is FOR families...not against. God is for MARRIAGE COVENANT...not against and Jesus, himself had a whole lot to say about the value of children and gave strong admonitions in scripture for those who caused harm to them in anyway. So, Linda...be encouraged! I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Hi Linda. It sucks that you're going through that. It sounds like your husband has been looking for a distraction from life's stresses and turned to TR instead of a more typical vice like alcohol, drugs or an affair. It's all still about controlling and self-medicating pain, though, and when anything turns into an obsession it can get difficult for the loved ones who are caught up in it (or left behind because of it).
I would be cautious about blaming UPW specifically, though. UPW is just the focal point he chose. If it wasn't that, it would likely be something else. I hope you don't mind, but I wanted to share an experience from my own family that I feel relates.
My own mother did a similar thing with church and it drove my atheist father crazy, to the point where they had heated arguments about her going. What my dad didn't see was her pain: she had MS, and eventually took her own life to escape the disease escalating to its later stages.
Church was one of her few comforts and I have no doubt that my dad's lack of support or tolerance for her coping mechanism contributed to the isolation and depression that ultimately caused her to do what she did.
What I've since realised is that my dad had a very specific idea of what he wanted his family life to be, and he did not tolerate anything that detracted from it. My mom chose to grow in a way which wasn't compatible with what he wanted... so instead of adapting, or understanding, he became bitter and resentful at church and controlling towards her about it.
He did this because he himself WASN'T growing or doing anything to make himself happy. It was easier to blame my mom for that than actually take up a hobby himself which would force him out of his routine.
I am not suggesting you are like my dad, of course. (Or that your husband might do what my mom did - God forbid!). But it occurs to me there is a similarity there in terms of family patterns. We get used to the way we think our families should operate and then when they stop being that way we blame the other person for growing or changing... but sometimes it can actually highlight that we need to change something ourselves.
I don't know how you might go about communicating better with your husband to let him know how you feel about the change. There's probably a big chance he might get defensive (like my mom did) if he thinks you're trying to shut down something he loves. Butbeing the dutiful wife and mom and NOT speaking your truth sounds like it is also presenting problems for you, holding it all in. Could the "When you do this, I feel this." approach be helpful - so he feels more empathy for you than control from you? It's an approach I WISH my parents had been mature enough to take; I believe it may have helped them a lot over the years.
I apologise if any of my story seem irrelevant or my advice unwarranted. I can relate to the pain of seeing a partner become more self absorbed and distant from my own relationship experiences. I guess I wanted to challenge you on where you're placing the blame because feeling hopeless about these things can make it even harder. And you don't deserve that. Sounds like you have enough on your plate already.
Did you get a refund? It would say a lot for Robbins' integrity if a refund was 'cheerfully' given. Thank you for having the sense to follow your inner compass and walk out when it felt like the right thing to do.
I suspect legal reasons
Thanks for sharing and totally can relate. I had a similar experience when I attended a friends church. The preacher sure knew how to keep the crowd on in awa. He made high holy promises (that I questioned as they came out his mouth). In any case, the energy was good, the preacher was very present but I didn't connect with him. I actually felt I could go up there and teach him a few things about eye contact and crowd engagement.
In any case, big-ups to you and I see now reason to feel embarrassed. Your money should be invested in things that speak or relate to you on a deeper level.
Stay cool,
RR
Thanks for the article, I totally relate. I attended UPW recently, I loved the high energy, walking on fire but could do without strangers touching me.... I stuck it out until day 3 and left. I felt kind of embarrassed at first to leave a day early - "I'm not playing full out" as they would say, but realized my time is more valuable. Tony has some great insights but the up-selling I found extremely distasteful.... if you go you will get value out of it, just don't get caught up in the hype that you're not committing to your life if you don't sign up for the next event or coaching sessions etc.... (people were literally running to sign up... Tony can sell ice to a dead Eskimo - that we can all learn from 🙂
You got the good stuff out of it. Day 1/2/3 are great. Day 4 was all pseudoscience bs and marketing. He only talks on day 1/3 anyways. If I do UPW again I’ll skip day 4, it actually detracts a lot from UPW.
This is really great. I feel totally recreated. I think to ny robbins makjes a massive difference to the mass. If you are someone who is committed to personal growth though. I think tony is just a bit light on. Have you ever checked out landmark education. It sometimes gets a bad rap. But if you are discerning and willing to be responsible as you clearly are. I think you may get what you are looking for. I recently walked away from a company called Winning International with Ryan madgriaz. He is a tony robbins university grad. He portrays himself as the coaches coach. But in truth. The whole experience was low level high pressure sales alot of rah rah and very little substance. It was a substantial investment that they give no refund for and i was left feeling very ashamed that i had been hoodwinked. But i needed to walk away for my own self respect. I have never experienced anything life it. It makes me very hesitant to take anything serious about what tony robbins teachers. Like you i dont think he is a bad person. Just marketing to the masses. Thanks for sharing your experience. It is difficult to go against the flow but it also reveals a great deal about who you are.
If you haven't read the book Quiet by Susan Cain, you should. I think it would shed a lot of light on how you felt that day. She even attended a seminar as research and it is quite telling. I found your article because I was curious about TR after reading her book. It would be interesting to see what you think about it.
This book actually did wonders for me! It's amongst some of the best books I have read all my life :-).
