I just started my new position and within the 3 days I have less time to talk on phone, email friends and be on time for things I planned. Yea it sucks and yes making more time is the answer. But I started wondering what things should you do in business and in life to create and maintain (something people forget) successful friendships.
1- Follow-Up: This is an easy thing for business and personal but SO neglected and SO powerful. If you say you are going to do something DO IT. I admit I am not perfect at this but I try so do as I say not as I do 🙂
2- Connect: Life comes down to relationships and human interaction. Meeting interesting and new people is a great blessing that you can share with your friends. I find this very useful and appreciate getting introduced to new people.
3- Spoil: Not like the red-headed step child but give your friends gifts. Be considerate of their birthday and listen to what they say. For instance, my gf likes chocolate flourless cake and told me this in passing a year ago or so. I remembered and was at a chocolate place this weekend and bought it for her specially since she had wisdom teeth pulled. That type of consideration is priceless. Note: I keep an ongoing list for all friends in my palm pilot about things they like and want…
4- Birthdays: I am going to be specific since this day is the holy MECCA of relationships. Bud did it for Gordon in Wall Street and make sure you do this FOR ALL your friends. It is really nice even just an email or a present on that special day.
5- Hang-Out: Just cause you met someone you have fantasized about for a long time is not beneficial. Make sure to continue that friendship through drinking, bowling or whatever common activities. And if you need to know how to turn a bad day into a good day, just start by spending time with friends.
6- DO NOT BE FAKE: I hate sharing small talk and people pretending to be interested in me or acting like they are so happy about something. Be yourself, plain and simple.
7- Stop reading this entry: Seriously, you should always be socializing, messaging or communicating with a friend. The more I write this the more I realize there SHOULD NOT be a set way to be a good friend. It comes down to the way you interact with different people. My thoughts are you CAN find something interesting about everybody so do it.
This is part of a Series on Relationships: