I am working on something super top secret that I will announce in 2 weeks but I wanted to talk about something that happened related to it last week. What I am working on requires people. I am reaching out to friends, pseudo-friends and friends of friends in helping me move forward on making something magical happen. Here is the incident from last week:
Noah Kagan: Oh you are the greatest. Do you have any suggestions about companies that we can work with?
Anonymous IM: Yes, you should contact X.
Noah Kagan: You rock my world. Is there anyone there you can introduce us to?
Anonymous IM: I don’t want to leverage my contacts for your event
I honestly couldn’t believe someone would type that. I was okay if they didn’t know me well enough to help and said I am sorry I don’t have a strong enough connection or any other excuse.
The experience reminded me of a great story in Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi which talked about when a person asked a music executive friend for an introduction and the exec said “I can’t introduce you because I only get 1 favor from that person you want to meet and I need to save it for something special.” Do you know what the outcome of that executive was? Not good.
Bottomline: Helping others always helps yourself. It makes you look good if you setup a meeting that is successful. This person who can’t “leverage,” thought the pie was only 10 inches around and they wanted their slice. In reality they were going to increase the size of the entire pie and get a larger piece for themselves in the future.