Comments on: Dating an Insecure Girl

By: Philippine Dating

Philippine Dating — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 09:15:16 +0000

Yup I agree that there are a lot of insecure girls there, most of them are really pretty.

By: Vincent

Vincent — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 03:54:23 +0000

Hey Matt,

I’ll see your stripper’s insecurities – and raise you to a call girl’s. Stupid me, thought I could help her with her problems. Yes I paid for her at first then we started going out… we of course had the eventual fight, and she just couldn’t recognize that everyone has fights… she thought I was just another “f-ed up” guy. Like I’m supposed to just go “ok” when she tells me she wants to get into porn…

Anyway, hope your experience was less draining then mine was. And here’s to normal girls!!!

Vincent

By: Mike Paahana

Mike Paahana — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 03:55:29 +0000

my gf is such a head case she would win the number 1 spot 4 being the most insecure, selfish girl in Hawaii

By: sri

sri — Wed, 02 May 2007 03:45:18 +0000

Joel,

Could it be ur 15 inch boner?

Im kidding. That sure sux.

By: joe

joe — Tue, 01 May 2007 23:28:16 +0000

interesting article. it makes an extremely difficult concept seem less so. i wonder if it is an “easier said than done” kind of issue, however.

about joel’s situation: have you ever considered that it’s not about fear, but rather about simplicity? much like the girl who will self-reject out of a relationship thereby eradiacting the possibility of it coming to it’s own natural demise, her choice to end the friendship could have been essentially her choice to eliminate the possibility of discomfit or misunderstanding. in the end, she valued her marriage over any potential problems – whether they would have happened or not, she didn’t give them the opportunity. it’s sad to think of simulaneously cutting oneself off to both disaster/failure and growth/success, “baby with the bathwater” and all, but i suppose that’s her choice.

By: Joel Mueller

Joel Mueller — Tue, 01 May 2007 21:55:57 +0000

I’ve been friends with a chic for over 12 years. A couple of years ago she got married to a guy who I know through mutual (trustworthy) friends. Recently I wanted to hang out with her at a small pub or even a coffee shop — do a 1-on-1 like back in the day when we could get real with each other.

Unfortunately, I got a message from her that she needs to protect her marriage and she fears hanging out with me could create issues between her and her husband.

Basically, she pulled trump on me, and the only avenue I can see that is respectful is to let her go — let our friendship go. After so many years of building up trust, this is what happens.

Now I sit and wonder what it was that created that fear in her. And why she went to such extremes. Is it her insecurities about herself around me? If so, I would never let her cross the line and disrespect her husband. Is it her husband, controlling her social situations with other guys? If so, it seems very strange, and his friends and also some of my friends — total respect in those circles. Is it me? Surely I haven’t crossed the line with her, and years and years of building up a solid friendship should speak volumes to……..insecurities?

Is fear rightfully being the controlling factor here?

By: andre nosalsky

andre nosalsky — Tue, 01 May 2007 19:57:38 +0000

” If her behavior changes, make sure to show your appreciation and respect for her growth.”

- Very good point Jon, reinforce what you want to see more of, and give her a negative feedback on the bad behavior.

By: matt snider

matt snider — Tue, 01 May 2007 17:09:27 +0000

Nice article… guys, if you want to feel really insecure, date a stripper. Nothing like a girl who shakes her naked ass to a bunch of horny guys every night, to make you feel like less than a man. Plus, strippers have more insecurities than a barrel of monkeys.