Ask a Real Woman Questions

March 6, 2007 - Get free updates of new posts here

A previous post called 5 Tips for Geeks to Get Laid was quite popular. The author Bernadette thought we could do something different this time.

All geeks/nerds/dorks that are reading this can ask her any question and she will respond in next Tuesday’s post.

This may be a change for the likes of many Digg users, Facebook stalkers and other young professionals. A real woman is knocking on your door and you can find out all the secrets you have always wanted to know.

Opportunity does not knock twice. Please ask away…

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25 responses to “Ask a Real Woman Questions

  1. Damon Billian Reply

    Why do men have such a hard time figuring women out?

    Why are men more “loyal” friends than women?

    What do women REALLY want?

    Flowers or chocolate?

    A rich guy or someone you connect with?

    Should men be sensitive?

    Should men be insensitive?

    Why do women like the bad guy more than the nice guy?

    What things really upset a woman?

    Some may consider me a geek. But I really don’t have a problem getting laid;-)

  2. SusanJones (SixGunSusie) Reply

    I’ve not been dubbed a real woman, I’ll take liberty however….

    Because they are men.

    um, do you like women?

    duh.

    both.

    both.

    of course.

    see above.

    duh.

    man things.

    Really…wow, so, how come you posted questions?

    heeeeeeeeeeeeeeee………..

  3. Damon Billian Reply

    “Really…wow, so, how come you posted questions?”

    Because Noah is a friend;-) I believe in supporting his blogging endeavors & thought that it was a fun topic. Noah should also do a flip thing for woman to ask men questions.

  4. Noah Kagan Reply

    This was one of those posts that I wondered if my “audience/readers/friends” wanted to be reading/receiving… I guess that is TBA. I just thought it was fun and I like fun. I appreciate the support Damon:)

  5. Once Upon a Time Contributor Reply

    I’ve never received good dating advice from women, even the ones who promise to be upfront and brutal. Despite their best intentions, they’ll only answer how they idealize their kind, at best (at worst, they’ll try and let you down easy).

    Want to know how women work? Watch them with someone else. Take a step back and stop worrying about how they perceive you and see how they perceive others. What do they like in that jock (stop being jealous: It won’t make you magically trade places with him), or what turns them off in the pasty nerd.

    Or better yet, watch when the jock gets rejected and the nerd gets the girl: Anyone can do it, if you watch and learn their tricks at appearing confident, of not taking the girls or themselves too seriously.

  6. Mike Reply

    I’ve got a question. How are you supposed to approach a woman you don’t even remotely know while still appearing inconspicuous? For example, there’s this girl I’ve been interested in lately. I see her from time to time on campus, but she’s always either surrounded by her friends or sitting alone (and far out of the way) in a nearby computer lab.

    A lot of people would simply suggest “just go up and talk to her”. See, I could do that if I wanted, but I have absolutely no reason to go and talk to her other than the fact that I like her. By that I mean that since we have no tangible common ground (like sharing a class or having a mutual friend) to base a conversation on, it’s going to be immediately apparent to her that the only reason I’m speaking to her is because I’m interested in her (especially since she places herself purposefully in places where it would be extremely awkward to approach her). Because of that, I’m afraid her defenses may go up and instead of seeing me as a guy who’s genuinely attracted to her personality she may immediately pass me off as some guy who’s just trying to get in her pants.

    In other words, she’s basically unapproachable. But I like her a lot because, even without talking to her, I can tell we share a lot of the same interests. The way she dresses and the things written on her shirts, things I’ve heard her talking about, etc. We both live in an area where nerds/geeks are too few and far between, and the last thing I want is to blow my chances with the one girl who seems similarly minded. All the other girls are so completely different that it’s rare I find someone like myself.

    So how can I approach her without screwing up? Any suggestions? I’d be eternally grateful.

    -Mike

  7. Bernadette Balla Reply

    Mike-

    First of all, before going up to talk to her. Make sure she knows you exist. What i mean is that make sure you had eye contact with her. If she glances at you, and you had eye contact with a stranger, you can basically tell if they are interested or not. That usually gives you the green light whether she is interested and whether you should approach her.

  8. Bernadette Balla Reply

    To Damon-
    (incase you need to know still)

    Why do men have such a hard time figuring women out?

    BECAUSE WOMEN DO NOT LIKE TO TELL MEN WHAT THEY LIKE AND THEY WANT THEM TO TAKE THE INITIATIVE TO FIND OUT. FOR EXAMPLE : INSTEAD OF ASKING A WOMAN WHAT SHE WANT FOR HER BIRTHDAY, ASK HER FRIENDS BECAUSE SHE IS MORE LIKELY TO TELL HER FRIENDS AND WISHES THAT YOU WILL ASK THEM AND GET HER WHAT SHE WANTS.

    Why are men more “loyal� friends than women?
    BECAUSE WOMEN ARE COMPETITIVE AND CATTY AND AFRAID A YOUNGER/ MORE BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WILL STEAL THEIR BOYFRIENDS/ HUSBANDS/ AFFAIRS/ FUCK BUDDIES, ETC.

    What do women REALLY want? WOMEN WANT MEN TO BE SENSITIVE TO THEIR EMOTIONS.

