16 Responses to “How not to Be.”

• Adam
  December 21st, 2006
  4:09 pm
  
  

  Wow dude, that’s garbage…what a dick move. I think you should take Anonymous IM off of your buddy list because they clearly are not your friend.

• kareem
  December 21st, 2006
  5:18 pm
  
  

  that’s lame, buddy. you should send the dude a copy of never eat alone!

• Brian Balfour
  December 21st, 2006
  6:35 pm
  
  

  If its the event I think you are working on, I might be able to put you in contact with a couple people. Just email me.

• Susan Jones
  December 21st, 2006
  10:39 pm
  
  

  Shallow.

• hollyster
  December 22nd, 2006
  10:41 am
  
  

  unhelpful people are no fun, esp. if it’s a low effort to help

• Jason H.
  December 22nd, 2006
  1:55 pm
  
  

  My favorite quote:

  “you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed” ~ Napoleon Hill

  btw, love the book Never Eat Alone

• Kevin Henney
  December 22nd, 2006
  1:58 pm
  
  

  Wow. Some people just don’t understand the value of helping others. A little effort expended to help someone else succeed usually pays off for everyone. Over the long run, I think I’ve benefited more from the favors I’ve done than from anything else.

• Ted Rheingold
  December 22nd, 2006
  4:07 pm
  
  

  reminds me I have a couple intro to make for you!

• Brian
  December 22nd, 2006
  9:43 pm
  
  

  Send him a lump of cole for xmas.

• Mehul Patel
  December 26th, 2006
  2:50 am
  
  

  Helping your friends and family is the only way to experience joy and happiness, even if they won’t or can’t help, we must help in any and everyway we can

• Colin McDougall
  December 26th, 2006
  12:51 pm
  
  

  Noah - It’s nice to see others who believe in a world of abundance.

  Hey, you can leverage my contacts any day!

  Let’s go create a bigger pie. I am working on some new projects and have a media mention coming in the new year.

  My slice of pie has been increased and I like to share

• Luke
  December 27th, 2006
  9:44 am
  
  

  I don’t like the word “leverage” here, basically because it communicates a drastic difference of some kind (in this case, social/business value). Also, think about what makes a lever useful: you get a big long “lever arm” on one side and a very short one on the other side and then you can make something happen. So, aside from being offended that this guy would imply that my friend Noah is of significantly less relative value than whoever his contacts are, I also want to point out that the use of this term in this context is assinine in another way: both sides of a lever (the long AND the short one) need to exist in order for the work to get done, and it’s the short side that really does all the hard “work”.

  In other words, Noah’s a huge pimp that is doing and will continue to do big things and therefore is a valuable contact for ANYONE to have. Secondly, it’s no skin off the other person’s nose to give Noah a call, and thirdly Noah is a smart and talented enough guy to make sure that he gets all the hard work done and that whoever helped him get there receives mad props and will consequently want to do so again in the future.

  If this person doesn’t think you are worth connecting with others - why does he or she waste their time being connected with you?….

• someone
  December 27th, 2006
  12:42 pm
  
  

  hey dudes,

  in the spirit of giving, could you please post your rolodex in this space. no? can you put one contact you think everyone here should have? cat got your tongue? but seriously, you really don’t see the point the anonymous was making? would not a better way to get access to something be an offer to do or give something in exchange for something else? i give and i give and i give, did i get something else? NO!

• Jason Alba
  February 10th, 2007
  5:00 pm
  
  

  I am late to this dialogue, came from the Never Eat Alone blog - I remember the story in chapter 2… and here’s what I think.

  Its hard to give all the time, especially when the people you give to (make introductions) don’t appreciate it. Its hard when you make an introduction and have the dialogue go south because people don’t know how to communicate.

  But I think that these people that don’t give at all are missing out on a super-huge opportunity. When you hook two people up, and those two people have a mutually beneficial relationship, its a fact that they are together because you hooked them up.

  You get more value out of your relationships by being a proactive “power connector” (see the book) than a quiet contact that is hoarding your contacts … so here’s my epiphany - if you want value out of your network, figure how to give. Giving doesn’t leave you with nothing - giving makes you more valuable!!

• David
  February 25th, 2007
  7:05 pm
  
  

  I would like to hear more about your project.

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