Comments on: Getting to the Meat http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/ A blog about marketing, online communities and other business musings. Come join the fun! Wed, 09 Nov 2011 02:14:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Shan ERIS http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-2/#comment-128579 Shan ERIS Tue, 07 Aug 2007 11:14:00 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-128579 How can I best remember you? How can I best remember you?

]]> By: Vera Devera http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-111743 Vera Devera Wed, 27 Jun 2007 20:06:26 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-111743 1) How do you know the host/organizer? 2) Have you been (here) before? 3) What do you do when you're not working? These questions can tell a lot about the person who connected you to others. I recently went to a party thinking the person I was talking to knew the host because she was a neighbor and it turned out they had met on e-Harmony ; she was the founder of an eco-travel company that delivers experiences with traditional medicine programs taught by indigenous healers in their native setting. Another came because he plays volleyball with the guy and yet another was in a support group with the host. Discovering these connections is why I love networking! :) 1) How do you know the host/organizer?
2) Have you been (here) before?
3) What do you do when you’re not working?

These questions can tell a lot about the person who connected you to others. I recently went to a party thinking the person I was talking to knew the host because she was a neighbor and it turned out they had met on e-Harmony ; she was the founder of an eco-travel company that delivers experiences with traditional medicine programs taught by indigenous healers in their native setting. Another came because he plays volleyball with the guy and yet another was in a support group with the host. Discovering these connections is why I love networking! :)

]]> By: Nii A, http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-111688 Nii A, Wed, 27 Jun 2007 17:06:50 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-111688 I'm too lazy to read through all of the comments. Cliffs? Good questions? I’m too lazy to read through all of the comments. Cliffs? Good questions?

]]> By: Great Conversation Starters - Noah Kagan’s Okdork.com http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-111205 Great Conversation Starters - Noah Kagan’s Okdork.com Tue, 26 Jun 2007 17:52:40 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-111205 [...] few weeks back I asked you how to get the Meat of a conversation. Well today you get two of my tips to actually start a [...] [...] few weeks back I asked you how to get the Meat of a conversation. Well today you get two of my tips to actually start a [...]

]]> By: zura http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-73524 zura Thu, 12 Apr 2007 13:11:54 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-73524 "Did you go to the HemisFair? “Did you go to the HemisFair?

]]> By: BRIAN TANNEBAUM http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-72068 BRIAN TANNEBAUM Mon, 09 Apr 2007 01:07:24 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-72068 "What's the best thing that happened to you recently?" “What’s the best thing that happened to you recently?”

]]> By: Joel Mueller http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-70544 Joel Mueller Thu, 05 Apr 2007 14:27:42 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-70544 If you're talking to a girl, open ended questions that use the word "feel" in them seem to keep them talking. So instead of "Did you like cookie monster on Seasame Street" (where the answer is "yes" or "no" and ends), or "Why did or didn't you like cookie monster on Seasame Street" (which gets you only one step further, tweaking the question with a positive lead statement and asking about feeling -- "I remember sitting with a twinkie in my hand and frosting on my nose, laughing as I watched cookie monster eat Elmo. How did those characters make you feel when you were young?" It helps lead the conversation into a positive by setting the pace yourself, and bypassing the quick answers that get the conversation stuck. If you’re talking to a girl, open ended questions that use the word “feel” in them seem to keep them talking. So instead of “Did you like cookie monster on Seasame Street” (where the answer is “yes” or “no” and ends), or “Why did or didn’t you like cookie monster on Seasame Street” (which gets you only one step further, tweaking the question with a positive lead statement and asking about feeling — “I remember sitting with a twinkie in my hand and frosting on my nose, laughing as I watched cookie monster eat Elmo. How did those characters make you feel when you were young?”

It helps lead the conversation into a positive by setting the pace yourself, and bypassing the quick answers that get the conversation stuck.

]]> By: pinecool http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-69940 pinecool Wed, 04 Apr 2007 15:30:09 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-69940 you WOULD ask about a dream garage, trollface! you WOULD ask about a dream garage, trollface!

]]> By: Dave McClure http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-69743 Dave McClure Wed, 04 Apr 2007 05:53:27 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-69743 i probably don't ask very interesting or poignant first questions, but if i thought about it & felt brave, i'd ask something like these: 1) When was the last time you cried, and why? 2) What (or who) makes you laugh? 3) Tell me about your favorite Sesame Street character. if you can actually ask those questions without sounding cheesy, you'll probably learn a lot about the other person. - dave ps - i liked the 'teach me something you know' idea... nice one. i probably don’t ask very interesting or poignant first questions, but if i thought about it & felt brave, i’d ask something like these:

1) When was the last time you cried, and why?
2) What (or who) makes you laugh?
3) Tell me about your favorite Sesame Street character.

if you can actually ask those questions without sounding cheesy, you’ll probably learn a lot about the other person.

- dave

ps – i liked the ‘teach me something you know’ idea… nice one.

]]> By: Bernadette B. http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/comment-page-1/#comment-69719 Bernadette B. Wed, 04 Apr 2007 04:45:30 +0000 http://okdork.com/2007/04/02/getting-to-the-meat/#comment-69719 Noah is avoiding the question of something meaningful! Noah is avoiding the question of something meaningful!

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