    Flowers or chocolate? WHAT DO YOU MEAN OR? BOTH!

    A rich guy or someone you connect with? EASY, SOMEONE TO CONNECT WITH.

    Should men be sensitive? YES

    Should men be insensitive? YES, BECAUSE WOMEN LIKE TO TELL THEIR GIRLFRIENDS “HE IS SO INSENSITIVE.”

    Why do women like the bad guy more than the nice guy? THE SEX IS PERCEIVED AS GREAT. ( i like nice guys tho).

    What things really upset a woman? WHEN YOU IGNORE HER PRESENCE.

  9. Justin Reply

    I just found this post. In response to Mike’s situation, there are a few things you can do. The first thing you need to remember when you approach a girl is to not hit on her right away. That’s what every loser does, and its creepy. Good looking girls get hit on 3-5 times a day, so you can’t do the same thing every other guy is doing.

    I remember Noah posted something on here about he read The Game by Neil Strauss. Great book. One of the main things he talks about is coming in under the radar when you first talk to girls by asking them for something simple like an opinion on something. Just act like you’re on your phone as you walk by her, hang up and say something like “hey my friend alyssa and I were just having a convo about lying. Who do you think lies more guys or girls?” The point of this isnt to hit on the girl, its just to get two strangers talking. From there, my experience is you are best off teasing her for a bit. Bust on her for something she’s wearing or something she said. Don’t insult her, but be playful. Treat her the same way you would treat your little sister. If she’s with her friends don’t focus on her. You have to win over the group before you can win over one person. She’ll feel very creeped out if you just isolate her and talk directly at her.

    From there you can take the convo anywhere. Give your opinion on the topic. What most people don’t understand is that what you say doesnt matter as much as your body language and your delivery. If you can drop some subtle hints without bragging that you’re a cool guy (hang out with girls, money, adventurous) it will help a lot as well.

    This is long winded already, but if you’ve never read The Game, do it. There are some amazing insights into how men who are successful with women do it. At the surface the book is about picking up women, but at its core it’s more about being your best self. I highly recommend it for anyone who doesn’t understand “game” inside and out already.

    I’ll stop there. Email me if you want any more info. I like talking about this kind of stuff 😉

  10. kris Reply

    hi there

    is it wrong to like someone in your family more than a family member
    and if they flirt with ya what should u do.
    Cos hey wot people dont no cant hurt dem right???
    Plz help

  11. Bernadette B. Reply

    Kris.
    It is not wrong to like someone in your family more than a family member. We are all human beings and we are guided with our emotions. Eventually though, we all have to be sure the consequences of the actions we will take according to our emotions. Are you sure you want to flirt too much with a family member? That might head into actions far more than flirting. You know where i am going. What people don’t know won’t hurt them is not a good reason to do anything. Remember there is karma and remember that honesty is still the best policy. Before you take any actions, remember, what would you think or do if another family member instead of you are in this position?

    If you want my answer straight forwardly, i suggest:
    a) tell the family member that you are aware that both of you are flirting with each other.

    b) tell them you need sometime apart/ distance to really think about the consequences of this.

  12. Will-a Reply

    I’m using all these hints as an inspiration to just talk to this girl who shares a class in school with me. However, I’m thinking I’m going to say, “Hey, I was wondering what your name is.” *smile and look away* Then . . hmm. . . these posts convinced me that saying “I think your very beautiful” is played out, it might make her feel isolated. So I’m going to say, “i saw u in the hallways a few times and wanted to say something.” . . throw in . . “what grade are you in?” then get back to classs. and then the following day or later on, get a number. 🙂 Thanks for all ur thoughts on this issue; the internet is a beautiful thing. Will-A

  13. yoshi Reply

    am not a geeks/nerds/dorks/loser. am a football player,i work out 3 times a week, i bench 160lbs, i use to be a model in my old school. and with all of this am a very nice guy i want somthing most other guys don’t, i want compainship, someone i can relate and talk to. am 17 years old, and i never had a girlfriend in my life. i fuckedup my relationship with almost every female within the first or second week of meeting them. any advices?

  14. gator Reply

    Me and my girlfriend of 14months were to me for a few drinks after work. She got to the bar before me. When i walked in i saw her sitting uncomfortably close to this guy. I walked up didnt comment but my expression said it all. A while later i excuse myself (bathroom break) When i return ( a little faster than they planned) i see her leaning in his ear …i dont know what was said but i didnt like the way it looked. now im pissed. That evening i confront her about it and she lies til she is blue in the face. This is not the 1st time a similar situation has happened ; but i really try to forgive and forget. 3 days later there are texts in her phone talking about meeting him . Why would she blatantly disrespect me in my face then lie like a rug about it. if the tables were turned SHE WOULD HAVE BUSTED THE WINDOWS OUT MY CAR!. do you think she has gone as far to cheat on me . She has already proved to be a liar.

  15. Vi Madonna Reply

    Well, hang on. She doesn’t say who she’s dating. She could be dating a troll under the bridge for all we know, not some hot piece of ass. And hot or not, the man is complicit in this. The only difference is that she’s gone public.Report this comment as spam or abuse