You are right, many people intends to turn dating in mind games. The most distressing fact is all of this sort of mind games are designated basically to make you appear like a typical perfect man, and we are not (fortunately) perfect men. I find most of this strategies very pathetic. Furthermore, if you think a little majority of this games are not necessary.

Moreover, most of this mind games suppose all the women are constantly analyzing all you say and they are able to ascertain how really you are and the kind of person you are with a few words of your own … don’t make me laugh. I don’t consider me as a mysterious or complicated person, but really is necessary more than one day, or one week, or one month to have a little idea about how i am. If you find a woman who thinks she can know the kind of person you are by chatting a little with you, you can be sure about she isn’t worth, it’s so simple.

Values like bravery, confidence, honour or honesty can’t be noticed in a 2 hour conversation in the disco, pub or restaurant. Don’t be naive.

If you are looking for some sex, you only have to get ready, go out, pay attention to the girls who look to you (forget any idea about “playboys”, they are just fame), smile at her and be nice, be yourself, feel good. Nowadays, a lot of girls are going out for some fun. Only think, we all like sex, men and women, and it’s stupid to deny it.

However, if you are looking for love, you only need to be patient. Love is really much more than mind games, and love requires time and efforts, hard work.

PS: Excuse my poor english, i’m spanish.

True….it’s viscous swamp of emotional peril, one in which many wade into and find themselves hopelessly mired. And for the vast majority of us, it’s one where our strikeouts greatly outnumber the times we get on base.

Still, it’s a necessary evil of the 21st century if you, like most, aspire to form lifelong bonds with a partner and raise a family.

There are few things in life that we relish that are free of cost. There are fewer things in life that are desired that we don’t have to compete for. And there are *very* few things that are truly fun….that aren’t just a little bit dangerous.

I was sitting at in a bar awhile ago, and a freind of mine (who at the time was a raging alchoholic), came up to me. He was half-blitzed and dying to tell me about some life altering quote that he’d just heard. It was the following:

“Dance like nobody’s watching;
love like you’ve never been hurt.
Sing like nobody’s listening;
live like it’s heaven on earth.”

I didn’t know whether to feel sorry for him or laugh out loud….

As for online dating. I have donr this myself and I have made a lot of friends as well as have dated people I met online including my current boyfriend. I think that use the internet and places like “MySpace” to get to know people. Take it slow and talk to them for a bit before you go out with them. I do have to admit that there are men in the world and especially online that believe that the internet is a way to “hook up” with someone. I personally used to hate that. Just because I am online it does not make me easy and NO ONE should be disrespected in that way.

Not everyone is going to be “Prince Charming” but I do believe in Soul mates and that there is one person out there for everyone.

It does take time to find that one though if we are lucky.

I do think that once you are in a relationship that you can not expect it to just be “peaches and cream” all the time. Relationships take work Hard work. You both have to work at keeping that spark there and being combatible. Bottom line if both parties are not interested in putting inthe effort then the relationship is bound to fail.

I think that when dating one should not focus on these “rules” but one should not ignore them either, they can be a playful way to dance until your ego lets down your guard.