Hey - if you're interested in TR I highly recommend watching his documentary on netflix!! It will show you what his seminars are really like... and will probably totally creep you out...
I agree with you with regards to a few of your points, but otherwise, strongly stand in opposition of what you have written here.
Yes, Tony Robbins does go a little off point at times, and id you are the type that has to have everything organized and compartmentalized, I can see how this could get unnerving. However, his energy and enthusiasm is powerful at keeping his audience's attention despite his meandering tendencies. I, too, detest having strangers touch me as well as touching strangers, let alone people I am friends with, so the excessive massaging was extremely unnecessary and uncomfortable (and not in a positive, self-development way). I also agree that he should allow for more time for conversing with each other - I kept feeling rushed to get the exercises done when we had to work with our partners.
Aside from all that, I am surprised that someone of your personal history of success and experience would make the decision to quit something so early on as to walk out of a 4 day workshop after just 7 hours! $2,000 or $20 dollars, money aside, if you commit to learning from an experience, how can you give up after not even finishing out the first day in its entirety? You think you spent your time better by the description you gave of your day, the day following your first day at Tony's event? What you described you did could have been done any day of your life. You made the decision and paid for it, to attend his workshop for 4 days (3.5) and you couldn't last more than 7 hours. You mentioned Tony saying "Play fill out with me". That doesn't mean play for 7 hours then leave. If you think that you are too wise and too successful to gain some sort of insight from someone who is lightyears further in life and far more experienced and successful than you are and probably ever will be, then you have much deeper issues than you may be ready to admit, my friend.
I don't know you, nor do I have any sort of personal interest with regards to Tony Robbins other than I did gain a lot from the one event I attended (same one as you did - for 7 hours anyways), but I have been told I have incredible intuition and just by what I gathered from the way you wrote this article, you sound like you have a huge ego problem - and I don't mean the way you laid out your accomplishments in the beginning of your blog. I mean what you say does not match up or sound consistent throughout this write-up. You say "Do you think I'm dumb enough to bash one of my highest profile customer's? Hell no, I wrote this article with love". Then you go about to say how many people take away a lot from his event, and that if you are lacking love or the feeling of being enough, this event is for you. Then, "for a few days you will feel loved. For a few days you will feel like you are enough". Your bitter sarcasm is just oozing through your words in those statements. "Do you think I'm dumb enough to bash one of my highest profile customer's?" YES. YES, I think you are dumb enough to do that. And what's more is that I think you are dumb enough to at the very least, exaggerate the idea that Tony Robbins is even a customer of a business you claim to own.
Do I think you should have left his seminar after just 7 hours? No. Do I think you have a strong point for why you left his seminar after just 7 hours? No. Do I think you feel embarrassed and disappointed for walking out? Yes, and not just because you clearly admit that (and subsequently attempt to downplay those statements), but because you felt the need to almost therapeutically write this blog in perhaps an attempt to self-soothe and prove to somebody (yourself?) that you aren't a complete egocentric, stubborn-headed, insecure, out-of-touch individual who couldn't see past his own limitations to allow some much needed personal development and learning from a renowned expert.
Your friend who mn you quoted on the subject of quitting, sounds like a complete buffoon.
I hope for your sake one day you might grow up and begin to realize that nothing you havd accomplished in this life will ever make you exempt from learning more.
Customers not customer's...there's a couple other small typos from autocorrect that drive me nuts but i hit submit too fast before I had the chance to proof read. ?
Daaammnn.....good roast! ?
Way over-the top harsh and judgmental. And undeserved. He was merely sharing his impressions, not lashing out angrily like you are. Putting your total trust in someone else to sort you out doesn't make you the fount of all wisdom. There are some justifiable criticisms out there of courses like this (which I'm sure others here will go into). You need to keep an open mind - and not just to the guru who makes a fortune by using every tried and tested trick in the book to open up a few blocks in a controlled environment. You may well find that back in the real world we put those barriers back up because sometimes they're what help us survive.
I think you already knew Tonys work and techniques. You were hoping for something new and to get blown away but Tony's event actually worked brilliantly for you. You left early and you were motivated. You didn't need the whole event, you went off and did what you needed to do to set up a plan to move ahead. Tony's event fired you up so much you didn't need to see it all, you were ready to go.
I read awaken the giant 25 years ago and in some ways it was i believe life changing. I watch his youtube videos and they are inspirational. But i have nagging doubts. His own personal success is from selling his own advice not from some other added value. My brother is in his cult and attended his seminars among others and he is a flawed and harmful man and sometimes recited tony robbins catchphrases as he behaved like an entitled two year old. I admit I am not perfect either. I perceive beauty and value in tony robbins and his advice, but there is an essential truth that robbins wealth comes from selling you the idea that he can transform your life. While to some extent his advice is deeply powerful, it is definitely true that not all of his devotees are going to become millionaires, and while using his advice to grasp at your dreams you *might* or might not achieve them but you are definitely fulfilling *his* financial dreams.
But you attend Tony Robbins seminar. Learn something from it and even take some notes and use them. On top of that you claim a refund and go on to write all this to discourage others from interacting with him? You certainly benefitted! You have not shown any scientific evidence that what Tony's methods did not and do no work. I think it is unfair and better let people make their own judgments and let Tony do his work and help those who appreciate his service.